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Okay,<br><br>
I am new to the whole vegetarian thing as some of you already know from my post about sprouts, but I have a seperate question for you guys.<br><br><br><br>
How do you avoid meat on spcial occasions like dinner at the in-law's house or friendly invitations to dinner at an omnivorous friend's home? Do you bring your own stuff? Or is that rude to do? I am just curious how to be a polite vegan and not a "Holier-than-thou vegan."<br><br><br><br>
Thanks, this board rocks!<br><br>
-Sean
 

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Hey sprout guy. You rock too.<br><br><br><br>
I figure if people ask me over for dinner knowing my dietary peculiarities that they should at least be hospitable enough to make something I can eat. It would be kind of a d**khead maneuver to invite a vegan over for dinner and not make something for them if you ask me.<br><br><br><br>
Failing that offer to bring your own food. Some people live in a dream world and will tell you that your food will be like manna from heaven and omnis will be in awe. The reality is they will think it's strange and be polite about it.<br><br><br><br>
Failing that I graciously decline.<br><br><br><br>
Cheers!<br><br>
TJ
 

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At some time before everyone sits at the dinner table for eating time, I generally manage to hide the meat dishes in unusual places throughout the house. They are not found until a week later, when a peculiar smell begins emanating through the home of my host.
 

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Usually, I will just not eat if there is nothing for me. If I go to my in-laws house, they know my eating habits and provide for me, usually. I'm sorry, that's probably not very helpfull.
 

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Really, I just make my selections from non-meat items. Not making a big deal about it. If somebody specifically says they are grilling out, and they know my diet, I just tell them I'll provide my own. Usually I marinate something like a portabello, put it in a plastic baggie, and have them throw it on the grill for a few minutes. Everyone is happy and I've put nobody else out.
 

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Usually if someone invites you over, they'll make an effort to serve you food you can eat. When they invite you, just politely tell them you're vegetarian and if they don't know what to serve you, offer suggestions. If it's a big holiday feast, offer to bring something to share. You can never have too much food at a big holiday feast and the host would probably really appreciate it. The side dishes are usually vegetarian and if you're vegan, you can politely ask them to leave out things like butter and cheese.
 

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Folks have already made a lot of good comments.<br><br><br><br>
I don't think it's rude to bring your own food, and haven't been in a situation where anyone would have had a problem with that. Depending on what's going to be served and how many restrictions you have, it might be a good idea- then again, if there will be enough acceptable things for you to eat, it won't be necessary.<br><br><br><br>
It's pretty easy to be vegetarian these days. Vegan or strict vegetarian is tougher, but still doable as a rule.
 

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always depends where i am.<br><br><br><br>
if its family, most of them are veg or vegan anyway, so no issue for me.<br><br>
if its in-laws, i bring one or sometimes several things and they have some too.<br><br>
if its friends they know ahead of time and either make something i can have or tell me to bring it.<br><br>
if its someone i dont know well, i'm probably not going anyway, but i would talk to them first if i was. ^.^
 

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I always tell people that I'm vegan, so not to be offended if I don't eat certain things (or anything) they make. I tell them I'm there for the company, not the food. I also offer to bring something. If they say, "no, you don't have to bring anything," then I make sure to eat before I go, because chances are the only thing they'll have that I can eat is salad or something equally unfulfilling.
 

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I explain my dietary choices and offer to bring a dish to ease my host's burden. Cooking dairy and egg free vegetarian fare can be a challenge for someone who is not used to it.<br><br><br><br>
In the case of my MIL I always bring something becuase she doesn't get that no meat means no meat. She once made pasta salad (no mayo) and put pepperoni in it. When I mentioned that I don't eat meat she said, "Oh. I thought you meant steak and stuff."
 

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I'll usually bring something to share. I don't exactly <span style="text-decoration:underline;">offer</span> to bring something; instead I ask, "What shall I bring?" If they try to tell me not to bring anything, I act like I didn't hear that and say,"OK, I'll just bring pasta salad." Or something. I try to make my to-bring dish something filling/satisfying enough so I can get by with just a big serving of that and bread if it's a worst-case scenario. But I try to keep it non-threatening enough that the other guests won't mind having some.<br><br><br><br>
However, in some situations like cookouts, I just eat ahead of time and munch on chips or something while I'm there.
 

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Mine probably wont help much, but I usually have to bring my own. Being vegan in a southern home is pretty strange to others in my family. I would do that, offer to bring a big dish of something, or eat before I go.
 

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I would pre-tell them that I am a vegetarian and offer to bring something, I think that is the best way to do it. I don't think its rude because just like an allegry people need to know stuff like that.
 

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Bringing a dish or two is definitely a smart idea. I tend to be reluctant to discuss my vegetarianism with my extended family (southerners, you see) so around the holidays, I tend to load up my plate with the side dishes and veggie goodies so that it doesn't look like I'm eating less than everyone else.<br><br>
If you're eating with people you don't know as well, keep in mind that your hosts may feel badly if they think you're not going to be full at the end of night. My philosophy is that it was my choice to be a vegetarian, so figuring out what to eat is my problem. Even if theres only one meatless dish, I gobble it up and say it was the best thing I've ever eaten.<br><br>
You're right to not want to be a "holier than thou" vegan, my suspicion is that as long as you're conscious of it, you won't be.
 

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I always see this situation as my chance to shine! I whip up my very best. (You did say special occasion didn't you?) Usually a favorite one dish meal does the trick. Keep it familiar and remember that the very concept of faux meat is enough to send some vegetarians running! It is a great way to introduce what you <i>do</i> eat. I never arrive empty handed and over time, friends and family have adopted more and more of my favorite veggie dishes...all part of my diabolical plan to live in a vegetarian world!
 

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if my family, they know<br><br>
if my bf's parents, i'm too scared to say anything <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br>
if my friends, camps, othe occassions- i just tell them where there's a possibility i would be given meat
 

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Let them know in advance, usually when they invite me, and offer to bring a dish.
 

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Everyone who knows me knows i'm a vegan, so if i go anywhere where the hosts don't know me, someone usually tells them first.... but if possible, mention that you don't eat meat, more often than not people are more than willing to make a dish or 2 veg friendly (even things that usually aren't, some people will put the meat/dressing on the side), some don't though(or they try, as sweet as it is, but still end up adding something not veg friendly) so definitly bring a dish that both omni's and vegs would like, i don't think it's rude to bring a dish at all. Just let them know you wanted to contribute, leaving out any mention of veg*nism. Once everyone is socializing and eating, even if you only eat what you brought chances are nobody will even notice. BBQ's, just bring a veggie burger or something and most likely nobody will make a fuss if you ask if it's ok that you pop it on the grill. Even bring more and casually offer a veggie burger, or veggie kabob or whatever to others.
 
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