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Firstly, I have been poring over the threads on these boards and am absolutely grateful that I've found such an informative group. I'm learning a lot and am confident in my ability to drop eggs/dairy from my diet a lot sooner than I'd imagined.<br><br><br><br>
Okay, my question is how do you get along with preparing meals for the meat eaters in your household? I'm moving in w/ my meat-n-potatos boyfriend this week and I'll likely be doing most of the cooking. He's somewhat supportive of my decision not to eat meat but definitely isn't planning on stopping eating it himself.<br><br><br><br>
For those who do most of the household cooking, do you usually prepare two meals or just veggie dishes?<br><br><br><br>
I figure I'll end up making a veggie meal for myself and grilling a steak or chicken breast to go with it for him.....<br><br><br><br>
Also, did your decision to become a vegetarian or vegan impact your relationship with your SO?<br><br><br><br>
I'm asking because I worry that it's selfish to just prepare the veggie meal (although it would be a timesaver for me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">)
 

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I just moved out of my parents house. They are omnis and thats great for them but I got sick and tired of my step dad saying rude things about my food preferences whilst he was drunk. My mom suppoted me though so I miss that. I am lucky and now live with my vegetarian friend who is lacto ova and my strict veggie twin sister. Its super great. Infact my roomie just made homemade pasta sauce and is going to make cheese ravioli. We had a party and made a beef roast for our omni friends but they didn't eat all of it so we had to throw it out. I personally make all my meals veggie or vegan. meat is just not a good staple food anyway. One veggie meal a day will do an omni good. Good luck cooking!
 

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When I went veg in 2002 my husband was still an omni. Since I do all the cooking I said I don't want to cook meat. So I didn't. If he wanted meat he could buy it at a restaurant. After a year of my fab veggie cooking he stopped ordering meat when we were out or when givin a choice choosing the veg food over the meat food. Same for when I went vegan. He still gradually stopped bring cheese in the house.<br><br><br><br>
So that was the long answer. The short answer is: no. I don't bring meat into my house. I don't cook it. If someone wants it they can eat it elsewhere. I personally believe that the chef makes the rules, but then others might consider that harsh. Other people living with omnis have taught their SO to cook their own meat or do without.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck.
 

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I wouldn't cook meat for anyone. That's not how I treat dead bodies.<br><br><br><br>
I live with my omni sister. She's respectful of my decision not to eat meat, and when she cooks for both of us, she makes the food vegetarian. I don't think a meat-eater preparing a vegetarian meal for a non-meat-eater is comparable to a vegetarian preparing meat for a meat-eater. The meat-eater doesn't have to do something that's against their morals to cook vegetables. (I realize not all vegetarians think it immoral to cook meat, but I do.)<br><br><br><br>
There are things about living with an omnivore that make me uncomfortable, like seeing meat in the refrigerator, using pots and pans that have been used to cook meat (even if they have been washed) and breathing the air when meat is cooking in the house. It's gross. But we both pay rent, and I don't feel I have the right to forbid those things.
 

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I would have a good talk with your boyfriend and discuss the possible options. What you end up doing depends on what expectations you both have, your own "limits" in terms of comfort handling meat, and how supportive he really is of your choices.<br><br><br><br>
You might try a range of approaches to begin with: completely vegan some nights, "meat on the side" for him other nights, two separate meals; eating out, etc. After some weeks, it may be clearer what works for you and what doesn't. In my own experience, couples tend to gravitate toward simply preparing one meal and both eating it; preparing separate meals or "customizing" one person's plate (except in minor ways, like no cheese sprinkled on the spaghetti) seem to be difficult to maintain over the long haul.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck!
 

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If your boyfriend expects you to cook, then he will eat what you cook. If he doesn't like it, tell him to get up, get a pan, and cook what he wants to eat.<br><br><br><br>
If you are close enough to move in together, then he knows where you stand by now. If he is not cool with that, then he will need to adjust.
 

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It's not selfish for you to cook only veggie meals. It would be selfish of him to expect you to go out of your way to make a seperate meal for him, and one that you are ethically agaisnt, at that! I would never cook anyone meat. I havn't even touched meat since going veggie.
 

