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And wondering what experiences others have had with this.

In our case, we met off of the Conscious Dating Network at the beginning of May, I fly from Atlanta to London in 18 days to meet him, and we've both got nerves because of this. In his case, mainly because he's also introducing me to his kids (6 & 8), in my case, although I'm finishing up my degree right now and was about to leave Georgia anyway, it didn't feel like much of a risk for me untill I put in my notice at work. We love each other deeply, but this feels like it has the potential to be a crazy headspin for both of us!
 

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And wondering what experiences others have had with this.

In our case, we met off of the Conscious Dating Network at the beginning of May, I fly from Atlanta to London in 18 days to meet him, and we've both got nerves because of this. In his case, mainly because he's also introducing me to his kids (6 & 8), in my case, although I'm finishing up my degree right now and was about to leave Georgia anyway, it didn't feel like much of a risk for me untill I put in my notice at work. We love each other deeply, but this feels like it has the potential to be a crazy headspin for both of us!
I met my good lady on the internet.

Fast forward 3 years and lots of paperwork, visits, phone calls..... I have my medical in London next week. Then the interview, then hopefully I get to be with her for keeps.

I'm in Boston, UK. She is in Long Beach, California.


If you ever want any help or advice about lomng distance relationships of the immigration process, just ask!
 

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Meeting online really works! I know lots of people who have met their current SO's on dating or social networking sites


I see it as a nice additional weeding out step to the dating process, before you ever meet a person you can find out about them and talk to them a bit. It saves loads of time and energy from wasted dates with people you meet at bars, only to find out when you actually talk to them that they are into hunting or something


My boyfriend and I met through our film school's network on Facebook, he sent me a message and one thing led to another and it just clicked. We've been together 3 years as of April, and we've been living together almost the whole time
 

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Haha, I know how you feel, found out my last boyfriend was part of the NRA and used to work at the slaughterhouse, that is, after we slept together!!


We've joked that when you're an oddball like we both are, then the internet is a much more efficient way of meeting someone! Definitely good as well to be able to go into our first meeting knowing everything about each other.

As far as immigration goes, I would definitely have to be the one to move because of the kids, which is fine with me anyway, I have a few friends in the area who I met travelling over the years so it'll be an easy transition.

Glad its worked well for you guys! Trying not to get cold feet at the last minute, he's surpassed everything I was looking for in a man by far.
 

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I've got nothing against it but it has never been successful for me.

you seem very eager with leaving your job to go and meet this guy. I hope you find happiness together.
 

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And wondering what experiences others have had with this.

In our case, we met off of the Conscious Dating Network at the beginning of May, I fly from Atlanta to London in 18 days to meet him, and we've both got nerves because of this. In his case, mainly because he's also introducing me to his kids (6 & 8), in my case, although I'm finishing up my degree right now and was about to leave Georgia anyway, it didn't feel like much of a risk for me untill I put in my notice at work. We love each other deeply, but this feels like it has the potential to be a crazy headspin for both of us!
I know some would question loving each other "deeply" when you've only just met...

I'm not judging, I've had many relationships (even an 8 year long one) start off with a RUN


I've met some amazing people online. Some of my closest friends, in fact, people I communicate with and see weekly and are an integral part of my life.

I wish you all the best.
 

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I met someone online, he turned out to be into kiddie porn and in the middle of his court case, he is now in jail for a year.

Cheers!
 

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I met someone 6 years ago through a site called Veggieboards
It worked out quite well for us, and we're now married etc.
 

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My goodself and 'her indoors' met online, match.com to be specific.

We spent a lot of time on MSN getting to know each other before we met in person.

Having just seen River post of her experience (that must have been horrible River, sorry) I would add this; A lot of the conversations we had on MSN were geared around 'testing' each other out to make sure we had compatible moral values.
 

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Before I met my husband I met plenty of people online. Sometimes it was good, sometimes it was bad, one time it was great - we were really in love. It just didn't totally work out - we were young. Just be really careful (meet in public place, check in regularly with a friend, etc) and make sure to have a backup plan for how you'll get home if things are awful.
 

