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I really love animals, and I have been a vegetarian for two and a half years now, and I would really like to go vegan. The problem is<br><br><br><br>
1.) I don't know if my mom can handle me being vegan. I don't know if she'd buy me soy milk and other things like that. Everyone else (4) in my family is omni.<br><br><br><br>
2.) I live in a small town (10,00 people) in the Dairy State (Wisconsin.) That's a lame excuse, I know, but people here are kind of expected to eat cheese...<br><br><br><br>
3.) I like cheese and milk and eggs. But I don't want to like them! I watch all those PETA videos and feel like crap afterwards... But it's so hard!<br><br><br><br>
Somebody, please, motivate me!!! Give me willpower!
 

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Have to start by discussing it with her, Let her know your feeling, get her some good information on the subject and see what she says. Don't argue your points.
 
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hey lydia <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
you can totally do this if you want it enough.<br><br><br><br>
get lots of professional practical info, and educate yourself on food, nutrition, etc, and then go and have a proper sensible grownup talk with your mum about whether she can handle it or not. she might suprise you.<br><br><br><br>
if there are things she says she can't handle about it ... then assess if you can help with them... by working part time to buy some of your own vegan foods like soya milk, by helping take on cooking chores so she doesn't have to learn to cook a whole new way, basically by being mature and practical and realistic about it- its your choice, so you need to take responsibility for it.<br><br><br><br>
if she can't handle it in other ways (eg: forbids it) and you're living in her house, you might have to just do your best, until you can get out on your own.<br><br><br><br>
i know its hard, but stuff what you're expected and supposed to do.. you're a free thinking person, not a lemming, lol.<br><br><br><br>
and if you're worried about liking the taste of non vegan things, then remind yourself why you don't want to eat them, and get prepared: try new foods, and get nice new things to replace them with... things like toffutti better than cream cheese, soya icecream, dark chocolate, etc might be available near you (you'd be suprised!) and if they aren't, get some recipes, and make new foods with stuff you can get near you!<br><br><br><br>
good luck! go for it!
 

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<div class="quote-block">1.) I don't know if my mom can handle me being vegan. I don't know if she'd buy me soy milk and other things like that. Everyone else (4) in my family is omni.<br><br><br><br>
2.) I live in a small town (10,00 people) in the Dairy State (Wisconsin.) That's a lame excuse, I know, but people here are kind of expected to eat cheese...<br><br><br><br>
3.) I like cheese and milk and eggs. But I don't want to like them! I watch all those PETA videos and feel like crap afterwards... But it's so hard!<br></div>
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1. You need to talk to her. Believe me, my mom was angry when I first went vegan. She yelled at me, telling me I would never ever be able to do it. She screamed at me for hours, while I tried to tell her why I didn't want to eat milk, cheese, and eggs anymore. She didn't listen at first, but you know what? She accepted it in the end. Even if she won't buy you certain things, you can always go to the store and buy them on your own. If you can't do this for any reason, and she still refuses to buy you vegan items, then just try to abstain as much as you can until you move out.<br><br><br><br>
2. Hey, I'm from Wisconsin too! Yeah, it sucks... But cheese is gross when you think about it, anyway. Lol. I don't really know what else to say... But there are plenty of Wisconsin vegans, so you won't be alone.<br><br><br><br>
3. This was surprisingly easy for me. I thought it would be really difficult, so you might be pleasantly surprised, you never know. I don't know what works best for you, but I would say however you went vegetarian (in steps or "cold tofurky") is how you should go vegan. I just decided to stop eating everything one day, but you could cut out one thing at a time, first eggs, for example. Then milk. Then cheese. Then you could cut out anything containing these. It's really just a matter of willpower... Look at the "food" and tell yourself that it's not food, that it will taste like murder in your mouth.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Don't argue your points.</div>
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I argued mine, and that's how I got through to my mom. Not argued as in screamed them at her, but just keep saying "It doesn't make me feel good to eat them. I am ethically against it. I hate animal cruelty and I love animals, so I feel that it would be best if I didn't eat these things anymore."<br><br><br><br>
Good luck!
 

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<div class="quote-block">things like toffutti better than cream cheese,</div>
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3.) I like cheese and milk and eggs. But I don't want to like them! I watch all those PETA videos and feel like crap afterwards... But it's so hard!<br></div>
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That's the key then isn't it? You have to come to a place where your personal desires for tastes and textures no longer override your desires to live the ethical life.<br><br><br><br>
Just think that every bite of cheese supports veal. And every egg you eat supports the thousands of baby males that are tossed into dumpsters.<br><br><br><br>
Don't think about how they taste, so much as what the effects are to consuming them.<br><br><br><br>
Just do it cold turkey, get over that first hump of withdrawal, and it's smooth sailing. Weaning yourself away just allows for more setbacks and backsliding. Plus you're still killing animals while you try to overcome your pallet desires. If it's necessary you can even enjoy transitional foods in the process. Things like Soy Delicious "icecream" and Toffuti cheeses. Just don't look at them as "replacements" - but enjoy them for what they are.<br><br><br><br>
goodluck.
 

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<b>1.) I don't know if my mom can handle me being vegan. I don't know if she'd buy me soy milk and other things like that. Everyone else (4) in my family is omni.</b><br><br><br><br>
A) you do not need soy milk or any other non-dairy milk to be vegan. your mom choose for you what to eat for a certain period of years and now you are making a decision for yourself. she had to expect that it would happen at some point. it is YOUR turn to choose what is right for YOU.<br><br><br><br><b>2.) I live in a small town (10,00 people) in the Dairy State (Wisconsin.) That's a lame excuse, I know, but people here are kind of expected to eat cheese...</b><br><br><br><br>
B) People are also "expected" or "assumed" automatically to eat meat, but that did not stop you from going vegetarian! Do not let people's expectations of you persuade you. You might have a friend that expects you to give her $5,000 when she is in a jam, but will that really happen or will you choose for yourself and what is right for you (once again)?<br><br><br><br><b>3.) I like cheese and milk and eggs. But I don't want to like them! I watch all those PETA videos and feel like crap afterwards... But it's so hard!</b><br><br><br><br>
C) Just think of the animals. Sometimes, in our life, we have to be selfless and think about how our actions affect other beings. You can do the right thing. Take your time, if you need to.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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Thanks everyone, you've all been really helpful! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
I think I will talk to my mom about it, and in June I think I will applyto work at the healthfood store downtown, I'm sure they have a lot of vegan stuff.<br><br><br><br>
Thanks again!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/dancingbanana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":nana:">
 

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Regarding the milk thing, you don't need to drink milk at all. If getting soy (or rice or oat or whatever) milk is a problem, drink water. In fact, drink water anyway.<br><br><br><br>
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