[taurushead]

giving this its own thread, actually.

is this a bad attitude? somebody tell me:

i did a life calculator thing for fun...

and it said id live til i was 97. and the first thing i thought was 'oo yay. keep it up.' BUT..the second thing..was...i dont want to.

whats the point of living til your 97 if you think about pointless things even SOME of the time? if you don't do what you want? if you..i could go on.

but ..yeah. perhaps im just sick of ANY kind of thinking (and i think a LOT less these days) and this is actually an unwise approach.

so somebody tell me?

i just went to the supermarket and bought what i wanted. all i avoided was trans fats.

a lot of it was healthy, coz i LIKE that stuff. but someo f it wasn't. and sometimes...coffee and biscuits is the best breakfast ever. there's not much protein, and too much sugar...but i used to love doing that.

seriously..is this a bad idea? because im so close to saying '**** it. i want my life back.'

??

 

[kale]

clarify for me: WHAT is a bad/good idea??

 

[Lothar M Kirsch]

What is the issue? The life calculator, old age, living a healthy life, refraining from coffee and biscuits, thinking, living, ...?

 

[Pirate Ferret]

I think theyre saying is it really worth all the hassle just to be a bit healthier/live longer?

 

[Lani]

I don't want to live till I'm 90... Heck I don't want to live past 60

But I want to be healthy till the day I die. I spent too many years not caring and being passively suicidal shoving cholestorel and fat down my throat.

I don't want to die when I'm 40 of a heart attack or of cancer or something that could have been prevented by being healthy.

And who knows? Maybe I can lose all this weight, be a real healthy person, and end up getting hit by a bus when I'm 30 and it all be for nothing *shrug* I like my diet. I like my lifestyle. So it's not like I'll have any regrets (other than not opening my eyes sooner)

 

[jeneticallymodified]

haha, you might change your mind about wanting to be 90 when/if you are, you know- especially if you've still got all your marbles, the wisdom of the ages, plenty to do and the cash and freedom to do it with, the liberation of not caring what people think that often comes with having been around a bit, and especially if you have a generally happy, involved, active life.

as for not wanting to be 60- both of my parents are around 60, and they're still very very active people with jobs and lives and who impact very positively on others - i'd hate for them not to be around cos they're old, lol! try telling my 65 year old dad he's old or 'past it' after he's got home from his job hauling steel about and welding stuff, and he'll chase you across the room and clip you round the ear, then try and pull a fast one by faining fraility when you go to clip him back round his own ear, he's very much still with it, lol.

i agree with the wanting to be healthy while i am here- thats a sound idea- cos it aint gonna be much fun being around- be it till 40 or 90, if you feel like complete crud.

i also feel that enjoying yourself while you are alive is pertinant too- so everything in moderation fits in here- life without any kind of tasty but sadly junky food whatsoever sounds pretty bleak, so i'd have the odd bag of chips once in a while, a slice of non perfectly nutritionally balanced cake every now and then, and extra bit of earth balance on my veggies if i'm in the mood to do so, and risk it- i'd hate to make it to 90 and be sitting bitterly in my chair mourning over all those bits of cake i'd declined through the years.

if you just keep it balanced, and enjoy a little of the things you enjoy that aren't anywhere near to being health foods, but try and eat plenty of the stuff that you know is good for you too, and take care of your body and mind, you'll hopefully be with us for a long while yet. and if you make it to 85 and the idea of hanging around much longer isn't appealing any more, then you can always choose to do something about it (eg: take up some invigorating dangerous sports, get a bit over enthusisatic with the cold medicine, etc) cos at least you'll have the option!

 

[Dirty Martini]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lani

I don't want to live till I'm 90... Heck I don't want to live past 60

You'll probably be reconsidering that stance when you're in your 50s! My mom is nearing 60 and she's in a great period of her life. I hope I can say the same when I'm her age.

97 seems old, taurushead, because you're still SO young. But you know what? IT'S A LONG TIME FROM NOW SO STOP WORRYING.

Sheesh, girl. Enjoy your life right now. In 20 years, you'll look back and wonder where your youth went, and you'll realize you never enjoyed it while you had it.

 

[gaya]

Quote:

Originally Posted by OregonAmy

You'll probably be reconsidering that stance when you're in your 50s! My mom is nearing 60 and she's in a great period of her life. I hope I can say the same when I'm her age.

97 seems old, taurushead, because you're still SO young. But you know what? IT'S A LONG TIME FROM NOW SO STOP WORRYING.

Sheesh, girl. Enjoy your life right now. In 20 years, you'll look back and wonder where your youth went, and you'll realize you never enjoyed it while you had it.

You are so right. Worrying is such a waste of time and 60 is not old! One of my profs is in his 60's and he and his wife participate in the senior olympics, go mountain climbing, camping etc and have such a full life. But...that's not to say that people shouldn't take care of themselves when young either.

 

[isowish]

I want to live 'till I'm 100+, but I don't stress about it! Taurushead, relax, please

PS, Lani: when my cousin was my age (17) she swore she'd kill herself rather than live to 30. She's 26 now. She's changed her mind considerably.

 

[Cissy]

Quote:

Originally Posted by OregonAmy

Sheesh, girl. Enjoy your life right now. In 20 years, you'll look back and wonder where your youth went, and you'll realize you never enjoyed it while you had it.

seriously. I wasted my high school years trying to weigh less, worrying about that kind of bull****.

 

[taurushead]

thanks for so many responses!

i didn't mean i WANTED to die when i was 60! eheh. no way hosay. i can't WAIT to be 60 (i could list the reasons but i won't) and 97 is even better, i more meant..if living til 97 is more important than living a fun life, and if control means barely living at all...then do i really want that? it never even dawned on me, until now.

i dont live off junk, and i probably won't clog up my arteries coz i naturally prefer GOOD food, all the same..the idea that i can actually do what i want, go to friends' bdays, make the best choice out of poor options sometimes, is really..relieving. your replies made lots of sense, and im taking them in, as usual. i just felt like i had to post coz ive never had that perspective before. its always been 'well its all very well to eat a biscuit that somebody made...but that'll kill me down the track so i don't want to. and there's nothing else so ill just be hungry all day. or not go at all.' etc etc etc, but now im thinking...well if i never leave my house...living like THAT until 97..would suck. coz it sucks now.

well it did til i put this into practise yesterday and now i feel like im flying

even THOUGH..to be honest, i haven't made any choices different to usual, because i LIKE what i eat. its just..amazing to know i don't HAVE to plan it all out and its REALLY not the most important thing on earth.

ya know?

sounds moronic..but yeah.

 

[Ludi]

taurushead, you worry so much! I worry about you worrying so much...

 

[jeneticallymodified]

doesn't sound moronic at all, lol. sounds like a moment of clarity to me! it does sound like you're starting to relax about food a bit more, and part of that process is questioning your old (and in some ways comfortable) disordered thinking and logic.

i remember going through this when i was recovering from depression (not with food, but with confidence and self image- but i feel like its the same stuff really- its all about fear and control, deep down, i think!). i remember starting to think 'i can do this!' and 'what was i thinking/worrying about?' and feeling a bit braver, more hopeful, and like i could walk with a bit of a bounce in my step for a change, etc.

it takes a bit to readjust your thinking, and to get confident in your new ways of veiwing things, but its such a cool ride. having one of those days when everything seems easier, and things click into place is excellent.... its really exhilarating isnt it? lol!

 

[froggythefrog]

If you're not enjoying what you're eating, take your life back! Don't strain yourself.