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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>.Goth-Alice.</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2938864"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
theyre such sweetiepies till they get what they want.</div>
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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"> On their best behavior...until you've forgiven them.
 

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My ex was exactly like that, cheat on me, i find out, i get mad, he get's defensive, day later comes back all nice "i'll never do it again, i'm sorry give me another chance". Less than a week later, treating me like crap with names, and talking to other girls again, and as it goes on it gets worse, and sometimes he stops caring about the getting you to forgive him, he stays an ass and you stay with him, and if like me you really break it off then comes the "i'll change, i'll do anything you want" and if again like me you don't actually give in or be with him but you say if he can actually change maybe, then he will not change, he'll just stop calling you a b**** as much as he did, and 6 months later swear he's changed and expect you to take him back, you drop him for good and that's that, or you take him back, he never changes, you're stuck and get treated like s*** forever thankfully i went with the former, obviously. Well i'm just a big ball of sunshine right now aren't i lol.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Vegan_Liz</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2937438"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
You're probably right. I mean I know he deleted all of his emails but I feel as though he and I are both starting anew.<br><br>
I wish I could explain him. He's very complex. I don't think that there is anything left for me to say, only to play it by ear. Don't get me wrong, I really appreciate all of the advice that you guys have given me, it really made me feel a lot less alone in this situation. But I have to do what I think is right and what I think is right is to stay with him.<br><br>
I hope no one thinks less of me because of it.</div>
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You're using the word complex to describe a man? Well there's your problem right there, sister! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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Jeez, I wish i could get a girlfriend who believed everything i said. especially for the times when i'm not actually lying.lol
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>AlixJ18</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2939625"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
My ex was exactly like that, cheat on me, i find out, i get mad, he get's defensive, day later comes back all nice "i'll never do it again, i'm sorry give me another chance". Less than a week later, treating me like crap with names, and talking to other girls again...</div>
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You expect him not to talk to other girls, to talk only to men, and you?
 

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You expect him not to talk to other girls, to talk only to men, and you?</div>
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I don't think that's what she meant.
 

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You expect him not to talk to other girls, to talk only to men, and you?</div>
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There is a difference between talking to other girls in a conversational way, and flirting with other females while ignoring your girlfriend. And BTW to those males who think that we are all on a Man Witchhunt, just to let you know that we would be saying the same thing if it was a man going out with a woman who was flirting with men all the time and ignoring him.
 

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Normally I would be the first one on the "end it" bandwagon, but you know both you and him best, and there are some people who make silly errors, or dont think of things as "cheating", and it is possible that he will genuinely change and treat you better now.<br><br>
That said, I think "hope for the best, prepare for the worst" would strongly apply in your situation. Put work into your relationship, but also build a life outside him. Make some friends on your college course, or join a society to meet people with shared interests or something. If you have been at college in this location for some time and still have not made friends there, that suggests you are letting your life reolve around him and it is a bit understandable that either he takes you for granted or even feeling smothered by the amount of time you spend together. By making time for other thngs in your life, you make both you and him realize that you have other options, making him stop taking you for granted and giving you a bit of a better perspective on how much you need the relationsip.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>soilman</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2939981"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
You expect him not to talk to other girls, to talk only to men, and you?</div>
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Ya as others said that's not what i meant, and have you not been in a relationship? because i think most people could understand what i mean. How do i find out about him talking to these girls? Finding naked/half naked pics on his phone, ya that's so platonic, and this man yes i only wanted him to talk to other men, because it was impossible for him to be just friends with a girl.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>soilman</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2939981"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
You expect him not to talk to other girls, to talk only to men, and you?</div>
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It all depends on the manner in how he speaks to other women. Obviously it's okay if he talks to other women but WHAT he talks about and how he talks is what matters.
 

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You expect him not to talk to other girls, to talk only to men, and you?</div>
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Really?
 

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There has got to be something missing as that seems to be a pretty unrealistic request. Is it just a couple of girls or all girls? Because unless there was actual really good reasons as to why he should stop talking to them, that honestly screams to me "I don't trust you" and in a relationship well... I would probably end up breaking up with that person if that continued.
 

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I just wanna throw my 2 cents in here. Vegan_Liz, I know you are probably feeling all starry-eyed and hopeful after you and your boyfriend have made up and started over again. Really, I wish you all the best and hope that he does not hurt you again. But when I read what you have written, it reminds me how I was at the beginning of my own relationship and how things have started to go downhill. My bf pushed for a relationship really fast and it wasn't more than a few months after we started dating that the suspicious behavior started. After 4 years of his deception, cheating, and flirting with other women online, me catching him, defeniveness and outright lies on his part when I confronted him, him waffling between whether I was his friend or his girlfriend, breaking up, getting back together, and his unwillingness to really talk through any issues, I'm wishing I would have ended it much sooner. I am very forgiving and optimistic, so we had many second chances and new beginnings. Every time I was starting to trust him, he would do something to completely shatter that trust. I am still with him but not for much longer, because I deserve to be treated better! I'd like a real relationship if I am in one at all.<br><br>
Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't treat you the way you deserve or give you what you want. It's not worth it at all. Good luck.<br><br>
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Well, this group certainly seems tough on the bf in this situation, but what exactly was his huge crime? Talking to another woman? With his arm around her?<br><br>
We don't know if the bf knew the OP was feeling uncomfortable with the drunk guy in the bar. And, honestly, she couldn't get up and walk away from Drunky herself?<br><br>
Imo, OP desperately needs to stop appearing clingy and dependent; this is a new, 8 month relationship. My advice is to take a deep breath and meet some folks at school and make your own plans, get the most out of college...<br><br>
I know this comes off way meaner than I meant. I have been married almost 25 years and have 2 college-aged kids, which I guess explains why I butted in here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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The dude hung up on her several times. Although I would like to hang out with my friends with out my lady, it is not right. The guy is a dick. Dump him and if he loves you he will come back. if not, then save yourself the time.
 
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