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I want to be vegetarian (there's no meat at my plce apart from two fish products I haven't touched - sardines and tuna). Now when I visit my dad he ALWAYS has meat and I don't at mine... but would it be better if he visits my place so I can continue to be vegetarian there? I was meat-free for 5 days yesterday and I'm 8 days free of fish). What's the point in going three months meat free, eating meat, say going one month meat free and then eating meat again at my dads? What do I do? :/
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You're old enough to have your own place and your own food. You say your dad doesn't tell you what to do about other things. why does it matter where you are? If you visit your dad and food is an issue bring your own.
I make it a habit to bring bags of nuts, crackers, maybe some fruit, when I go places and can't be sure if they'll be something to eat for me.
It's something you need to be a habit, saying no to others food. You can't control what they do, you can control what you do.
When someone knows you don't eat meat and acts as though YOU're being rude to turn it down, it's them that are being rude
You're old enough to have your own place and your own food. You say your dad doesn't tell you what to do about other things. why does it matter where you are? If you visit your dad and food is an issue bring your own.
I make it a habit to bring bags of nuts, crackers, maybe some fruit, when I go places and can't be sure if they'll be something to eat for me.
It's something you need to be a habit, saying no to others food. You can't control what they do, you can control what you do.
When someone knows you don't eat meat and acts as though YOU're being rude to turn it down, it's them that are being rude
My mum supports me and I see more of her anyway. :) And I agree with you here. :) I'll be getting fruit soon. :)
Don't eat meat at your dad's place? Who says you have to? Is your father going to give you a beating if you don't? I'm guessing not if you are old enough to have your own place.

What exactly is so difficult about turning down food? Just say "no, thanks". If you want to be vegetarian, you need to end that mentality that it's rude to turn down food. It's not. You shouldn't feel obliged to eat something you don't want to.
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Don't eat meat at your dad's place? Who says you have to? Is your father going to give you a beating if you don't? I'm guessing not if you are old enough to have your own place.

What exactly is so difficult about turning down food? Just say "no, thanks". If you want to be vegetarian, you need to end that mentality that it's rude to turn down food. It's not. You shouldn't feel obliged to eat something you don't want to.
I'm 23 and yeah, true. =[ I feel like crying... :(

It's MUCH easier to be vegetarian at my place when I'm cooking... and deciding what to do have rather than what my dad gives me. FFS. I don't feel ashamed of what Jenn told me almost a year ago... the issue really is this at the moment. :( What would the situation be if my dad was veggie too?

My dad's really pissing me off >_< =[ Why is it "different" when around vegetarians/non meat eaters versus meat eaters?
My mum doesn't eat meat. She supports me...
A good first step, if you really want to be vegetarian, would be to stop blaming others for your decisions as to what you put in your mouth. You're an adult. No one is forcing you to eat meat, so stop acting as though it's your dad's fault when you eat meat.
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A good first step, if you really want to be vegetarian, would be to stop blaming others for your decisions as to what you put in your mouth. You're an adult. No one is forcing you to eat meat, so stop acting as though it's your dad's fault when you eat meat.
I don't get how I "don't want to" eat meat but I did earlier. :(
I'm 23 and yeah, true. =[ I feel like crying... :(

It's MUCH easier to be vegetarian at my place when I'm cooking... and deciding what to do have rather than what my dad gives me. FFS. I don't feel ashamed of what Jenn told me almost a year ago... the issue really is this at the moment. :(
You are the same age as me. I stopped eating meat when I was 20. When I first told my family I wasn't going to eat meat at all anymore, it was kind of a shock to them (I was already only eating fish at the time, but I guess they never really expected me to stop eating fish). And yes, I heard the usual "you are going to get sick", etc. kind of stuff for a couple days. I set my foot down, and eventually they got used to it. My family got used to it pretty quick, your dad may take longer, but he will eventually. Also, even after you tell him you are vegetarian, expect him to still offer you meat. Just say "no".
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I don't get how I "don't want to" eat meat but I did earlier. :(
Well, you're going to have to find the answer to why you eat meat, yet profess to not wanting to eat meat, within yourself. You're not going to find the answer to that on the internet.
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Well, you're going to have to find the answer to why you eat meat, yet profess to not wanting to eat meat, within yourself. You're not going to find the answer to that on the internet.
Could he accept it when he's at my place but when I'm over his place he doesn't? I'm not sure.
I don't get how I "don't want to" eat meat but I did earlier. :(
Well... be honest with yourself. Is the reason why you plan to eat meat at your dad's place because you don't want to be rude, or is it really because you are having a hard time eliminating meat completely from your diet?
Well... be honest with yourself. Is the reason why you plan to eat meat at your dad's place because you don't want to be rude, or is it really because you are having a hard time eliminating meat completely from your diet?
The first. The last time I ate meat (before this) was at his. At mine I haven't touched fish since the 17th (the last time I ate fish). I gave fish up on the 17th.
Well... be honest with yourself. Is the reason why you plan to eat meat at your dad's place because you don't want to be rude, or is it really because you are having a hard time eliminating meat completely from your diet?
I've planned NOT to eat meat at my place. :)
I'm still 8 days clean of eating fish (regardless of eating meat earlier). That's more than my dad can go without smoking.
"Define the reason you truly believe you want to become vegetarian. I know you said "because it's morally wrong", but you probably think rape and murder is morally wrong too, and aren't too weak to refrain from that. So that's probably not quite the reason.

