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Ok, so, I have a friend from the shop where I volunteer. I was round her house drinking wine this evening, we got pretty tipsy and didn't realise how late it was. Her husband offered to walk me to the bus stop, took my tennis racket and then HELD MY HAND. Wah? I didn't know how to react so I just jabbered random crap til we got to a main road, he gave me a hug then gave me 50 quid to get a taxi home.

Freaking out a little. Am I overreacting? I don't think it's normal for married men to hold other women's hands...

Also he may or may not have tried to kiss me, I'm not sure so I don't want to read too much into that. But man that was a long hug...

Dammit, this crap is giving me stress pains


I don't know what to think or how to react or anything. I have a tendency to overreact.
 
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One thing that bothers me is it's such a SILLY thing. It's not like anyone is going to get anything out of it but it still crosses a weird line.
don't worry darling. you application to be a nun is whizzing through the catholic church on a lightening bolt!
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in man speak, i'd say he was putting a move on you or judging your interest in him. if it was the latter, i'm sure he's been cooled.
 
#31 ·
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Yeah, I'm starting to agree with soberness.

I was left shaking at the time though, partly because I think the psychological effect of being handed a big wad of cash by a guy saying 'please let me take care of you' freaks me out a little


Arg I wish I hadn't started this thread, I am paranoid someone will read it and I'm making a massive deal over nothing.
he said, "please let me take care of you"? That (to me) is creeeeeepy
 
#32 ·
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I am sorry you had to go through that. I had experience with someone's husband once moved on me and later on got me in bed with him for almost a year off and on. I am lucky that my husband came along so I was able to stop the mess at the time.
This post really rubs me the wrong way, seems like you think you have no responsibility for your actions....."the husband did this and that"....uhm, you didn't have to sleep with him!


Anyway, I do think the hand-holding is odd but not too, too alarming. Would you feel safe to be around him alone again, do you think?
 
#33 ·
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Ok, so, I have a friend from the shop where I volunteer. I was round her house drinking wine this evening, we got pretty tipsy and didn't realise how late it was. Her husband offered to walk me to the bus stop, took my tennis racket and then HELD MY HAND. Wah? I didn't know how to react so I just jabbered random crap til we got to a main road, he gave me a hug then gave me 50 quid to get a taxi home.

Freaking out a little. Am I overreacting? I don't think it's normal for married men to hold other women's hands...

Also he may or may not have tried to kiss me, I'm not sure so I don't want to read too much into that. But man that was a long hug...

Dammit, this crap is giving me stress pains


I don't know what to think or how to react or anything. I have a tendency to overreact.
You're not overacting.

Any unwanted physical contact isn't something that has to be tolerated. I've often times seen men try to get away with doing things that are not all right with women while they're tipsy and it really gets to me. Even if it's not entirely sexual.
 
#36 ·
It's just annoyingly awkward. May see him tomorrow (seeing his wife). I am hoping everything will be normal and will be as if awkwardness never happened. Except I have to give him his money back, so at the very least we need to admit that he handed me a silly amount of money.
 
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