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My girlfriend wants me to sell my house and rent so ill have more money to do stuff on the weekends and things. When she suggested that it got to think that every other woman ive been with has also wanted me to spend my money on her. And do really far out things to suport the lifestyle they want and to hell with me sort of thing.<br><br>
Is it just me or do women really care more about the size of a guys wallet than anything else? Have I just met the wrong women?<br><br>
I dunno Im beginning to think that if this relationship ends I should just forget dating and be single forever. Not cause I dont have the money more so because it seems like women dont care about people and prefer material possesions.<br><br>
I just want to add I always pay for her when we go out and i never complain or anything and i dont mind its just that selling my house seems a bit much i dunno i could be wrong i often am.
 

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Has to be the type of women.<br><br>
I'm on the same page as you, as far as being better off single.<br><br>
I work for very low wages and just can't afford to take care of another person. Dating always has me in so much debt. It's just not worth it.
 

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Yeah...just like all men are shallow and obsessed with nabbing a thin, lithe, blonde girlfriend <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:">
 

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There was a study done once where they showed pictures of men and included some demographic info on the guy including his income. Then women were asked to rate how attractive the men were. The men whose salaries were higher were rated higher in terms of attractiveness by the women.<br><br>
They changed the incomes on the pictures and then asked another group of women to rate attractiveness of the men. They did this several times with different groups of women, and consistently, the men with the higher incomes were rated higher.<br><br>
Whether it's subconscious or not, women place income level as high on the list of things that make a man desirable.
 

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There was a study done once where they showed pictures of men and included some demographic info on the guy including his income. Then women were asked to rate how attractive the men were. The men whose salaries were higher also were also given high scores for attractiveness by the women.<br><br>
Then they changed the incomes on the pictures and then asked another group of women to rate attractiveness of the men. They did this several times with different groups of women, and consistently, the men with the higher incomes were rated higher.<br><br>
Whether it's subconscious or not, women place income level as high on the the list of things that make a man desirable.</div>
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That doesn't mean it is the only thing that matters to all women, which is what the OP seems to be suggesting.
 

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It's partially the women you're dating.<br>
But it's also partially our society. In general, women are valued for their beauty and men ar valued for their income.<br><br>
That said, do you owe more on your house than it is worth? If so, she might have a point about selling it and renting instead. Whether you spend the money on fun weekend activities or put it in a retirement account is up to you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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Erm...what? It's the type of women you're dating. I'm a little insulted as a woman that you might think otherwise. Not all women are like that, just like not all guys are obssessed with thin, lithe, blonde women. I couldn't care less what my boyfriend earns or what any hypothetical suitor earned, and I pay my own damn way. It's a nice gesture every now and then but frankly it makes me a tad uncomfortable, so I'll pay for him the next time and we're square. Don't tar all of us with the same brush because you've come across a few high maintenance, material girl types..
 

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Erm...what? It's the type of women you're dating. I'm a little insulted as a woman that you might think otherwise. Not all women are like that, just like not all guys are obssessed with thin, lithe, blonde women. I couldn't care less what my boyfriend earns or what any hypothetical suitor earned, and I pay my own damn way. It's a nice gesture every now and then but frankly it makes me a tad uncomfortable, so I'll pay for him the next time and we're square. Don't tar all of us with the same brush because you've come across a few high maintenance, material girl types..</div>
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My current girlfriend said the same thing until she starte going on about how I should get a better paying job and how I should sell my house so I can afford to spend more money on her. Just saying.
 

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My current girlfriend said the same thing until she starte going on about how I should get a better paying job and how I should sell my house so I can afford to spend more money on her. Just saying.</div>
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"Just saying" that one person doesn't prove that all women are like that. I find wealth to be a turn-off.
 

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I've never cared what occupation a guy had ( except for slaughterhouse worker or commercial fisherman) and I've always taken care of myself. I prefer doing inexpensive or free things on a date...hiking or home watching a video. I have gone out with a few well off men and it always made me uncomfortable when they would spend a lot of money. I couldn't help but think what a waste, they could have used that to pay bills or put in a savings account for emergencies. I would definitely say it's the type of women you are dating.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Kindred</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2909910"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
My current girlfriend said the same thing until she starte going on about how I should get a better paying job and how I should sell my house so I can afford to spend more money on her. Just saying.</div>
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There's something about relationship problems that compels people to stereotype an ENTIRE gender that includes billions of individuals.<br><br>
The "all women are gold diggers" stereotype isn't any more valid than stereotypes like "all men are rapists and perverts"<br><br>
People are people. Some suck and some are awesome. Things like race and gender can't be used to judge an entire giant group of human beings, that's silly.<br><br>
Personally, I make a lot more money than my boyfriend. I have a full time job and he works from home so I'm technically the 'breadwinner.' And guess what? I still love him and think he's hot in SPITE of my genital handicap <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:">
 

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You create the weirdest threads, Kindred.
 

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You create the weirdest threads, Kindred.</div>
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Is this the same girlfriend that would leave you if you didn't watch tv with her?<br><br>
I think you should sell your house. Not so you could spend money on your gf but so you could afford to eat more than just oats, potatoes, and powdered milk.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/spew.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":spew:">
 

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I just want to add I always pay for her when we go out and i never complain or anything and i dont mind its just that selling my house seems a bit much i dunno i could be wrong i often am.</div>
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Maybe next time you should find some women who insist on paying half or some of the time (if you're the one who's making the suggestions as to where to go or what to do, particularly expensive ones most of the time) and date them for a while before going onto girlfriend/boyfriends status.<br><br>
At this day and age, I find it odd that any women with a proper sense of self worth would hold on to idiotic gender roles where the men are supposed to pony up and pay for everything while the women are supposed to do what? Get back in the kitchen and make him a sammich? Put out whenever he likes? If she has a full time employment then she should be able to pay as much as you can, if not then the two of you should find more cheap activities that both of you could afford.
 

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It's not a woman-thing, it's a society thing. Our society values money a great deal. Then again, by paying for everything for her, you're giving her the impression that it's okay. My boyfriend buys me gifts, but I buy him things too - including paying for meals for the both of us too, and usually we split the bill 50:50 (we buy for eachother for birthdays and occasions and things). There's nothing wrong with treating someone you care about, but if it's all one-sided you have to ask if you're being taken advantage of.<br><br>
Personally, if I thought someone was as money-orientated and willing to spounge off of me as you make this girl sound I'd have dumped her a long time ago. You don't sound like you like her all that much tbh, so why make big decisions based on her oppinion?
 

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My current girlfriend said the same thing until she starte going on about how I should get a better paying job and how I should sell my house so I can afford to spend more money on her. Just saying.</div>
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Sounds like she's a liar then.
 

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Girlfriends are expensive, yes. Supporting a family is even more expensive. It's just how it is in our society. Men are generally the expected caregiver. The problem seems to be some partners, and some children, are spoiled - they have incredible expectations for what that caregiving entails.<br><br>
Take her out to taco bell and go geocaching some weekend (or whatever). It's ridiculous to expect five-star restaurants or big fancy dates every weekend. Save up the nice things for special days, anniversaries, and the like.<br><br>
Whatever you do, don't sell your house for a very ephemeral and costly series of dates. In two years you might have your house, in two years even the memories of those dates will be fading.
 
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