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My husband is omni, and I don't cook any meat for him. He doesn't cook, so he buys frozen dinners with meat and eats those. *bleh* I still buy cheese and eggs for him (sometimes milk too) even though I seldom consume them anymore. I know he won't give those up anytime soon. I'm a lazy cook...but when I do cook, he usually eats whatever I make.
 

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I'm staying with my grandparents while I go to college, and they never ever eat at home, so I have to cook all my own meals, my grandmother sometimes says little remarks like "Jesus wants us to eat meat" and then always offers me chicken and stuff but I don't pay attention. When they do cook at home or sometimes I make them supper I'll cook whatever they like to eat and then make something different for me. For example. I'll make them some baked chicken w/ baked potatoes, and veggies, and rolls or buns. And for me I'll make like noodles or something to replace the meat w/.
 

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I've only been veg for a little over 2 months but my husband expects me to continue to cook for him and he won't eat veg food more than once a fortnight (rolls eyes). I tried to bring up the fact that I don't wish to cook dead flesh any longer and I thought he was going to divorce me. Me becoming vegetarian has caused major upheaval, upset and issues in our life and I would say that you need to discuss the "rules" with your b/f before you guys actually move in together. My hubby is not happy about eating a veg meal with a side of meat on his plate. He wants me to cook as I used to so some nights I end up cooking lentil bolognaise for me and beef stroganoff for him (barf). I'm hoping to slowly introduce more and more veg meals into the equation and for now when I make him an omni meal I get him to at least help me cook so he can get used to how I make these things (then I'll sneakily stop cooking them altogether once he knows what he's doing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":up:"> ). But yes, I'd discuss this with your b/f beforehand, find out what he sees as acceptable and good for him and you tell him how you feel. Even if you don't come to a full decision at least you know what the other person expects <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I moved in with my omni BF nearly a year ago. I do all the cooking, and I never cook meat. Thus, he is fed a largely vegan diet. He feels it would be disrepectful of my beliefs to make me/expect me to purchase/handle/prepare meat, and we can BOTH eat a veg*n dinner, so we do. If his friends are over gaming or something they'll order wings and stink up the house, so it's not like I don't ALLOW it. I do make some cooking compromises and make more interesting foods that I might if I were still living alone, and prepare a wider variety of things than I would just for me, and I use more tofu/seitan/meat substitutes than I used to.
 

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I moved in with my omni BF nearly a year ago. I do all the cooking, and I never cook meat. Thus, he is fed a largely vegan diet. He feels it would be disrepectful of my beliefs to make me/expect me to purchase/handle/prepare meat, and we can BOTH eat a veg*n dinner, so we do. If his friends are over gaming or something they'll order wings and stink up the house, so it's not like I don't ALLOW it. I do make some cooking compromises and make more interesting foods that I might if I were still living alone, and prepare a wider variety of things than I would just for me, and I use more tofu/seitan/meat substitutes than I used to.</div>
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Now THAT is what a relationship should be like. I am glad to hear that he respects your beliefs like that!<br><br><br><br>
*Still single, women.*<br><br><br><br>
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ON A SIDE NOTE: I do not wash my mothers pans after she fixes meat. I never have, and she didn't understand it at first, but she does now. I don't want the blood on my hand, and it may be going a bit too far there, but I just don't feel comfortable washing the "dirty" dishes. In a way, I sort of see her washing the pans she uses as shameful of what she has eaten. "I have to get this off!"<br><br><br><br>
I even bought my own cheap-ass pans to use, because hers have meat-stickings all over them from use over the years.
 

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I agree with Aussyj: I do not think I could clean up after an omni any more either. Maybe at one point in time... but now the idea of even using a pan that's had meat in it gives me the creeps.
 

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Wow... I may very well take some heat for what I'm going to say so I'll start by saying that everyone is different and I'm super cool with that.<br><br><br><br>
When I met my Fiance I was vegetarian (6 years now) and he was supportive and sweet... still is by the way. We very quickly moved in together and started adjusting to each other. Which involves meat and non-meat based lives. It went ultra smooth with both of us making all kinds of compromises and changes. He's awesome and I love him, and since he can't cook, I cook for him. I enjoy it and I do it with love.<br><br><br><br>
And I cook meat for him. I've actually been wanting to open a thread about this lately but just... haven't. He buys it and I know he'll eat it regardless of my views so I prepare his meals and mine.... though not usually seperately. I mostly do this where I can add meat later. I do miss the days when I lived with other vegetarians but I don't miss the people I lived with. So now I love the person I live with but hate his eating choices.<br><br><br><br>
I look at it in many different ways but one of them is this: He eats sooo many more vegetarian meals because he lives with me. I do feel better about that. I cook lots and lots of meatless meals and he loves it. I don't do dishes however <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
It's our compromise and it works. You'll find your own as everyone here has.
 

