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Im sure there are some posts out there addressing this issue, but I was just wondering how many people here are married (or partnered up) to a meat-eater?<br>
Does it bother you at all? Do you have kids together?<br><br>
My own wife became vegetarian by her own choice soon after we got married (5 years ago) , sure she slipped up from time to time, but now she's just kinda given up, basically she says just likes meat too much. It sounds like alot of couples here have no qualms over this kind of thing, but in my case our relationship is deteriorating over this issue, especially cause we have a 3yr old child who's gonna be getting a mixed message from this soon enough. I guess I'd taken for granted we were gonna be a vegetarian family, you know all in it together. Worse yet, while this dilemma pains me, her family finds the whole situation rather funny, which made for an absolutely horrible Thanksgiving dinner yesterday.
 

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Hi VeggieGremlin, welcome to VB! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hi.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hi:"><br><br>
My SO eats meat and it does bother me a bit of course, but he is slowly transitioning to vegetarian and rarely eats it anymore so overall I'm thrilled dating me has had a positive effect. We don't have kids though, that definitely is a bit more tricky.<br><br>
There are some great replies about this subject here:<br><br><a href="http://www.veggieboards.com/newvb/showthread.php?128847-Married-to-a-meat-eater" target="_blank">http://www.veggieboards.com/newvb/sh...o-a-meat-eater</a><br><br><a href="http://www.veggieboards.com/newvb/showthread.php?128071-Vegan-Significant-Other-A-Must" target="_blank">http://www.veggieboards.com/newvb/sh...t-Other-A-Must</a><br><br><a href="http://www.veggieboards.com/newvb/showthread.php?102642-would-you-prefer-to-date-a-veggie-vegan-than-a-meateater" target="_blank">http://www.veggieboards.com/newvb/sh...an-a-meateater</a>
 

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If something like this ever happened to me, I'd insist on keeping a vegetarian home, and raising my children as vegetarians, which your wife shoudn't have a problem with, as she tried to be a veg, so she sees it has value. If your children never taste meat, they will never "like it too much".
 

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My husband was an omni for about 5 months after I went vegetarian, and he's now been vegetarian for almost two months. It used to bother me so much. I remember once he got into the car with me and he was eating a McD's burger and I started to cry. Silly really, think I was hormonal that day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"> Was there any reason she stopped being a vegetarian, other than taste? Maybe remind her why she did it before, and take over a lot of the cooking at home. You definitely need to agree for the sake of your child.<br><br>
Good luck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Werewolf - thanks for the links!<br><br>
Delicioso - we dont stock meat so she's SOL there. As for raising kids vegetarian, although I would be distraught if they decided to eat meat, I figured I'd let them make the choice when the time came, same way my parents did when I hid meat in my shoes.<br><br>
Limes - well she's still like 95% vegetarian, I guess what bothers me is that she knows I dont like it when she eats it infront of me (so does her family, which they get a real kick out of grr). I think it really is mostly she just can't resist...most meat eaters say they couldnt live w/o meat. Anyways some good points, thanks. Just gotta get my thoughts in order for a good ol' chat tommorow
 

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The only thing that bothers me is my girlfriend wants me to eat meat and trys to get me to eat it. I really dont care what she eats as long as shes not impacted on my freedom to choose the food I wanna eat.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>VeggieGremlin</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3011364"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
.. same way my parents did when I hid meat in my shoes.</div>
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<br><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDu5k3NDYho" target="_blank">Another strange thing to do with meat ...</a><br><br>
I'm hoping that will put a smile back on you face whenever you have to deal with the 'great unwashed' Gremlin.
 

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I'm vegetarian but my husband is not. I mind but I don't make a big deal about it. He's a grown man that makes his own decisions. I'm not going to force him to do something he doesn't want to do. However, I refuse to buy and cook meat for him so he does that himself and has no problem with it. Our two year old daughter is mostly vegetarian, every once in a while shell eat what daddys eating. It doesn't affect her in any way, negative or positive, so I think your child will be ok. Especially if you don't change their diet. Try to ask your wife not to change the child's diet either since it is thehealthier way to go. As for the family issue, all you can really do is ignore them. Good luck with every thing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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like others my SO has recently transitioned to vegetarianism, we have been together for around 12 years, i have been veg for 9 years so most of the time he has eaten meat.<br><br>
it did bother me but i kept it to myself. we would have discussions about vegetarian ethics and watch documentaries about food sources, but i never asked him to be vegetarian, it wouldn't be for the right reasons and if he found it difficult he would resent me.<br><br>
what's great is that he came to vegetarianism on his own, it was a wonderful surprise to me! he loves hamburgers, a lot and i know he was afraid to give them up, i just kept making great veggie burgers he would try and he learned that they were just as good as hamburgers so that made it easier for him to tackle being vegetarian. great food is the key, just keep cooking delicious veg food for your family and meat won't seem so appetizing anymore.<br><br>
as for raising your toddler, this can be tricky if you and your SO aren't on the same page. you both need to determine where you are willing to compromise with food choices for the kid, as well as ethics about eating meat.
 

