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Hi Everyone, I'm new to this forum thinking I can chat to like minded people. I've trying to work towards being totally veggie, I don't eat meat, just fish, although ultimately I want to not eat this either. But this is causing problems at home, not big ones but I can see that it might do. My husband is fine to eat at vegetarian restaurants and is not a fussy eater so will try most things once to see if he likes them. However at home he is getting fed up with there being no meat being cooked. I do 90% of the cooking and basically just haven't got the time to cook two meals. I have suggested to him that he can cook meat for himself, but he doesn't like or enjoy cooking. I'm starting to feel guilty that I'm not giving him the things to eat that he wants, but on the other hand I think, I don't pressure him to conform and am happy if he cooks meat for himself.<br>
Any suggestions on how to handle this, or have any of you guys been in a similar position and how did you deal with it? Thanks for reading <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I'm gonna have to be a good old fashioned feminist and say, if he doesn't like whts being served then he can make his own dinners. but the issue might go further than that. I'm not married so I'm not gonna go into any deep discussions about it, but thats my opinion anyway. And welcome to the forum.
 

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You have a good point there! thanks for the reply.<br>
How long have you been veggie for?
 

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very recently. I think I'm going towards 3 months no, but I eased into it ever since boyfriend went vegan six months ago. I'm vegetarian without any immediate plans to go vegan <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Thats great on your choice, good for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Would it be easier if your husband ate meat when you're dining out rather than at home? That would mean less trips to vegetarian restaurants perhaps, but perhaps easier for him to cope with. He could also get some take-away foods to bring home, if he really can't do much cooking.<br><br>
Also, have you tried any meat substitute foods yet? Some of them taste freakishly much like animal meat.
 

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Yes I agree with Indian summer, I would have him eat mostly veg at home and then he can eat all the stuff he wants outside of the home. I agree with trying the faux meats see if he would like them. If you don't want to cook the meats for your husband, there are store bought stuff that is in dinners maybe he should go and get those and all he does is pop it in the microwave.
 

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Hi, thanks for the reply, we eat at the veggie restaurants perhaps three times a year, and the rest of the time if we eat out its at pubs etc, where he has the mixed grill! I shall suggest the take away option, but I think I can predict the answer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> We do both like the veg mince and quorn pieces though, haven't tried the other bits as not keen on overly processed stuff. He can cook, just doesn't like doing it and prefers my cooking but wants more meat!
 

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Hi PLV. Thanks for the suggestions, I will give them a try. We eat at the veggie places if we are away as there are none in our city, so he normally get to eat as much meat as he wants out!
 

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For us, the solution was what Indian Summer suggested. My husband eats meat when we eat out, but it is (rarely) served at home. We eat out about once a week, so he gets plenty of opportunity to partake in whatever he chooses. I also will make "fake meats" for some meals. When the budget is a little tighter, I have cooked some meats for him... seperate from the main vegetarian dish. As we explore more and more new foods, he is finding he doesn't miss meat.<br><br>
I was vegetarian long before he met me, though. I imagine it's a much more difficult adjustment for a spouse when one makes what seems like such a major change in lifestyle after the two have been together awhile. I think it's important to discuss with your husband why you've made this decision. My own husband was very skeptical when we first met... his previous experiences with vegetarians was very negative... but when he understood why I was doing this, he came around. He even gave no resistance when I said I wanted to raise our son vegetarian!
 

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If cooking meat would upset you, just tell him that. Say that you don't mind what he eats, he can have what he wants, but that you don't want to cook it and ask him to please respect that.<br><br>
At the end of the day he cannot make you do anything you don't want to do.
 

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Try to eat more non-American/British foods, like Indian, Asian, Mediterranean and Mexican. I have found that my omnis miss meat a whole lot less if they're eating food where they don't really expect meat like bean burritos, veggie lasagna, curries with tofu and dals.
 

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I live with an omni and without sounding rude he is a little more respectful of my dislike for cooking meat than your husband seems to be, he also doesnt like cooking but insists on cooking meat so I dont have to.<br>
Mostly he is up for the fake meat stuff (Linda McCartney sausages,mince etcetc) so things like Spag bol are a staple in our house. Other than that he buys himself bacon and steak about once or twice a month and cooks it himself to go with whatever Im making (basically replaces my lentils with steak/bacon) and has tins of tuna in the cupboard and tinned meats. We also have frozen stuff in the house for him, Birdseye Chicken pieces, meat pies, beef burgers, all stuff that can be cooked from frozen in the oven with no need to touch raw meat. This is better in my opinion than buying fresh raw meat that needs to be washed and cooked because when he craves a bit of meat, it there, no need to plan ahead really.
 

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My husband fries bacon and eggs on Saturday mornings and puts meat in his sandwiches. I hate cooking as it is, I'm not making dinner twice. He's happy with fry up Saturdays.
 

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Explain to him that cooking is a good skill for everyone to learn. What if you died? Then he would have to learn how to cook, so he may as well learn now. You could show him how to cook his own meat so he can start doing it himself. Then you both win. He gets more meat and you don't have to cook it.
 

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does your husband like to bbq? Often what we do, is my husband will BBQ himself a "batch" of meats, like chicken breasts or a roast cut into steaks, keep them in the fridge, and eat them throughout the week. Then, at suppertime, we just cook up our potato and veggies or whatever, I make my protein, and he eats his meat. Or, I will make a meatless pasta sauce, soup, salad, whatever, and he can just cut his chicken up on top. Works for us.
 

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He's an adult, and fully capable of cooking his own meals. You are not a short order cook, and you are not his maid/mommy. If push comes to shove, buy some microwave meals/canned soups/cup o' noodles for him. If you don't want to cook two meals, there is absolutely <b><span style="text-decoration:underline;">no</span></b> reason you should have to.
 

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My husband doesn't like too cook but tonight with supper I put it in the oven and I feel asleep before it got done, so he had to finish up the supper. My husband likes to cook his meats in his cast iron skillet, so when he does want a treat for a steak he uses that and I don't have too cook. We are learning ways to get less animal products in our home but we both do team work when we cook.
 

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My boyfriend is a heavy meat eater and I end up cooking two separate meals. He won't cook for himself so I have to cook his dinner, alot of times im too tired from work to make my dinner after his and end up not eating dinner. I'm sure its probably not to healthy to not eat dinner so often but I'd rather keep the peace and just cook it for him rather than asking him to cook his own food.
 
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