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I live with my parents and brother, and they are all omnis. My brother moved out to college, though, thank goodness, because he was the biggest meat eater in the house<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br>
Since I still live with my parents, they do most of the cooking, and whatever I cook is usually only for me. I occasionally do cook a meal for the entire family, but I would never cook a meat dish for them. It is gross enough having to wash the dishes, pots, and pans with dead animal residues. I can't wait to move out and live in a meat free household<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rockon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rockon:">
 

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I live with my parents and brother, and they are all omnis. My brother moved out to college, though, thank goodness, because he was the biggest meat eater in the house<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br>
Since I still live with my parents, they do most of the cooking, and whatever I cook is usually only for me. I occasionally do cook a meal for the entire family, but I would never cook a meat dish for them. It is gross enough having to wash the dishes, pots, and pans with dead animal residues. I can't wait to move out and live in a meat free household<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rockon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rockon:"></div>
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Can I ask for some recipes or what sorts of things you cook? I really struggle with this and like I said before hubby doesn't like just a slab of meat on the side of a veggie dish so we share few meals together. I don't like cooking meat for him much but given that our children are also omni I do it cause I love them all but yes, recipes or ideas if you have some? PM me if you like (or start that other thread, I'd be a super active participent!!!!)<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Wow... I may very well take some heat for what I'm going to say so I'll start by saying that everyone is different and I'm super cool with that.<br><br><br><br>
When I met my Fiance I was vegetarian (6 years now) and he was supportive and sweet... still is by the way. We very quickly moved in together and started adjusting to each other. Which involves meat and non-meat based lives. It went ultra smooth with both of us making all kinds of compromises and changes. He's awesome and I love him, and since he can't cook, I cook for him. I enjoy it and I do it with love.<br><br><br><br>
And I cook meat for him. I've actually been wanting to open a thread about this lately but just... haven't. He buys it and I know he'll eat it regardless of my views so I prepare his meals and mine.... though not usually seperately. I mostly do this where I can add meat later. I do miss the days when I lived with other vegetarians but I don't miss the people I lived with. So now I love the person I live with but hate his eating choices.<br><br><br><br>
I look at it in many different ways but one of them is this: He eats sooo many more vegetarian meals because he lives with me. I do feel better about that. I cook lots and lots of meatless meals and he loves it. I don't do dishes however <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
It's our compromise and it works. You'll find your own as everyone here has.</div>
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I didn't read any of the responses... but IMO, if you're cooking the meals you're not obligated to prepare meat for him. You're doing most the cooking, I don't see the big deal in him cooking up something non-vegetarian for him to add to the meals. Plus it'd give you guys quality time in the kitchen together.<br><br><br><br>
I personally haven't lived with a SO before, nor have I been the one preparing most the meals for others that I've lived with. When I make meals, they're vegan and I'm more than happy to make enough for everyone around. Other than that the only time I'll make non-veg foods is for people who are sick or injured, and I've made a few things for my friends then 3 year old son (she had a new baby, so while she tended to him I'd make her oldest lunch-not like grilling steaks or anything, just things that all I had to do was heat up)
 

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I'm asking because I worry that it's selfish to just prepare the veggie meal (although it would be a timesaver for me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">)</div>
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Dont worry about it. It's obviously never occurred to your BF that sitting back and letting you assume the domestic role in the relationship is actually incredibly selfish in this day and age. Encourage him to cook his own meat! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/dizzy2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":dizzy:">
 

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Dont worry about it. It's obviously never occurred to your BF that sitting back and letting you assume the domestic role in the relationship is actually incredibly selfish in this day and age. Encourage him to cook his own meat! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/dizzy2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":dizzy:"></div>
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I would agree. If your boyfriend wishes you to, "Get in the kitchen, woman!", then your relationship must not be a very good one.
 
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