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Okay. So I know this could go in the "new to veg" section, but I wanted to get the input of you who are already veg*n. If you are a teen or were a teen when you became a vegetarian, what did you tell your parents? Mine don't seem to support me. I decided to "wean" my mother:<br><br>
When I first began my veg-quest, as I like to call it, it was for health, not ethical, reasons. I did not feel my best when I ate beef, so I told my mom it simply made me feel sick. She continued making it, even with dishes that she could easily convert. I simply did not eat dinner with my family. When she made me dishes, I dumped them down the sink when she left the kitchen. I have gotten better about it, though. I told her I won't eat beef or pork. We do not have pork often, if ever, in our house, so it was easy to get by without eating that.<br><br>
Veganism wouldn't be too hard for me: I have not eaten beef or pork for seven months. The last time I ate fish was years ago (I hate it anyway), I stopped drinking milk at age eleven, and I haven't eaten eggs for a good year. My mother simply thinks I'm a "picky eater" -- too bad she doesn't get that I'm a wannabe vegetarian.<br><br>
Basically, I have wanted to become a vegetarian for months. Last night, I watched "Meet Your Meat" and some other PETA stuff. They can be pretty biased, but the video footage doesn't lie. Those innocent animals are being tortured and killed. I decided last night I will never eat meat again--I'm going vegan.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/broccoli.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":bobo:"> I have to cut out chicken, turkey, and cheese--the only hard part will be cheese--and I just want my mom to understand without feeling like I'm undermining her cooking skills.<br><br><br><br><div style="text-align:center;">
<div style="text-align:left;"><b><span style="font-size:large;"><span><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Mainly: How can I tell my mom I want to go vegan?</span></span></span></b></div>
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Well I was was not a teen when I become veg so I cant offer advice in that area . I dont know your age but if you are still a teen you could post in the teen board ... are heaps there , that have gone through what you have .<br><br><br><br>
You might have to bring it all out in the open soon , do you have a relative that could sit down with you and your mum , even if they were a neutral while you talked through the issue . Do you cook ...cook your own , if not learn<br><br><br><br>
The one thing that comes up in your post is that your diet does not appear what it should be , being a veg/an is not just living on veggies and bread . The book suggestion in the previous post would be a good start , You could point out a good recipe to your mum to both try and cook together .There are heaps on the recipe board simple and nice<br><br><br><br>
You certainly know the direction you want to go<br><br><br><br>
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maybe she's not supportive because you haven't actually told her...?<br><br>
You have to not keep avoiding the issue and just tell her. She may not be supportive at first, but it will be easier if you just go ahead and let her know you want to be vegan, let her know why, and show her you're sticking to it. Offer to cook your own meals, and meals for the family. Help her with the shopping and the washing up. The easier you make it for her, the more accepting she will be.<br><br><br><br>
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I think if you are firm about what you want, it's easier for the parents to understand. When I first told my mum I wanted to go veggie (I was 11 at the time) my mum just smiled and served me meat for tea, I guess she thought I was just saying it, so I had to run upstairs and find some info on veggie sites and then explain to my mum what I wanted and why, and after that she accepted it. I think a lot of parents veiw veg*anism as a "stage" you go through, not a life style choice. I think it's important to explain to them that it means a lot to you and you will continue it forever not just for a month or so.<br><br><br><br>
I think ordering books on being a teenager vegetarian (my parents had this idea that because I was a female teenager normal nutrition didn't apply to me and I consiquently needed meat dispite what the websites said) and "go vegetarian" or "start up vegetarian" packs online can help too, even if you don't need them it can help your parents a lot. Mine certainly benifited from it! You can find them on loads of veggie sites <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> they tend to cover a lot of the questions people who are already veggie or have been thinking about it for some time think are obvious etc, and give clear omni-friendly answers! lol<br><br><br><br>
That's all I have to say really, oh and don't lose hope. When I first went veggie my mum used to do all sorts of stupid things like wave bacon at me and say "Mmm? don't you want some? go on! I wont tell anyone!" or rant at me about how I wasn't getting enough protine - now she's vegetarian too! Along with my dad AND my brother ! Horray!<br><br><br><br>
Oh and also, if you are going to cook meals I find it's helpful to cook really delicious meals, and then your parents can start to see that vegetarian food isn't bland and un nutritional and they start to want some themselves - which can also mean they start cooking it for you! :p<br><br><br><br>
Good luck! xx
 

