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my partner and i have adopted five stray/rescue cats over the years, recently we've been fostering a tiny kitten that we found living in an abandoned part of our building. we have a potential home for this kitty, but unfortunatley we're falling in love with this baby (we're calling him chevy) my question is to other foster parents.... how do you let go of these guys? how many cats are too many? we want to do the right thing for this kitty, but we don't know what the right thing is......
 

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It's tough letting go of a foster animal for sure......I haven't always been able to, and that's part of the reason why I have alot of cats. If the potential home for the kitten is definitely a good home, and if you thought that maybe you had room for one more, maybe you should adopt him out to those people, and maybe adopt an adult cat for yourself from a shelter, since they have the hardest time getting good homes. Just a thought....it's not something that I have done, since I seem to just "happen upon" homeless cats from time to time without going to a shelter.
 

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i do agree with you vegan kittykat, about adopting adult cats, but my other grown cats do not like other grown cats... they seem to feel sorry for orphans... the one adult cat i brought home is definately the outcat... oops... outcast.... i know the best thing to do is to give up chevy... but we have bonded so quickly and strongly with him....
 

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I totally understand the quick bonding thing. I don't know how anyone couldn't just fall in love instantly with a kitten. Good thing for the animals there's people like you.....what I don't understand is the people who "give up" their companion animals after having them for YEARS (they're having a baby, moving, etc.), dumping them in shelters or on the streets. I can't imagine in a million years ever doing that to any of my guys.....it would kill me. If you do decide to adopt him out, are you friendly with the people who might adopt him? Maybe you can visit him sometimes?
 

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people dump their unwanted animals off in our neighborhood all the time.... it's heartbreaking. a group of us feed and care for as many stray dogs&cats as possible... we try to get them fixed and healthy, but it can be overwhelming... i can't imagine treating another creature like that either.. i've had some tough times, but my cats have never missed a meal or lacked love or medical treatment... animals have given me so much, i can only try to give them something back. the prospective adoptive catmom lives a distance away, if i let chevy go, he's gone. we're trying to capture the rest of the litter... four of them have been placed... three to go....
 

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Too bad you don't live in L.A. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> My wife was just saying she wants to adopt a kitten for our 2 year-old cat. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br><br><br>
This is the same girl who'd never had a companion animal before. I think she's hooked.
 

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Sometimes you do fall for an animal almost instantly; it's just the same as wiith some people you meet--you feel so comfortable, so immediately, that you start believing in reincarnation! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> I don't foster, so I can't address your question directly, but I can tell you that I'm back up to nine cats. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> How many is too many? It depends on how many you can afford to take care of properly, as far as time, affection, vet bills, etc. are concerned, and how well and stress free they get along with each other.
 

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My mom tells me (half-jokingly) that I'm cold-hearted because I never keep any of my foster dogs (or cats), even though I definetely get attached and can relate, but I mainly remind myself that the more dogs I own the less dogs I can foster and the longer the waiting list will be. I interview everyone who applies for one of my fosters, so I try to make certain that anyone who adopts one of my animals will be able to provide it a very good home. So I take some comfort in the fact that the animals are going to good homes. I keep the phone numbers and contact info so that I can call and check up on them too. Some day I'm sure I probably will keep a foster, but not yet. I'm getting pretty attached to Mikey right now, and I (half-jokingly) tell my mom that I will keep him if no one adopts him within two years. Hopefully someone adopts him soon though cuz the longer you have one the harder it is to give them up. My mom kept her first foster dog and her third foster dog (she's on #5 now) and I think she made the right choice in keeping those two. Our shelter director (half-jokingly) say that it's okay to adopt your first foster as long as you sign a life-time agreement stating that you'll continue to foster more dogs. It's a personal decision, but if you're able to foster, keep doing it, the shelter system desparetly needs more people who are able to foster!!
 

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if we're not careful i know whats going to happen.... amanda and i will be the crazy old ladies with a million cats crawling all over the place <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> i guess there are worse fates....
 

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For me, it depends on your living arrangements, and how well the cats get along. I have two cats, and plan on staying with two, because they get along great together, and I dont want to spoil that, and also the expense. It would be tough to give an animal up that you are trying to save, but if you find it a great home it may be better off.
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by waywardmelanda</i><br><br><b>if we're not careful i know whats going to happen.... amanda and i will be the crazy old ladies with a million cats crawling all over the place <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> i guess there are worse fates....</b></div>
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LOL....I've been told several times that I'm gonna be one of those "crazy cat ladies" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">. Hey, the title works for me....
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> I figure I pretty well AM a crazy cat lady.
 

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I've been told I'm going to be a crazy old cat lady, too. My response is, "I hope so - it will be my dream come true!"
 

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Just make sure you don't cross from "crazy cat lady" (which is perfectly fine) to "crazy cat collector" (which is not good). If you get way too many cats you're risking their health and quality of life.
 

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we caught another stray tonight... and brought him directly upstairs to a neighbor who is as much of a sucker as we are. chevy goes to the vet tomorrow... i hope he's healthy... the poor little guy has a terrible cold. there are three more strays outside, we have three potential homes, so things are looking good.
 

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are you sure they're all strays? the majority of cat owners around here let the cats wander the neighborhood at will. Make sure if you do take in a stray, that you call all the local shelters and report a found cat in case someone calls them looking for their cat. And most newspapers will let you place "Found Pet" ads for free. But I assme they're probably obviously abandonded, and it sounds like you're doing a great thing. =)
 

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i'm pretty sure they're stray... if not they're good liars <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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A new guy appeared in my yard on Friday.....he has a collar, but no tags. He has been around constantly since he showed up, so I'm thinking either someone dumped him or he's wandered far from his home. I don't think he's neutered because he sprays and tries to have sex with the stray girls in my yard (they're all spayed, so needless to say they don't like him). So I'm going to try to catch him and have him neutered and then place a "found cat" ad. I assume the people who had him didn't bother having him neutered because he can't get pregnant, obviously not caring about the countless females he can impregnate. I'm so sick of irresponsible people <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/mad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":mad:">.
 

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isn't it amazing how people can be so irresponsible? one of our strays was actually dumped off in our neighborhood wearing a very loud bell... how could the poor thing hunt with a bell on? the first thing we did was take that bell off.
 

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Funny you should say that...this new guy in my yard has a bell on his collar too. It's nice how his people bothered to get him a collar with a bell, but not to get a tag with his info in case he gets lost or injured. Well, at least maybe they care about birds. What irks me is now I have to get him neutered & tested for FIV/leuk...I have to place an ad, post signs, etc. If these people were responsible animal people, he would already be neutered and THEY would have an ad in the paper and be posting signs. Unless they dumped him, of course. In which case, it looks like we'll have another member of the family <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">. Of course I pray his FIV/leuk tests come back negative.
 
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