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I'll have been with my girlfriend two months Tuesday, and we've decided that it's finally time to come out to our families. Somehow we've chosen Monday as the "big day," heh.

I love her more than anything in the whole world. I'm really scared about not being able to be alone with her (not even to fool around... just to be...) or even see her anymore.

She lives two hours from me, I moved from the same town about two and a half years ago, but she is my debate partner and we see each other frequently, now. I somehow think that this will become less frequent, especially since sleeping in the same place is most likely going to become disallowed.

I'm really scared about how my family is going to react, and how things are going to be different, and I could really use some encouragement.
 

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Dont worry - i dont come from experience but i dont think you should worry -

what are your families like? conservative? do you know how they will react? I'm sure that they will be fine and accepting with it. The thing is you have to get it out of the way and the longer you put it off the harder its going to get!

Good luck!!!!
 

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Just act like you want them involved, and you do want their approval... Don't be all defiant, and say silly things like 'she's my girlfriend, and i'm gonna go live with her now no matter what you say!'

yeah. I'm not speaking from much experience here either. but try it.
 

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oh wow. Good luck.


It was really scary coming out to my dad even though I knew he'd be fine with it (and actually I felt like a bit of a tool afterwards since it turned out he already knew - including knowing who my girlfriend was - and he assumed I knew he knew
but I guess it had to be said). There's always that bit of doubt in your mind where you don't KNOW how they will react, not for sure. I hope that your (and her) parents are understanding. One thing, though; do you think you're both putting a bit of pressure on each other by deciding to do it on the same day or whatever? It took me many attempts after I had 'decided' to actually get it over with, and it would suck to be rushed into it, even if you decided together one of you might wimp out or change your mind and THAT IS OKAY. You have all the time in the world.

Anyway. What are your parents like? They must be pretty cool if you are confident about doing this. I hope it all goes well for you. Here's an extra hug:
 

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Pressure... yeah, quite a lot. But I think I need that pressure or it may never happen. She was saying "I think by summer I'll have to," and I said "When you do, I will," because summer felt very far off and safe.

Except now somebody's started making up rumors about us kissing at a school dance (this didn't actually happen) that both of her little brothers have heard, and it's getting to be time. She said I didn't have to, but, as she said, "I've kept this from you for two months" is better than six [or more].

I don't think it'll be too bad. They won't be mad... I think my mom might cry. My dad'll go quiet and probably won't say much. But it's still scary... always the degree of uncertainty.
 

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Thank you all!

Heh, so much lost sleep for nothing ><

My parents were all "Meh, whatever, we love you anyways." Which is weird because my mom was saying "I don't pity her mother. That'd be so tough... terrible thing" about my friend. *shrugs*

Apparently they like her more than my last boyfriend ^^ [Who was sweet but rather unmotivated.]

My girlfriend, on the other hand, told her parents that she had something to say, and they quite literally pulled her aside before she could say anything and said "We know, we know who with, no we don't think it's a good idea for you to come out now. Don't tell your brothers." I shrug.

Thank you all... It's nice to be able to breathe again.
 

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I just read this topic and Congrats on coming out. I don't know from my own experinc ebut i have friends who are bi and it took them a lot of courage to come out .

And i think it's great the way your parents where with it all.
 
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