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<b>kpickell</b> -- thanks, i'll look at the library for that book! =]<br><br><br><br><b>blusand</b> -- i'll check out that teen section, i just found it last night. thanks!<br><br><br><br><b>isowish</b> -- you're right, it's probably because i haven't actually told her...I should get on that but it's kinda scary O__o i'll overcome my fears over the next few days =]<br><br><br><br><b>Identity_thief</b> -- thanks so much for all the info. i'll make sure to make the first veg meal my parents eat DELICIOUS. ;]
 

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Read read READ! <i>Becoming Vegetarian</i> is a great book, I'm working my way through it right now. <i>The Vegetarian Female</i> by Anika Avery-Grant is also a very informative book worth reading. A lot of vegetarian websites have "Vegetarian Starter Kits" (pamphlets) that are free, definitely look into that. Do all the research you can, and then tell your parents in a mature way. Mine weren't very understanding at first (I had been saying it since age 7 but didn't start doing research and being more active in my decision until high school), but the information you acquire (and hopefully put to use!) will not only benefit your health, but it definitely might make your parents realize that you are serious about becoming veg*an and be a bit more supportive.<br><br><br><br>
Making your own meals can sometimes be hard (especially if you have a family that sits down to dinner every night) but you might suggest cooking a vegetarian meal for your family one night of the week, or help your mom with meals (so you might be able to sneakily cook something for yourself as well <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/naughty.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":naughty:"> ). Luckily, my teen years were very busy and we pretty much had to fend for ourselves for dinner, so it wasn't much of a problem for me.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck with telling your parents! Even if they aren't so supportive, remember that you've got us here to talk to, and definitely keep trying. They'll crack one day (either that, or you'll be off to school/out on your own <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> )
 

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You didn't mention whether your mom is a working mom. If so, she just may feel that your vegetarianism is "one more thing to deal with" in her overloaded world. In that case, offering to do some of the cooking, shopping and cleaning in return for her modifying your meals might go a long way towards garnering her support, especially if you followed up on your promises.
 

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When I finally decided to act on my wanting to be a veg*an, I told my mom while we were shopping for food that I was going to stop eating meat for a month. She accepted that, and after that month was up, I told her that I had decided to keep not eating meat. The rest of my family didn't take it that well, but now they're pretty used to it.<br><br>
The only setback is that I can't sit down and eat dinner with my family. Even looking at the dead animal sitting there on their plates makes me a bit nauseous.<br><br>
I would sit down and talk to her after getting some info. I made sure I researched it before I talked to my mom about it, so I at least could answer some of the questions she was going to ask.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>kpickell</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Get the book Becoming Vegetarian (you should read it anyways) and let your mom catch you reading it.</div>
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i think that is a great idea. I became a vegetarian when I was 19. Only 5 months ago. Now I'm 20. My mom still hates the idea. I broke it to her that I decided to go vegetarian for a little while. I just wanted to see what it would be like. She thought it was a temporary idea. Well, after 1 month she could see that I wasn't letting up or hating it. We still have our moments about my lifestyle. she still hates it. i don't know if she will ever warm up. good luck.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Lydia</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Identity Thief: You got your whole family to go vegetarian with you!? That's so awesome!!!</div>
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<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Yup, thank you :blush: at first my dad said it was just to make cooking easier, but after a few months both my mum and my dad said they were repulsed by the thought of eating meat after that! They are all pretty strict veggies now.. I also got them buying fair trade, not buying for companys that test on animals and being environmentally friendly. I guess I'm persuasive :p<br><br><br><br>
Anyway good luck vegancj! Let us know how it goes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I'm sure eventually things will work out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rockon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rockon:">
 
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