Is it to impress people? Do you have friends that you admire for making the commitment? Is it that you just want to be a better person? There's no wrong reason, there's just different motivating factors so try to understand what it is.

Got your factor? Now reinforce your decision. Ethical friends that impress you? Hang out with them more. Trying to impress people? Invite your friends over to show off your mad veggie cooking skills.Even if you're a neo-NAZI, you could read up on why Hitler was vegetarian. The important thing is to find material, people, and friends to support your beliefs.

And relax! If you're doing it for yourself, there's no pressure. Take as long as you need too, and don't beat yourself up over any slip ups. Later with a few setbacks is better than never. Good luck!"

True.
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"Don't think about what you're giving up! Nobody likes to "give up" anything, look for the positives of eating vegetarian. The amazing variety, tastes, and nutritional value in vegetarian cuisine is astonishing. Explore! Find your favorites! You will find that just having the intention to go towards something better for you will let the old habits fade away.

When you have a vegetarian meal, use your senses to fully enjoy it. Feel the difference of eating vegetarian that comes in time: the lightness, clarity, ease of digestion, clearing sinuses, uncoated tongue, and if you're using spices correctly you should also notice stronger immune system.

Getting clean of all effects of meat takes quite a long time and produces a real difference in how you feel and transformation in how your body deals with food. If you find that after awhile you have a craving for some meat, take some, don't fret about it. You're probably not transitioned fully yet. You'll get a reminder of what it was like by the effect. I still like the smell of bacon after 40 years but I wouldn't eat that greasy stuff again. Hot dogs and burger are a disgusting smell to me now, and even just a modest amount of meat could actually make me sick. I know, someone snuck some in once, said it had no meat, but it did.

Do not give up dairy products (well, except old hard cheeses and highly processed stuff). You need the calcium, fat, and vitamin B12 dairy provides. Otherwise you should take B12 supplements. And the fat is needed for the brain and other functions which meat had been supplying. Remember, you started out life with milk (if you were lucky), dairy products are not the same as eating meat. Eating meat and dairy together is not good. The Jewish prohibition of mixing the two has some basis (no I'm not Jewish). Favor fresh dairy. Also take "probiotic" products like yogurt to help build up your good gut bacteria which is synergistically important for absorption and assimilation, especially when so much food is contaminated with glyphosate and other pesticides that kill good bacteria. Organic dairy is best, it won't have the awful rBGH hormones in it.

You should know that even conventional grain crops are now being sprayed with Roundup (glyphosate) just before harvest to uniformly "ripen" (kill) the plants. That means there is really little chance to wash off the pesticide residue, it goes right into the mill, into the flours like wheat and oats and barley that go into cakes, donuts, cereals, and so much more. The World Health Organization recently declared glyphosate as "probably carcinogenic." Organic is a far safer bet.

Be sure to explore the world of spices and how to use them properly. Meat dishes use very few spices whereas vegetarian food has immense variety and possibilities. The best place to look for spicing is Indian vegetarian. It's a garden of delights and has a long tradition of knowledge of their benefits. Spices supply not only tastes but also nutrients and unique chemistries that can actually boost your health and help with absorption of nutrients. Fresh ginger—marvelous stuff. Turmeric—miraculous benefits! Cumin—gets your appetite fired up. Fennel—sweet digestive. So much more awaits you. There are many Indian styles of vegetarian cooking and many cookbooks and resources. I've used the Hari Krishna cookbook. I don't recommend their chanting practices or religious beliefs but they sure do know good Indian food.

So enjoy yourself going vegetarian. You'll soon enough forget about craving meats and eventually will find meat disgusting even without thinking about where it comes from, or the price."
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You are the same age as me. I stopped eating meat when I was 20. When I first told my family I wasn't going to eat meat at all anymore, it was kind of a shock to them (I was already only eating fish at the time, but I guess they never really expected me to stop eating fish). And yes, I heard the usual "you are going to get sick", etc. kind of stuff for a couple days. I set my foot down, and eventually they got used to it. My family got used to it pretty quick, your dad may take longer, but he will eventually. Also, even after you tell him you are vegetarian, expect him to still offer you meat. Just say "no".
I guess the only way for him to be able to offer me meat is if I don't go to his house.
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