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This isn't a question about how many shower a woman should have for 1 baby, I mean how many showers should a woman have all together? Should they stop after 1 or 2 kids? If they have a boy and girl, should a shower be thrown for the 3rd? 4rd? 5th? 6th?<br><br>
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I think they can have one for each child. I remember my mom was upset that she didn't get a baby shower for her third one, (my grandma said she'd throw her one and never did) so I threw her a "baby shower" after the baby had come, but out family kind of look for any chance to get together and throw big parties with food and stuff anyways, so maybe that's why we have so many. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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As many as possible. Babies are frickin' expensive, yo.
 

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I got one, for my first child who was born in 2002. I did not have one for the twins,who arrived in late 2007. we basically had to buy almost everything new..and in some cases double...<br><br>
I think you should have as many as possible too, unless you have your babies close enough together that you still have everything, but you could always use clothes and diapers anyway! ...we were really strapped after the twins arrived, we needed so much stuff....and there was not much we could reuse from our first daughter. I do remember putting my son in pink flowered footies on occasion..we had so much girl clothes but not nearly enough for him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> ( i was not a huge fan of the gender specific stuff anyway but its hard to avoid)
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>zirpkatze</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3003561"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
i think a woman can have as many as she wants as long as she doesn't expect me to buy her stuff each time</div>
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That's what I'm thinking. I think it's asking a lot to have more than 2 showers. It's financially straining for family and friends. I think I need to friend more childless couples <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:">
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>RabbitLuvr</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3003576"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
This. I've never been to one, and never intend to go to one.<br><br>
I get really upset that people at my work that I barely know have given me invitations to their showers. Uh, really? I don't go to the showers of actual friends, much less those of people I never interact with outside of work. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/mad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":mad:"></div>
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You don't have siblings who are baby factories? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"><br><br>
That's a gift grab!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"> No, I love the idea!
 

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one for each child is what I have had to deal with in my past and I assume future....I have fertile friends I guess....and I always give baby tie dye socks as part of the gift its just my thing.....<br><br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>zirpkatze</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3003561"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
i think a woman can have as many as she wants as long as she doesn't expect me to buy her stuff each time</div>
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Exactly.<br>
I could see having one for your first child, one for the second kid is pushing it and more than that is ridiculous. If they want to keep popping out kids, it isn't the responsibility of family and friends to finance them.<br><br>
The couple staying here just had a kid and three months later, the girl is pregnant again. She has been planning the second baby shower from the day she found out. They don't even have a place to keep all the things they got from the first one. In this case, she should not be having another one, but Mooch is their family motto.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>RabbitLuvr</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3003603"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I should have had a Rabbit Shower when I brought baby Opal home. I had to buy alfalfa pellets for her! Not cheap!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"><br><br>
OK, I'll stop hijacking your thread now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"></div>
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This is a great idea. I would much rather go to a new pet shower, than a baby shower.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>whisper</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3003618"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Exactly.<br>
I could see having one for your first child, one for the second kid is pushing it and more than that is ridiculous. If they want to keep popping out kids, it isn't the responsibility of family and friends to finance them.<br><br>
The couple staying here just had a kid and three months later, the girl is pregnant again. She has been planning the second baby shower from the day she found out. They don't even have a place to keep all the things they got from the first one. In this case, she should not be having another one, but Mooch is their family motto.</div>
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I've had to stop buying birthday presents for my nieces and nephews, it's getting ridiculous. That on top of baby showers <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/dizzy2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":dizzy:"> Bank of Heather is BROKE. I found that I would do a lot and when it came time for my birthday, not even a 99 cent card. Sad for the kids, but I just can't afford it.<br><br>
I was asking because I received an invite to my sister's baby shower thrown by her friends. This is baby 5 and 6 (twins), she's already had 4 baby showers. I think this violates etiquette like crazy. I personally would be terribly embarrassed to have 5 showers (actually, more, as some babies had more than 1 shower). I'm going and I'll buy gifts, I was planning to anyway, but I just feel bad for the people who keep getting invited <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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I'm fine with a baby shower for the first baby. If the woman then has a baby of the other gender and wants gender specific stuff for the second baby, I'm fine with that, too. I've actually attended one baby shower where the woman (a coworker) had a son and then a daughter and we decided to give her girl stuff because all she had was boy stuff.<br><br>
After that, I don't think it's necessary. At least in America, there is a proud and honorable tradition of hand-me-downs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"> I certainly wore some of my older sister's old clothing. I see nothing wrong with being frugal in that area, especially if the woman keeps popping out babies.<br><br>
Speaking of baby showers for coworkers, I don't mind attending these if you like your coworker and get along with her; I've attended several of these. But if this is someone you don't or rarely ever associate with outside of work, you're not obligated to spend a lot, even if there's a baby registry list they give you. I've gone to Target and gotten a cheap multipack of bibs. Babies mess up a LOT of bibs, trust me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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There aren't any hard and fast rules for baby showers.<br><br>
I generally expect a pregnant woman to have a shower whether it's number 1 or number 5. Every baby needs some things that are new, not everything can be a hand-me-down. Stuff wears out or gets recalled or the dog eats it... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
Adoption showers are getting more and more common too although I felt weird about having one so we never had a shower. But we will have a big party when it's finalized.<br><br>
I've been to a few showers recently that were very different. Some people have a casual couples type of thing whereas others make it strictly for the women. Some are into the typical baby shower games and others steer clear of those. I went to one baby shower recently that was a bit odd because it was strictly women but many don't want children so there was a lot of talk at the party that was anti-baby. I felt very awkward being one of the few moms.<br><br>
Oh and then there are people who have two or three showers for the same baby because they have different groups of friends who can't be at the same party - like one group in one city and another in a different city. That's understandable, but it feels like a lot to me.
 
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