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My ex-boyfriend and I started dating around the end of May. He was the ex of one of my friends, but she hadn't liked him that much so I figured it shouldn't be too much of a problem. It was, and she hasn't spoken to me since I told her except to ask for money that I owed her, but i'm not bothered about that because she was a ****ty friend who mocked me all the time and acted as if anything she said was the Absolute Truth. So, everything collapsed and came together at the same time and was pretty great for a while. Then at the end of June and the beginning of summer, he went off to Poland for three weeks. In the days before this, we'd discussed that the summer was going to be rough and we might not see each other that much, but we'd just spend as much time as we could with each other. Two days after he came back from Poland, I went away to Seattle for two weeks. Then he went to Vermont for a weekend, when he came back I became pretty sick, and as soon as I was well again my family decided to go upstate in New York for a weekend. When I came back from that trip and saw him for only the 4th time out of the entire summer, something was awkward. Five days later, we break up. Five days after that, he tells me that he's already over me/doesn't like me anymore, or anyone for that matter/we're two totally different people now anyway.<br><br><br><br>
Here's what i'd like some advice on/what I just can't ask him myself:<br><br>
how would you know that someone is totally different if you've only seen them a few times in two months?<br><br>
and have you ever broken up with someone and did the whole avoiding thing until you thought you were healed only to find that the next time you see them you fall in love with them all over again..?<br><br><br><br>
I just find that distance only helps so much.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>secondcup</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><br>
Here's what i'd like some advice on/what I just can't ask him myself:<br><br>
how would you know that someone is totally different if you've only seen them a few times in two months?</div>
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You can't really know, I don't think. Sometimes people just seem totally different because your memory of them isn't entirely accurate, or maybe you didn't know them very well to begin with.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>secondcup</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
and have you ever broken up with someone and did the whole avoiding thing until you thought you were healed only to find that the next time you see them you fall in love with them all over again..?</div>
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Yes. That happened with me and my highschool boyfriend. Sometimes the chemistry never leaves two people, even when they are better off without each other. That's what I have concluded anyway.
 

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I think it was pretty ****ty of you to date a friend's ex; no matter how it went or ended between them.<br><br><br><br>
I also don't think you can be "in love" with someone you've only hung out with a few times. Especially over the course of months.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>secondcup</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Here's what i'd like some advice on/what I just can't ask him myself:<br><br>
how would you know that someone is totally different if you've only seen them a few times in two months?</div>
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Maybe he knows HE has changed over those months and it has little to do with what you did or didn't do.<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">and have you ever broken up with someone and did the whole avoiding thing until you thought you were healed only to find that the next time you see them you fall in love with them all over again..?<br><br><br><br>
I just find that distance only helps so much.</div>
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Yes, I have thought I was completely over someone only to fall in love with him all over again the next time I saw him. It really drove me crazy.
 

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Ah, thanks, I like you too.
 
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