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I was tired of getting my family things that they really didn't need or sometimes didn't want. This year, I decided that I would either give them straight up cash (which would be much more useful to them than some gift) or buy a charity gift card for them from tisbest.org. I haven't decided on either one or if I should do a combination of the two. What is your opinion? Christmas approacheth soon.
 

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And honestly, I really would prefer that my family not spend a cash gift on non-vegan things or things I find morally reprehensible. They don't really think when they consume, they just kind of consume. Maybe that makes me controlling, but I don't really care since I'm the one giving the gift and would rather not celebrate Christmas anyway.
 

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Well, personally, I wouldn't give a gift card to someone that's not for them, but rather forcing them to donate to a charity. On the flip side, I have requested that instead of my family buying me a present, they donate to a charity in my name. That seems more reasonable. It just doesn't seem right to say, here's a gift card for $50 but you can only use it to give to a charity. I'd just as soon tell the person you'd rather not exchange gifts this year. You can then make a donation to a charity yourself. I don't know...this is a new idea to me. I am not familiar with tisbest.org but I did a quick google search. I understand your reasoning, and of course, you need to do what feels right for you. But giving a gift card for a charity wouldn't work for me.
 

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And honestly, I really would prefer that my family not spend a cash gift on non-vegan things or things I find morally reprehensible. They don't really think when they consume, they just kind of consume. Maybe that makes me controlling, but I don't really care since I'm the one giving the gift and would rather not celebrate Christmas anyway.
IMO, gifts are supposed to be unconditional. If you get them a gift card (NO straight cash), don't pay any attention to what they buy with it and don't give them any instructions.

I like karenlovessnow's idea.
 

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well, tisbest.org is basically a means by which one can donate to a variety of charities. For example, I give you a giftcard fo $50 to tisbest.org. You now can choose from the selected amount (quite a few actually) of charities to which you wish to donate. You could donate it all to one or break it into smaller portions for more than one. My sister gave me one last year and I consider it the best gift I've ever received, but again, that was just my opinion.
 

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Go for it!

Gifts are complicated social interactions. Some people think it should be something the receiver would never get for themselves, others think it should be something useful and practical, others think it's a way to encourage certain behaviors or thoughts, etc.

If giving a charity giftcard makes you happy and doesn't hurt anyone, I'm 100% supportive! Do it.

It's a hell of a lot better than giving someone a deep fryer.
 

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Go for it!

Gifts are complicated social interactions. Some people think it should be something the receiver would never get for themselves, others think it should be something useful and practical, others think it's a way to encourage certain behaviors or thoughts, etc.

If giving a charity giftcard makes you happy and doesn't hurt anyone, I'm 100% supportive! Do it.

It's a hell of a lot better than giving someone a deep fryer.
Thanks for the input. I only started actually thinking about in such a way this year and last year.

Oh, and about the deep fryer....my mother has two of those...don't ask.

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I think you should give someone what you think they want.
See, I wouldn't want to buy something, say, a leather purse, if I'm personally opposed to the means by which the object was created...and that could go for a number of other things as well. I hate to be the "ethics police" but I just don't want to buy pieces of crap that will just spew carbon into the air and end up in a landfill in the future.
 

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I understand what you are saying.
I bought someone a plane ticket to N.Y. this year and I don't exactly feel good about the fossil fuel that will be burned, but I did it anyway.
If only traveling were more environmentally friendly. I don't know if there's a better way to get to New York if one lives far enough away. Flying might be more efficient compared to driving or taking a train, but I could be wrong about that. I also tend to think of experiences from traveling to be different than goods like TVs or other tangible goods.
 

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I wouldn't want to buy something, say, a leather purse, if I'm personally opposed to the means by which the object was created
Totally with you there, Green Gentleman.

I got a Kohl's gift card for my mother a while back and she went and bought a leather purse with it. It honestly didn't even cross my mind that she would do that (however stupid that sounds). I expected her to use it to buy clothes. I made a note in my mind not to make that mistake again. I don't want my money going to products that abuse animals, regardless of who's doing the actual purchasing. On the other hand, though, I think a donation in someone else's name is a pretty lame gift.

For the future I'd just say put some time into buying a gift that meets your ethical standards and that your family will enjoy well enough. I know it can be tough, but it's possible. Ethically produced clothing not made by child labor or fair trade chocolates, etc.
 
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