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Inspired by Thalia's comments on Tame's posting in the "Warning to all Men" thread:<br><br><br><br><i><b>'The female(male?) may even be shrewd enough to entrap the unsuspecting male(female) into a longer term form of servitude and punishment referred to as "marriage." '<br><br>
As you can tell, I have mixed feelings about marriage.</b></i><br><br><br><br><br><br>
I am SO the reluctant one in my relationship in terms of that kind of stuff.<br><br><br><br>
My boyfriend had dinner with the neighbour yesterday, and she couldn't believe that he'd had to talk me into moving in with him, and that I have said "no" repeatedly to his discussions of marriage. The only explanation she could come up with was "-?? ...Well, she must have been hurt in the past, like me."<br><br><br><br>
... What, are ALL women supposedly waiting around with the sole purpose of entrapping a man? Are we simply sitting around waiting for Prince Charming to come and sweep us away so we can wear the big white wedding dress at the big white wedding??<br><br><br><br>
Blech I say to that! BLECH!<br><br><br><br>
Hey, I'm 24. I've told Trevor he can ask me to marry him when we've been together for at least 3 years. He sees that as a grave injustice (though he's cool with my 'at which point let's run away by ourselves and get married on a beach in Hawaii' plan...).<br><br><br><br>
I just don't want to be anything less than completely SURE of my own decision making when I agree to something like that.<br><br>
I have NEVER been enthralled with the Big White Wedding Idea, so all that 'playing princess' crap just does not come into play with my decision making. I just wanna be damned sure that my belief in 'just knowing this is right' withstands the test of time... (3 years can throw a lot of crap at you, I figure.)<br><br><br><br>
Besides, cynical as I am, I have trouble seeing marriage as anything but the precursor to divorce. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="
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But I'm always interested to know:<br><br><br><br>
For the unmarried: what are your thoughts on marriage, and/or wedding ideas/hopes/dreams, if you've ever had them?<br><br><br><br>
For the married: what were the circumstances under which you decided 'this is the one', how did you know? What was your wedding itself like, and what are your secrets to success in your relationship?<br><br><br><br>
For the divorced: Were there any clues along the way that should have tipped you off? Like: If only I'd known, or I hadn't caved on this or that, or I just wasn't conscious of ___, etc...<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Consider this an all things marriage/wedding related thread.
As you can tell, I have mixed feelings about marriage.</b></i><br><br><br><br><br><br>
I am SO the reluctant one in my relationship in terms of that kind of stuff.<br><br><br><br>
My boyfriend had dinner with the neighbour yesterday, and she couldn't believe that he'd had to talk me into moving in with him, and that I have said "no" repeatedly to his discussions of marriage. The only explanation she could come up with was "-?? ...Well, she must have been hurt in the past, like me."<br><br><br><br>
... What, are ALL women supposedly waiting around with the sole purpose of entrapping a man? Are we simply sitting around waiting for Prince Charming to come and sweep us away so we can wear the big white wedding dress at the big white wedding??<br><br><br><br>
Blech I say to that! BLECH!<br><br><br><br>
Hey, I'm 24. I've told Trevor he can ask me to marry him when we've been together for at least 3 years. He sees that as a grave injustice (though he's cool with my 'at which point let's run away by ourselves and get married on a beach in Hawaii' plan...).<br><br><br><br>
I just don't want to be anything less than completely SURE of my own decision making when I agree to something like that.<br><br>
I have NEVER been enthralled with the Big White Wedding Idea, so all that 'playing princess' crap just does not come into play with my decision making. I just wanna be damned sure that my belief in 'just knowing this is right' withstands the test of time... (3 years can throw a lot of crap at you, I figure.)<br><br><br><br>
Besides, cynical as I am, I have trouble seeing marriage as anything but the precursor to divorce. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="
But I'm always interested to know:<br><br><br><br>
For the unmarried: what are your thoughts on marriage, and/or wedding ideas/hopes/dreams, if you've ever had them?<br><br><br><br>
For the married: what were the circumstances under which you decided 'this is the one', how did you know? What was your wedding itself like, and what are your secrets to success in your relationship?<br><br><br><br>
For the divorced: Were there any clues along the way that should have tipped you off? Like: If only I'd known, or I hadn't caved on this or that, or I just wasn't conscious of ___, etc...<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Consider this an all things marriage/wedding related thread.