My friend/sister of the heart is dying of a rapidly spreading re-occuring cancer and her time is very short. It is not a question of if but when. She is of the converted Jewish faith. I have no idea what to expect at her memorial service. Will there be a "wake"? Can someone help me out here? What memorial gifts are appropriate? I am quite in pieces, but I must be ready. It could be any day. Any Jewish backgrownds out there?