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Since becoming vegan over a month ago, I've had to begin purchasing my own groceries (I'm 17 and still living at home, as I'm still in High School). For the most part, I don't complain about this, to my parents. But in recent days, I've begun to notice MY food (among other things like my clothes, make-up, etc.) disappearing. My little sister, Erin has been eating it (and stealing them).<br><br>
Now, I know that I should happy that she's eating foods that don't contain animal products, voluntarily. But on the other hand, I'm a broke High School student who's stuck buying my own food- and she's eating it all! I've told her REPEATEDLY to stop. I've explained to her that I don't have that much money and that if she would like to help me pay for these groceries I'd be more than happy to share with her. But she flips out and starts cursing and cries to my parents about how I'm being psychotically possessive over my food. I'm a passive person- so after her rants I normally walk away and hope that I got through to her, regardless. Last night, I realized (after she used the vegan margerine that I had to drive 2 hours to purchase [I live in the middle of nowhere] to make biscuts) that she still isn't 'getting it'.<br><br>
Am I being unreasonable? I mean, it's gotten to the point that I feel as though I'm going to snap on her one day. I had a dream last night that I broke her nose. Again, I'm not a violent person- but I'm at my wits end, here! What do you think I can do to change this?
 

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What a bad sister!!!- YOu've eXplained this to her and she still steals your food vegan food? I would THUMP her over the head with a giant Falafel; some might think the violent approach is wrong, To me, the end justifies the means. First of all- If your parents won't do anything or step in then I think you have every right to protect your food- in some countries people get their hands cut off for stealing. next time she does it- take some thing of value from her, that she owns and sell it- It might be two wrongs- and neither of them might be right; however after she loses her "peice of younger sibling prperty here" she will know you mean business- If you'r parents still won't do anything to intervine, they might after listening to your sister cry about having been "billed" for her food-SEriously, what else can you do??
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by MsRuthieB</i><br><br><b>Just how old is she? What do your parents say? Have they intervened on your behalf?</b></div>
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Erin is 15, I'll be 18 in June.<br><br>
My parents want to 'stay out of it'. For instance, last night after I got angry with Erin for stealing my margerine, my parents said "Riely, we'll buy more margerine." After I explained to them that we don't have the right kind anywhere NEAR here, they told Erin to say she was sorry and to drop it. Needless to say, Erin never appoligized and I went into my bedroom to avoid further confrontation.<br><br>
That's the way it always works, in my house.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsdown.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":down:">
 

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It appears that there's nothing that you can do or say to your parents to get them to intervene....but I'm sure that something can be done about your sister. I like the idea of taking something valuable of hers, but I'm uncomfortable with the idea of selling it so that it's gone forever. Maybe if you take things and tell her you'll give her back one item for every week that she didn't steal your food...maybe that would be incentive. And just so she doesn't ransack your room trying to find the things you took, let a friend you trust hold on to the items for you.
 

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keep some stuff that won't rot without refrigeration in your room instead of the kitchen or some place where she can get them. eg you can keep apples, pears, bananas, etc will stay fresh in a fruit basket. (i live in a student hall and i do this and have no probs with it) as for the perishables, seems like the best option is to take something off her and offer it back to her if she stops taking ur things, like Herself suggested. (i am a bit uncomfortable with selling the items as well) in the mean time, save up, and when u have enough, get ur own mini fridge and put it in ur room. get one tht can be locked!
 

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Ah, sisters. One more reason why I'm happy not to live at home. Your parents are being lazy. You are spending your time and money and they are letting your sister rip you off. Even if they don't feel like dealing with it, they should. They're not rewarding you for being responsible and are teaching your sister that it's okay to be a brat. They are just allowing it to elevate to a level it shouldn't. I'd be more irritated with them than I would with her because they are suppose to be the responsible ones.<br><br>
Maybe you should sit down and talk to them about it without your sister being around. Don't raise your voice or spend the whole time saying what a jerk your sister is. Instead, tell them how you are trying so hard to make this change in your life and you could really use their support. Explain to them how your sisters behavior makes you feel. Easier said than done, I know. Good luck.
 