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I met someone 6 years ago through a site called Veggieboards
It worked out quite well for us, and we're now married etc.
Ah, this story warms my heart.


giggles thinking about the "etc."


 

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Are you moving in with him and his kids on the same day you first meet him in person?
Or are you flying there to first meet and then later move into your own place there?
 

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Thanks for your words and concerns, and yeah, it does feel like a crazy thing I'm about to do, and the nerves have been biting me very hard. Of course a person never plans who they fall in love with, and there is without a doubt a deep sense of caring between the both of us. So really, it feels like a waste if I don't take this crazy step to investigate everything further!

I am being sensible though. As for my job, if it weren't for him, I would be changing jobs anyway. I'm about to have an accounting degree, and I would easily make a lot more money working in my field than I currently make working front desk at a hotel. Also, yes, I will have to live with him pretty much immediately. Because this is the internet though and there are psychos out there, I'm taking precautions. I know a lot of people in Europe already from travelling in Australia and other places many years ago, and I have gotten in touch with one who lives in London who has agreed to contact the police on my behalf if he doesn't hear from me within 24 hours of me arriving.

I've also tested him a lot through our chatting, and there is no way I would fly that far without video chatting with him first, which we have been doing almost daily. Though I have no firsthand experience with meeting someone this way, but is there much of a difference between the vibe you get through video chatting with someone and the vibe you get in person? I can definitely see how IM or phone calls would be very different!

With it now being 19 days though till I arrive, the nerves are definitely there, and unsure about what's normal and what isn't. None of the nerves are anything against him though, more so that I get nervous that he'll be disappointed by me, where I suppose I'd have just as much reason to be nervous that I'd be disappointed by him. Just trying to make sure this doesn't eat either of us alive between now and when I arrive!
 

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I met someone online, he turned out to be into kiddie porn and in the middle of his court case, he is now in jail for a year.

Cheers!
Pfft, that's really sad and horrible but really, the placement in this thread was just perfect, irony ftw.

Anyways, I wish I could meet someone online. He'd probably have a bigger chance of being a big nerd like me, and that would definitely be a good thing.
 

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He'd probably have a bigger chance of being a big nerd like me, and that would definitely be a good thing.
Online is the best place for meeting other nerds, I've met some fantastic nerds online and would definately encourage getting to know each other well before meeting. Most dates or relationships that I have had with "bar hookups etc." have always turned out to eventually show themselves to be incompatible, the online stuff lets you cut through a lot of the crap.
 

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I met my husband online although he only lived an hour away so I didn't have to jump on a plane to meet him. I like online dating because you see the resume and then you decide if you would like to meet the candidate.
I hope this works out for you.
 

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I'm usually scared to meet IRL because i think i won't meet their expectations, or they won't meet mine, i have major anxiety, but did meet my ex on myspace almost 6 years ago, we were together for 4 horrible years lol.
 

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Chemistry IRL is rarely the same as chemistry online.
It sometimes is though.

I met my husband online and we've been together for 6 years this September. We met for the first time 2 years after we'd met online, and apart for the first few awkward hours, we hit it off as if we'd been childhood best friends.

We went back and forth many times after that, having periods together and (longer) periods apart. We've finally been together permanently for the past 16 months. We became increasingly frustrated before that time came, seeing other long distance relationships fail, and thinking that it could be us next that would have a failed relationship. We persevered though and in the end, it was TOTALLY worth it and still is.

He is British and I am Canadian.

Best of luck with it all!
 

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I play an MMO called aces high, its a WWII combat flight sim with up to 500 people online and flying around the arena at any time. The game has ingame vox and you get to talk to many interesting people. I had organized to meet another player who lived nearby for a few beers one day, while I was sitting at the pub waiting for him to show up I felt like I was on some bizarre gay blind date. When he showed up he said he felt the same way on the way there.
 
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