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My husband eats Organic meats and he has to watch where he gets his meats from and we don't get him that much, I don't have problem as long as its Organic and we know where it came from. However, I am hopin to get some Veg friendly dishes in the future in him so we can both give up it.<br>
If something happens to my husband and I would go date, I'll be dating a Veg friendly person
 

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My Fiancee is an Omni and honestly it doesnt bother me......he cooks his own meats cause he knows I wont......plus I loathe cooking in general.....LOL....he is beyond supportive of me and cooks and eats veggie, he checks labels on anything and everything, calls restaurants, and he supports my AR efforts and my animal free choices in all aspects of my life ect.....I know that some veggies only wanna be with veggies or have their Omni S.O.s eventually become veggie or vegan but thats not me at all....I love him just the way he is and were good<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">.....guess its true opposites do attract<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">...good luck with everything hope it all works out for you.<br><br>
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My situation is much like IHEARTCOREYHAIM's. My husband is an omni. We have two children. One is a vegetarian and one is an omni. I only cook vegetarian food in the house. When they want meat, they prepare it and clean it up.
 

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hmmm, my wife made the switch with me so it isn't an issue, but if she were still an omni I'd cook her whatever she wanted.<br><br>
Do any of the veggie's omni spouses refuse to cook veggie dishes for any of you?
 

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It's tricky at my house, as I'm vegetarian and hubbie is NOT. He thinks it's funny to act like meat is so great and talk to me about it. I reluctantly cook it for him. My daughter only eats chicken and turkey and my son is also vegetarian. My husband won't even consider trying any veggie products like tofu or veggie burgers, etc. I still find it hard to understand why soy products to him are SO gross (without tasting it mind you) as he's eating dead animals and looking at the blood in the package! WTF??!!
 

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hmmm, my wife made the switch with me so it isn't an issue, but if she were still an omni I'd cook her whatever she wanted.<br><br>
Do any of the veggie's omni spouses refuse to cook veggie dishes for any of you?</div>
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I can't say that I "refuse" to cook meat dishes. When I first went veg, I still cooked for the other three. I got more and more sporadic with meat as I figured out veggie dishes that everyone enjoyed. Then my son decided he wanted to be a vegetarian. The house is evenly split. Now, we team cook.<br><br>
In all fairness, my husband probably did the majority of the meat preparation before I completely went veg. There are some things that I have never prepared. If my husband or daughter requested that I prepare meat, I don't know that I would refuse them. I love them and like to make them happy and would give it my best shot. However, they love me as well and know that it grosses me out to the point of gagging, so they don't ask for much in that department.
 

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Do any of the veggie's omni spouses refuse to cook veggie dishes for any of you?</div>
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What could be the possible reason to do that? A lot of dishes are naturally veg anyway.<br><br>
There's really not a parallel between the two scenarios. What omni has an ethical problem with vegetation?
 

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What could be the possible reason to do that? A lot of dishes are naturally veg anyway.<br><br>
There's really not a parallel between the two scenarios. What omni has an ethical problem with vegetation?</div>
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Ethics is a completely different issue and I can wholeheartedly understand a refusal to do something against one's ethics.<br><br>
However not all vegetarians have an ethical problem with an omni's diet, the issue is more of would you go through the effort of cooking a second meal to satisfy your spouse's wants.
 

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hmmm, my wife made the switch with me so it isn't an issue, but if she were still an omni I'd cook her whatever she wanted.<br><br>
Do any of the veggie's omni spouses refuse to cook veggie dishes for any of you?</div>
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naah he really likes to cook... me not soooo much...lol he is always looking up new and intresting recipes for new ways to cook veggies and he likes to eat them too.<br><br>
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I'm vegan and I live with an omni, and it's gone extremely well. As of when we met, he was on the mentality that more people should become vegetarian because of meat's impact on the environment, but he doesn't think that he can do it because he does enjoy the taste. Once I cooked for him for the first time, he said that it's so good the he doesn't miss the meat! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> He didn't think he liked vegetables very much before me, now he can't seem to get enough on my curries, pastas, vegan pancakes, etc. And being vegan is a great way to score points with mothers, as his seemed very impressed that I've got him eating much healthier than he was.<br><br>
It also made my day a few weeks ago when he said that he doesn't want to eat fish anymore, as he feels wrong eating an endangered species. Of course it's not total veganism, but it does feel nice that his meat consumption is now 1/3 to 1/2 of what it was. His habits now with eating meat are that he still often has meat on his breakfast sandwiches and probably has it for lunch during the week while he's at work, but the fact that it's never actually cooked in our house does make it a lot easier for me. And he told me a few times that my compassion for animals is one thing that makes him love me more. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Though with him being a man and meat having a macho image, its another reason for me to hold my breath less for him to convert.<br><br>
It's great too that he jumps in and helps with the cooking and with coming up with new recipes, between the 2 of us last night, we came up with a delicious pasta with olives, capers, spinach, mushrooms, tomatoes, and tomato paste.<br><br>
As for when we have kids, I get a feeling that there's a good possibility that his eating habits may shift between now and then, so it seems best to fully cross that bridge when we come to it. For now, I've simply mentioned that vegan women still do very well with pregnancy despite what the propaganda says, and he agrees.<br><br>
As for anyone's partner, it's possible to be involved with an omni, the key is respect for your choices. If they mock your choices at any time, look at that as a red flag, and I did make that mistake with my last boyfriend. Same goes if they try to get you to change your eating choices, and also same goes that it's best to let your omni partner change on their own, that is, if they ever do. Though you could just as easily say that about veg*nism or anything that makes you the person you are, if your partner doesn't respect it, they're the wrong partner, period.
 
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