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Literally, my job is full of people who thinks that you need "PROTEIN" to live! Unbeliveable!<br><br><br><br>
I especially have a boss who is a real<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/moonpie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":moonpie:"> - If you know what I mean. And he loves to embarrass me around other people, outsiders, friends, etc. and say cruel meat jokes to me. It really is horrible. I went to my boss serveral times and he says he's sorry, but he STILL does it EVERYDAY ALL THE TIME. I've even embarrased him on occassion about him calling me names in front of other people, but nothing works.<br><br><br><br>
Anybody have any ideas on what to do without losing my job?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/bigcry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":cry:">
 

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Yes, and he has addressed him also, he has said things like "cool out" - "stop saying things like that" - "that was not very nice" "you should give it a try and stop being so judgemental" etc. But it dose'nt work at all!
 

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If this is really making your work-life difficult and you've tried everything you can think of, I suggest calling whatever harrassment line you've got available to you at work (in the U.S., if that's where you are, every company must have an HR division to handle, among other things, instances such as these. If the company is exceptionally small they must have a phone number to a contract HR company that they work with).<br><br><br><br>
People often think that they can't complain about such harrassment unless it's of a sexual/racist nature, but anything that creates a hostile work environment is grounds for punitive action.<br><br><br><br>
Your boss is behaving abominably and definitely should be taken to task for it. People in authority need to remember that it isn't all fun and games (and a fat pay check) when you're the boss.
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by lighthouse25</i><br><br><b>Literally, my job is full of people who thinks that you need "PROTEIN" to live! Unbeliveable!<br><br></b></div>
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Actually, that's true. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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You need protein not 'PROTEIN' aka a thick steak. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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I agree with Quizeen, however, I would also start seriously looking for other work. Often that is the best option (especially for your mental health). It may not be a real option, but it doesn't hurt to keep your eyes open for something.<br><br><br><br>
What kind of work is it?
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Quizeen</i><br><br><b>If this is really making your work-life difficult and you've tried everything you can think of, I suggest calling whatever harrassment line you've got available to you at work (in the U.S., if that's where you are, every company must have an HR division to handle, among other things, instances such as these. If the company is exceptionally small they must have a phone number to a contract HR company that they work with).<br><br><br><br>
People often think that they can't complain about such harrassment unless it's of a sexual/racist nature, but anything that creates a hostile work environment is grounds for punitive action.<br><br><br><br>
Your boss is behaving abominably and definitely should be taken to task for it. People in authority need to remember that it isn't all fun and games (and a fat pay check) when you're the boss.</b></div>
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First, except in cases of harrassment that could cause EEOC problems, most HR divisions do not handle internal disputes between a boss and an employee. They may assist with information on company policy, but HR is *usuall* distinct from other company operations.<br><br><br><br>
Second, smaller companies often only have one or two people in personnel, plus mabe some in payroll. Rarely does a company use an outside firm to handle internal issues, aside from what may involve the EEOC.<br><br><br><br>
The "hostile work environment" is much more limited in the US, and vary greatly by state. It is *possible* that this conduct, even if found to be "hostile", is within the parameters of the law.<br><br><br><br>
I would advise lighthouse to be cautious about raising this issue with the HR department. Review your company guidelines about workplace behavior, and check online to see how these cases are handled in your state.
 

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Thank you for your wnderful advice, everyone. I won't sue over this matter, but however I will give it one last shot and sit down with both of my bosses and let them know what I plan to do which is to quit if I get one more comment, although this has been going on for three years, exactly how long I have been vegitarian. I will keep everyone posted!<br><br><br><br>
God Bless and thanks again.<br><br><br><br>
Oh by the way to answer somene's question earlier, I'm a secretary of a church. I know what you're saying, scarry how you can get critisized from eveyone... even church folk!
 

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"Oh by the way to answer somene's question earlier, I'm a secretary of a church. I know what you're saying, scarry how you can get critisized from eveyone... even church folk!"<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Oh my word. I'm speechless. That's really sad. It's one of the reasons I'm hesitant about going to church. I can't stand hypocrites!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/mad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":mad:">
 

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I used to work at a Philly's cheesteak place when I was veggie. (it was the only place that was hiring) and I got no end of sh*t about being veggie. Especially from this guy who always said he'd buy me lunch, but it'd have to be a hot dog. What an a**. People like that have no respect for other people. Period. They just want to show you up in front of others to make it look like they're getting to you.<br><br><br><br>
Don't quit over this thing. These people will have won that way. Church folk can be really cruel (look at our "president"!!) I grew up in a church and christian school, and they can be worse than a lot ot other people. Have you told this guy that his picking on you isn't very 'christian' behaviour? You should tell him that persecuting vegetarians is really weak and stupid, and why doesn't he grow up.
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by jwnyc</i><br><br><b>Don't quit over this thing. These people will have won that way. Church folk can be really cruel (look at our "president"!!) I grew up in a church and christian school, and they can be worse than a lot ot other people. Have you told this guy that his picking on you isn't very 'christian' behaviour? You should tell him that persecuting vegetarians is really weak and stupid, and why doesn't he grow up.</b></div>
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Yeah, I was wondering if the "not very Christian" approach has been tried.<br><br><br><br>
I don't think it would be wise to not quit just as a matter of principle. They "lose" automatically by having to find and train a new employee. Its more about the employee's happiness than the employer's unhappiness. Happiness is the best revenge.<br><br><br><br>
I am very in favor of fighting for the principle of the thing, but when it comes to the workplace, staying in a bad work environment is a high price to pay. If you have no quick means of legal or other redress, you just end up spending half your life there, stressed out at work and home, sleepless nights, and eventually it starts effecting your whole life. After a certain point it is best to just cut one's losses and move on.
 

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My, lighthouse, I'm dreadfully sorry that you're going through this. It's all too true that sometimes those who operate in "Christian" circles don't act with much kindness and respect.<br><br><br><br>
I suppose you could try winning him over with lots and lots of love. Find out what his favorite food is and veg*nize it. Shower him with thoughtful gifts (favorite food, etc), compliment him on what he does well, and be the worst person to insult possible. It's typically hard for people to continue being nasty to people who refuse to take it hard and respond with kindness instead.
 
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