I originally thought he was just a quirky/weird scientist but hes really freaking me out. Hes severely disorganized and imo tends to waste a lot of time. Hes sloppy, his office and lab are in shambles and I'm constantly trying to keep him and the lab organized. It takes us hours to get into work mode when together. Last Wednesday he screamed at me over the phone. It didnt have anything to do with me; he was stressed out (so I thought) and did apologize. He works two f/t jobs as a guest director for a laboratory in NYC and a prof/researcher at my university in MA, so I figured its no wonder that hes stressed as anyone would be. I blew it off and told him not to worry about it, tho now Im wondering if hes just nuts...his other phd student is convinced that he has some serious issues.
Last month I told him I would not be available to work with him this past weekend because I had a friend flying in from out of state but I offered to work extra hours during the week to make up for lost time. I bugged him all month about prepping ourselves for the coming weeks but he pretty much just got annoyed when ever I mentioned it. So, this weekend comes, he of course forgets that I wont be working and asks me to come in anyway. I drive up there with my friend and what do I do while there? Nothing. It was a total waste of time. Then, while hes in the lab, he breaks a piece of equipment that belongs to another prof and actually tries to blame me because I used it last week. Im very careful with all the equipment I use. I cant imagine breaking glass and not noticing it. I think he did it and is just insanely trying to blame me because hes afraid hes going to piss off this other prof because he uses stuff that belongs to this guy without permission all the time. The piece of equipment he broke belongs to my graduate advisor so this is not good for me and now Im stressed. Its looking like a whole lot of drama to me but maybe Im just making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Sorry for the long post.
Im thinking of either sitting down with him or writing an email to set up some well defined boundaries. Should I do so? I dont want to ruin what I have going on here because I need his letter of recommendation when I look for a job next year. Should I tell my graduate advisor that I think my boss is lying and full of it? Or should I just let it go? I fear that if I tell my advisor the truth (as I see it) that it might create even more drama and I dont want that. I don't know what to do tho I feel like running away lol.
Last month I told him I would not be available to work with him this past weekend because I had a friend flying in from out of state but I offered to work extra hours during the week to make up for lost time. I bugged him all month about prepping ourselves for the coming weeks but he pretty much just got annoyed when ever I mentioned it. So, this weekend comes, he of course forgets that I wont be working and asks me to come in anyway. I drive up there with my friend and what do I do while there? Nothing. It was a total waste of time. Then, while hes in the lab, he breaks a piece of equipment that belongs to another prof and actually tries to blame me because I used it last week. Im very careful with all the equipment I use. I cant imagine breaking glass and not noticing it. I think he did it and is just insanely trying to blame me because hes afraid hes going to piss off this other prof because he uses stuff that belongs to this guy without permission all the time. The piece of equipment he broke belongs to my graduate advisor so this is not good for me and now Im stressed. Its looking like a whole lot of drama to me but maybe Im just making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Sorry for the long post.
Im thinking of either sitting down with him or writing an email to set up some well defined boundaries. Should I do so? I dont want to ruin what I have going on here because I need his letter of recommendation when I look for a job next year. Should I tell my graduate advisor that I think my boss is lying and full of it? Or should I just let it go? I fear that if I tell my advisor the truth (as I see it) that it might create even more drama and I dont want that. I don't know what to do tho I feel like running away lol.