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I was wondering how can you tell if your in love or if it is just a crush? I cant tell if i am in love with some1 or if its just a crush <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smitten.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":smitten:">
 

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you have to be stuck in a airport for 12 hours, spend exorbatent amounts of cash on crappy airport food including a $7 beer... give yourself scoliosis from carrying your bags everywhere you go because they don't provide lockers at airports anymore due to stupid people that blow up planes, fly to a completely different city because all other flights are booked, get your wallet raped by hertz to rent a car to drive 6 hours when you have been awake 20 hours already. it's safe to say that it's not a crush if you are willing to do all of that.
 

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If you have to ask, it's probably just a crush.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
It takes time to be truly in love with someone, so if it's someone you don't know very well it's probably not love yet.<br><br>
A crush can be more fun then love though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"><br><br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>purrpelle</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
you have to be stuck in a airport for 12 hours, spend exorbatent amounts of cash on crappy airport food including a $7 beer... give yourself scoliosis from carrying your bags everywhere you go because they don't provide lockers at airports anymore due to stupid people that blow up planes, fly to a completely different city because all other flights are booked, get your wallet raped by hertz to rent a car to drive 6 hours when you have been awake 20 hours already. it's safe to say that it's not a crush if you are willing to do all of that.</div>
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oh yeah, and when you arrive at your final destination you look like you've been run over by a bus. twice.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>purrpelle</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
oh yeah, and when you arrive at your final destination you look like you've been run over by a bus. twice.</div>
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<br><br><br><span style="color:#008000;">That's not what being hit by a bus 2x looks like. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/lipsrsealed2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":sealed:"><br><br></span>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>~Brandon</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><span style="color:#008000;">That's not what being hit by a bus 2x looks like. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/lipsrsealed2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":sealed:"><br><br></span></div>
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It all depends. Did there happen to be fish aboard this bus? Or perhaps a sandwhich-making monkey?
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Katt Fink</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
It all depends. Did there happen to be fish aboard this bus? Or perhaps a sandwhich-making monkey?</div>
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<br><br><br><span style="color:#008000;">No, all the fish were in school(s). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br><br><br>
And my sources indicate that there were no monkeys present.</span>
 

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It all depends. Did there happen to be fish aboard this bus? Or perhaps a sandwhich-making monkey?</div>
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way to merge threads!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hamster.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hamster:"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:">
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>purrpelle</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
you have to be stuck in a airport for 12 hours, spend exorbatent amounts of cash on crappy airport food including a $7 beer... give yourself scoliosis from carrying your bags everywhere you go because they don't provide lockers at airports anymore due to stupid people that blow up planes, fly to a completely different city because all other flights are booked, get your wallet raped by hertz to rent a car to drive 6 hours when you have been awake 20 hours already. it's safe to say that it's not a crush if you are willing to do all of that.</div>
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Awwww... so all-in-all, a pretty average trip through the American transportation system?<br><br><br><br>
Glad to know it went so smoothly! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smitten.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":smitten:">
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Volleyballchick</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I was wondering how can you tell if your in love or if it is just a crush? I cant tell if i am in love with some1 or if its just a crush <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smitten.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":smitten:"></div>
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I agree with Mary - if you have to ask, its definitely a crush. Love isn't instantaneous - it is fluid, mutable, and most importantly, grows. :) What you might think is love at one point looks like infatuation from the 20/20 vision of hindsight. ;-)<br><br><br><br>
When it is love, trust me, sweetie - you will know.
 

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I also agree; if you have to ask- then it's just a crush.<br><br><br><br>
Love is..unmistakable- although lust can masquerade as love...
 

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I use "love" to describe a kind of relationship, rather than just a feeling. Having a crush can blossom into "falling in love" if it becomes more than daydreaming and moves into something both people are engaged in and enjoying. But it's still not "love" until the two people go through some life together, have some difficult conversations, make some serious choices.<br><br><br><br>
Most love relationships begin with "falling in love", and there is nothing wrong with that. At that stage, you <b><i>can't</i></b> really tell what kind of relationship will emerge. And, in my experience, it's not wise to force the issue by deciding prematurely whether it's "really love" or not. Enjoy the present, let the future come however it does, and leave the labels aside until they are no longer an issue.
 

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things that might mean you're in love<br><br><br><br>
-you would go just about anywhere (pick up and move, endure a trip as described earlier in the thread, etc.) for him (or her)<br><br>
-you realize that his faults/quirks are something you really wouldn't change (at least on most days)<br><br>
-if the feelings last a really long time (months/years - not weeks) as you get to him him/her<br><br><br><br>
But, usually, you just know and won't have to ask.
 

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if you've been with a person for 4 years without actually seeing them face to face. but would try to map out walking from texas to europe and catch a boat over to europe, then you're in love. if you've walked 10 miles in snow and pouring rain for 6 months just to talk to the person for a few minutes, you're in love...or insane. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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If you don't know if you're in love, you aren't. Crushes can be fun too though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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things that might mean you're in love<br><br><br><br>
-you would go just about anywhere (pick up and move, endure a trip as described earlier in the thread, etc.) for him (or her)<br><br>
-you realize that his faults/quirks are something you really wouldn't change (at least on most days)<br><br>
-if the feelings last a really long time (months/years - not weeks) as you get to him him/her<br><br><br><br>
But, usually, you just know and won't have to ask.</div>
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I especially agree with the part of being truly aware of the other person's flaws and loving them and their flaws anyway (maybe while simultaneously pulling your hair out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> ). I would say you have to have endured negative events with the person, had bad times in your relationship, maybe even times when you were really fed up or ready to call it quits, but something profound keeps bringing you back.<br><br><br><br>
If you still see the person as super fantastic and perfect, if you gloss over all their bad points, and the solution to all your problems, or like some insta-happy and constant giddiness pill, it's not love. Of course there can be periods when one feels this way, just not on an ongoing basis.<br><br><br><br>
I also agree with those that it's not really an all or nothing thing, it comes on gradually, changes over time, and can feel different with different people.<br><br><br><br>
But I think people tend to first say "I love you" when the love is still in it's very early stages, just barely starting to take root.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Seusomon</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I use "love" to describe a kind of relationship, rather than just a feeling. Having a crush can blossom into "falling in love" if it becomes more than daydreaming and moves into something both people are engaged in and enjoying. But it's still not "love" until the two people go through some life together, have some difficult conversations, make some serious choices.<br><br><br><br>
Most love relationships begin with "falling in love", and there is nothing wrong with that. At that stage, you <b><i>can't</i></b> really tell what kind of relationship will emerge. And, in my experience, it's not wise to force the issue by deciding prematurely whether it's "really love" or not. Enjoy the present, let the future come however it does, and leave the labels aside until they are no longer an issue.</div>
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Excellent post! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":up:">
 

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yeah i see.. well i dont think he loves me for one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/undecided.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":-/"> atleast does not like me as much as i like him. and even with his negative side i still really like him and i think about him all the time. maybe im just obsessive idk
 

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Part of the joy of falling in love, is just knowing its love, no one can tell you how love will feel...thats part of the excitment...you will know, how? well no one can tell you..Its different for everyone..but you will know..and you WONT have to ask
 
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