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So that guy i dated last year, the one who was my best friend, than dumped me on facebook right before cuba vacation, who started dating someone right away and made it impossible to be friends<br><br>
So now his gfs friend messaged me today. apparently he is telling people i cheated on him with 10(!) people. so she wanted to make sure it isn't true. because he accused his gf of cheating on him, arranged some private investigator to spy on her and she is worried about going to his place to pick up her stuff. (oh and yeah they are supposed to go to vacation in cuba some time soon,. seems his favorite timing). so her friend was just comparing what happened with us. and i said she should tell his gf to get the hell out since he has a cheating obsession as it seems (this girl today told me he did the same thing with his long term girlfriend before we met). so yeah, i told how it all went and also of course mentioned the fact that while he was accusing his gf of cheating he got himself a hooker at a strip bar (a mutual friend told me about it)<br><br>
so yeah i feel bad for his gf. but i can't help but laughing at that jerk. oh no, i won't be a better person. actually i will meet him at a party in a few weeks since we have mutual friends left, and while i will not start anything there because i don't need people to think of me as the bad behaved one, but if he says a word against me, i will have soooo much to say. Christmas seems to get better than ever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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He sounds like a weenie.
 

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lol, yeah he does. he seems to have some issues, some kind of cheating mania. never noticed it when we were friends, but i guess friendship makes us blind
 

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Ira, that's the Xmas spirit!!
 

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well, i usually don't celebrate christmas, now i have a reason for it, rofl
 

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*gigglesnort* That's hysterical, and such a predictable pattern!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Ira</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3056837"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
lol, yeah he does. he seems to have some issues, some kind of cheating mania. never noticed it when we were friends, but i guess friendship makes us blind</div>
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Well, rather than cheating mania, it sounds to me like he's obsessed with hookers, and then he goes Cuba and probably gets hookers there, usually when he's tired of his current girlfriend, who usually isn't a hooker, and pulls the over the top cheating bull**** to get them out of the relationship, so he doesn't have to explain his whoremonger patronizing ways to them because they probably won't want to be anywhere near him if they even decide to still go to Cuba with him.
 

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I'm trying to work out exactly what serves him right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":confused:"> Because from his perspective, he seems to be getting exactly what he wants isn't he, so how does he lose?
 

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Well, he really wants to have a very serious relationship with babies and all that junk. So he doesn't really get what he wants because of his stupidity<br><br>
He kind of really believes that everyone cheats on him. he was actally accusing me of cheating on him with my female friend. took me a while to realize that he was serious
 

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Well, he really wants to have a very serious relationship with babies and all that junk. So he doesn't really get what he wants because of his stupidity<br><br>
He kind of really believes that everyone cheats on him. he was actally accusing me of cheating on him with my female friend. took me a while to realize that he was serious</div>
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Did he have a serious girlfriend cheat on him or did his parents split because of an affair?
 

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I've had this happen to me with an ex boyfriend of mine. Two of his gfs contacted me and we all swapped stories about our relationship with him. All of our stores were almost indentical. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/mad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":mad:"><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Well, he really wants to have a very serious relationship <i><b>with babies</b></i> and all that junk. So he doesn't really get what he wants because of his stupidity</div>
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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/no.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":no:">I'm not a fan of anyone like him reproducing. He needs to straighten himself out before dragging innocent kids into his mess.<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Who the heck dumps someone via facebook?</div>
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Sadly it's becoming more common. What happened to just breaking up via text messages?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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Who the heck dumps someone via facebook?</div>
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My ex broke up with me via e-mail, over the phone when I was half asleep, then finally in a letter. Some guys don't have the class or maturity to do it to your face.
 

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Did he have a serious girlfriend cheat on him or did his parents split because of an affair?</div>
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his parents are still together, happily married for 40+ years. His ex i don't know. we never really talked much about exes from the far past when we were friends. i do think that something must have happened, since his behavior is very extreme. I kind of feel bad about feeling so happy about it, he was a wonderful friend for a while. but i can't help it<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Who the heck dumps someone via facebook?</div>
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I guess anyone, since even somebody who was supposed to be a best friend for many years didn't mind doing it :/<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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I've had this happen to me with an ex boyfriend of mine. Two of his gfs contacted me and we all swapped stories about our relationship with him. All of our stores were almost indentical. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/mad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":mad:"><br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/no.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":no:">I'm not a fan of anyone like him reproducing. He needs to straighten himself out before dragging innocent kids into his mess.<br><br><br><br>
Sadly it's becoming more common. What happened to just breaking up via text messages?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"></div>
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heh, i guess people's dating patterns are usually the same no matter whom they date. i wouldn't worry about babies being involved. if he continues like that he will not be able to stay with anyone long enough. and even if there is an accident pregnancy he will most likely throw her out right when the results are in because he will say it's someone elses.<br><br>
And lol, yeah what happened to text message break ups? back in the good old days at least you got some message telling you it's over. now you just find it out by going on facebook and seeing that your "bf" has already a "single" relationship status, lol <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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I kind of feel bad about feeling so happy about it ..</div>
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You are experiencing the opposite of 'Sympathetic Joy' Ira.<br><br><br><b>SYMPATHETIC JOY <img alt="" src="http://www.viewonbuddhism.org/images/Smile.png" style="border:0px solid;"></b><br><br>
The definition is: being happy with someone's fortune/happiness. Sympathetic joy here refers to the potential of bliss and happiness of all sentient beings, as they can all become Buddhas.<br>
The near enemy is hypocrisy or affectation.<br>
The opposite is jealousy, when one cannot accept the happiness of others.<br>
A result which one needs to avoid is: spaced-out bliss, which can easily turn into laziness.<br>
Note: sympathetic joy is a great antidote to depression for oneself as well, but this should not be the main goal.<br>
By rejoicing in others' progress on the spiritual path, one can actually share in their positive karma.<br>
Sympathetic joy is an unselfish, very positive mental attitude which is beneficial for oneself and others. In this case, it also refers specifically to rejoicing in the high rebirth and enlightenment of others.
 

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The Germans say <i>schadenfreude</i> which means shameful joy. Delighting is the misfortune of others.<br><br>
I do it on a daily basis... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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I am not big enough person for the sympatetic joy yet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Schadenfreude it is for now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"><br><br>
Actually i don't know if they broke up. considering that i had people telling me that he has been accusing her of cheating like a maniac for a long time now, it is safe to assume they are still together, but i am glad he deals with it, lol
 

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The Germans say <i>schadenfreude</i> which means shameful joy. Delighting is the misfortune of others.<br><br>
I do it on a daily basis... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"></div>
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Awesome, new word of the day for me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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The Germans say <i>schadenfreude</i> which means shameful joy. Delighting is the misfortune of others.<br><br>
I do it on a daily basis... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"></div>
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I usually just feel pity or disgust, but it does make me a little bit happy when I consider I don't have to go through the self inflicted social injuries some people endure.
 
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