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It sounds like your sister is being a real jerk and your parents seem to be passively sabotaging your efforts to become vegan by making you buy your own food and allowing your sister to eat it.<br><br><br><br>
I believe a tiny fridge can be purchased for about $100. It might be a good investment...for your bedroom. Or, if you can't afford that...how about a "lock box" to put inside the fridge?<br><br><br><br>
I have a 9 year old who knows better than to eat her big brothers' "stash" of food bought with their own $.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck...at least you will be gone soon, right?
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by mushroom</i><br><br><b>at least you will be gone soon, right?</b></div>
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3 Months, 9 Days to go before I move 350 miles away. (I'm not looking forward to it, or anything <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"> )<br><br><br><br>
I think that I will try to sit down and have a talk with my parents. That seems like the best idea if I really want to end this immediately. I feel if I started taking things from her, she'd start to do the same to me... it'd become a never ending battle- and she'd STILL continue to eat my food. She has no respect. Literally.
 

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if you're going to be moving in 3 months, i really don't think you should be getting so worked up about this (or maybe you're not and just needed to vent heh). yes, other people (read: siblings and roommates) can be extremely annoying or frustrating at times but often it's just a no-win situation. you have no idea how many times i complained to my roommates about not washing their dishes - i swear i haven't seen the bottom of my sink in months, it's so disgusting. but eventually i've given up trying.<br><br><br><br>
yes, it sucks that you are essentially losing time and money but hey, three months is a short time. 10 years from now, this will be such a minute thing, you'll laugh about how frustrated you got over it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> it seems that from what i've read in this thread and the 'no anything' thead, you've got a good head on your shoulders. so put this behind yourself and laugh about how ridiculous/silly your sister is acting, that's my advice <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br><br><br>
p.s. i'm moving 1800 miles in 20 days so i know the feeling!
 

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where do you keep the food ? what type of food does she take ? keep everythink that you can in your room and what you cant keep it in bags and tie the food up many times so she has to make racket to get it out. if she goes into your room to take the food your parents cant ignore that, thats a vile tresspass. i hate when people go in my room.
 

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Perhaps you could keep the food in a cooler filled with ice in the garage or something that your sister doesn't know about? Do you have a sympathetic neighbor who could lend refrigerator space?
 

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I liek the lock box idea in the 'fridge idea. Like put a lock on the drawer or soemthing. I would try to get a mini fridge too. I hate it when my brother's freinds come over and "de-veganize" my foods by spreading like butter and then spreading my peanut butter or something, then I cn't use it (but I don't have to buy it, so I guess it's not so bad). I need a job!
 

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If you're planning on getting a mini-fridge for college, go ahead and get one a few months ahead of time and keep perishables in there. Try to get the kind with a key (I know they're sold at Target for $80 where I live, hopefully that is the case somewhere near you). Good luck!
 

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You might want to buy some of that vegan margerine that you have to drive 2 hours to get, remove it from its original container, and put it in some other kind of container. Then buy some cheap margerine, or a can of Crisco and put it in the container that the vegan margerine comes in. But first melt down the cheap Crisco, mix in a bunch of cayenne pepper powder, a little yellow food coloring, and then pour it into molds that approximate its original shape. Taste a tiny spec to make sure that anyone who eats a whole pat, will be real unhappy. Then specifically warn her not to take your margerine (that will get her to take it sooner, while your still around to see the results). Or perhaps there are some really foul flavors you could mix in, instead of cayenne pepper, that won't be easily visually recognizable once mixed in. I'll try to think of something.<br><br><br><br>
I had exactly the same problem with my sister, when I was about 22, and she was about 20, and I was earning about 3,500 per year, and she was earning about 100,000. I physically restrained her from taking my carrots. She complained that I was psycho; my mother agreed but did nothing. She stopped taking my food. Perhaps she didn't want want to stimulate the psycho to have another psychotic episode. Yes, I haven't talked to this inconsiderate person in 10 years. I don't even know where she lives.<br><br><br><br>
If this happened again today, I think I would try the bait and switch tactic first, before the physical restraint.
 
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