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So at the month mark, im planning on telling my parents im a vegetarian. This is what i want to say. Any suggestions, or papers that i can print out to show them? Or anything i have incorrect? THANKYOU! ( sorry its long!)<br><br>
Hey can i talk to you for a minute? This is really important, and i'd appreciate it if you heard me out, then talked. Okay. Ive descided to go vegetarian. That means i wont be eating meat anymore. This includes anything that at one time had a face. So birds, pigs, cows, fish, chicken, and turkeys all had faces, so i wont be eating them anymore. I also cant eat anything with geletin in it. I made this decision because of ethical, moral and health issues. I havent eaten meat in a month so far, so this wont cause you any extra work, or worrying. Ive been making mostly my own meals, and am getting in enough nutrition. If any time you think i might be becoming un healthy, we can always make an appointment with a nutritionist to check it out. The ethical reason is because of how the animals are treated. The animals are held in tiny spaces crammed with other animals. They arent regurally cleaned and the animals are normally sick. the chickens beaks are normally seared off without painkillers so they cant peck each other. Pigs are driven insane once they have their piglets because they have no materals to make a nest for their babies. They also have their tails chopped off when fully consious. The cows are imprgnated and injected with hormones to keep up a constant supply of milk. Then they are normally skinned alive fully cconcious. I cant immagine eating the animals knowing how much they have to suffer to give me a meal. By going vegetarian i can save 50 animals a year. thats 500 animals lives i can save in 10 years. Another reason is that i consider myself an animal lover and i can do this to animals and still call myself that. Another reason is morals. Im becoming a psychologist to help people, and make the world a better place. This is just another way for me to do this. Then there are health reasons vegetarians are proven to have a lower risk of heart disease, heart attack, and cancer than meat eaters. Also a non meat diet is every bit as nutritious, if not more than a meat diet. I can get enough of the minerals and vitamins that i need by eating plants. The only one i cant get is B12, which i have a vitamin with 100% of my daily value in. I dont think any less of you because you eat meat, just like i hope you dont think less of me for not eating it. This is just me doing something that i need to do. I really want you to support my decision on this, and not try sabotoge my efforts. Because if i know you can support me, id consider choosing a college closer to where we live. So im done talking now, and if you have any questions or anything you want to know, let me know and i'll do my best to answer it.
 

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I think to an omnivore, especially when you're coming out to your parents, you're going to sound a bit too preachy, defensive, and offensive. You have to keep it as casual as possible so it sounds like you're just making this decision for yourself and not imposing it on others, and so that you can show your parents it's really not a big deal that you've made this decision, and they'll be less likely to worry or pick a fight.<br><br>
To do this, I'd cut out the statistics and the examples of the way factory farmed animals are treated. Cut the whole reasons on why you became vegetarian to something casual and simple summing up your feelings, like, "I'm becoming vegetarian because I love animals and don't to eat them anymore." Moral and ethical reasons are implied, you don't need to delve into it or they'll think you're debating and questioning their morality. Also, you don't need to give examples of the nutrients you need unless they specifically ask. Instead, just say something like, "I've already done a lot of research and I know how to get all the proper nutrients that I need to have a balanced diet".<br><br><br>
Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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It sounds wonderful but I do agree with Disney Jessica on this one, you need to be sensative to meat eating omni's because they don't understand, You need to do what Jessica said and be simple. Maybe have a family fun night of non cruelty of any kind night, play a game and get the book why we don't eat animals even tho that is for children that is a learning tool for people. My best wishes goes out to you and I hope you will get peace soon. You might try to see if your parents can do tacos or burritos and that nature and tell them you have beans and rice in it instead. I would find some medical person also that supports Veg diets and to explain things with your parents also. People are defenseless because they feel guilty eating around people that don't eat meat for the cause we are in. Take care and don't be too hard on your family, love them the way they are and enjoy the good times. You should suggest to your mom to make buffet styled meals and so people can serve themselves with that way you can eat what you want and they can eat what they want. I do that in my home its easier and you don't have to sqaubble if your not eating a certian piece of food.
 

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Thank you both so much. I'm going to make it more casual. Like " Hey, so i've descided to go vegetarian. That means i wont eat meat anymore. Ive done alot of research so i know how to make it work and stay healthy. I hope you understand."
 

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Agree with the advice you have already been given.<br>
In the future if your family are curious about more in depth reasons then you can discuss it with them then. It is not necessary or appropriate in the begginning.<br><br>
Good luck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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Yes I was going to come out as Vegeterian this Christmas for sure however, I don't want to put drama at Christmas time so I am just going to tell people why I am eating the way I do is because I had major health issues with animal products.
 

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I'd tell people BEFORE you see them, if there is going to be food at all. but I like your revised speech better than the original one. I think the more relaxed you sound about it, the more relaxed theyll be. as soon as someone says 'i have to tell you something please hear me out' you automatically think the worst and they will react differently.
 

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Good luck, let us know how it goes! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> It was tough for me coming out to my mom and step-dad, and they can be mean about it, but at least I didn't have to tell the rest of my extended family. My mom told everyone without me realizing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">.<br><br>
Also, even if they react as bad as possible, it'll die down after a while <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">. Sometimes they just can get angry about you making such a different choice from them. My parents reacted awfully and they still bug me about it but my mom can be really helpful now, too, so sometimes it can just take adjusting to, don't feel let down if they don't react as good as you might hope or expect. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> If they do react badly, just remember it's no reason to give up and we here at veggieboards are all here to help and support you with any issues you have with them! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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"Coming out" as a vegetarian made me giggle <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br>
But in all seriousness, good luck!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>vegkid</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2986113"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
"Coming out" as a vegetarian made me giggle <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br>
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Haha well it can be stressful, when I came out as a veggie my parents acted like I had come out about being a drug addicted alcoholic or something <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">. I'm still afraid they're going to try to force feed me cheese covered, egg battered meat in some sort of vegan intervention
 

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<div class="quote-block">Haha well it can be stressful, when I came out as a veggie my parents acted like I had come out about being a drug addicted alcoholic or something . I'm still afraid they're going to try to force feed me cheese covered, egg battered meat in some sort of vegan intervention</div>
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I hope they dont do that... tehe vegan intervention.
 

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The way I am coming out this Christmas is to ask my family to please give me some cookbooks that are For Vegeterians and Vegans. So that way there will not be conflict. Plus my mom knows alittle already because I told her in 09 Christmas I was thinking about it and she would like to see her daughter more slendor then I have been. I have a few in mind that will joke about it but the girls of the family understands especially my niece. My niece is for peace and peaceful things and she hardly eats anything of an animal, however Good Luck on your coming out and just keep it simple.
 

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I agree, treat it casually. If you don't make a big problem of it the chances are smaller that they will <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Be calm, confident and know your facts to answer any questions. Don't get worked up or angry, give them time. Good luck!
 
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