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How do you get rid of someone who doesn't understand the meaning of no? I'm not even sure this belongs in the relationships forum because I never had nor wanted a relationship with this guy. I've known him 5-6 years and thought I rid myself of him a couple times but every so often he returns, like this weekend. I think he finds new women to haunt and then when that doesn't work out he's back to stopping by my house. He hasn't done anything the cops would take seriously, just keeps stopping by my house and being overly friendly when I see him out and about. I don't really think he'd do anything stupid but he's still creeping me out. He'd have to get through 5 dogs at my house and he's scared to death of one of them especially, but he lives just a few blocks from me, so I can't avoid running into him sometimes when I don't have the dogs. Today he came into the backyard when I doing some stuff outside. I had stupidly left the gate open and the dogs were all inside the house. Maybe it's time I start carrying mace again like I did years back when I worked in a bad part of town and had to leave work, sometimes alone, at midnight. But I'd rather just get him to scram permanently without waiting to see if it goes far enough that I need to defend myself.
 

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Did you call him out for coming into your yard without permission? How about with stopping by unexpected? Have you tried bringing a guy friend over and saying they're your boyfriend? Maybe he'll take the hint.
 

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I'd hit him with a ****ing shovel.
 

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Do you talk to him when you run into him? With some guys, so much as a 'hello' translates in their warped brain into 'she wants me'. I would just say "I'm busy" or "I have things to do",(no hello, no how are you, no smile) anytime I would run into him and then walk away, even if he is talking.<br><br>
And having some mace handy isn't a bad idea.
 

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I would fart loudly at him, that's a good turn off.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Wolfie</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3004058"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
How do you get rid of someone who doesn't understand the meaning of no?</div>
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Get another bloke to have a 'freindly but firm' word with him?<br><br>
Most men I have ever known are absolutey mortified if they realise that they have confused persistence with actualy frightening a woman.<br><br>
The ones who aren't may, for obvious reasons, be a genuine problem.<br><br>
Would be a good idea to know, sooner rather than later, which camp your particular admirer sits in?
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Werewolf Girl</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3004099"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I would fart loudly at him, that's a good turn off.</div>
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I vote for this, or burping or picking your nose.<br><br>
It's really hard to reject someone and hurt their feelings. Make them reject you!
 

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I would fart loudly at him, that's a good turn off.</div>
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My boyfriend does that around me.... it is one of the biggest turn offs ever.
 

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Have you actually told this guy to leave you alone in a direct way?</div>
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that was my first thought too.
 

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^^^^ Yes and he did for a while. But he comes back from time to time. He's not been back though since I told him this weekend Joe (my dog) likes being the only male in my life. Hopefully that did it. He's scared of the dog.
 

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Has he ever said that he is interested in a relationship?
 

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I don't. But sometimes he catches me outside in my yard or driveway or walking. But I'd rather he didn't come here at all. I shouldn't have to hide from someone inside my own house, just to avoid them.
 

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I know when I'm being hit on.
 

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It puts you ina tough spot because you don't want to be too "mean" (or perceived as such) by someone who knows where you live. Maybe use "I's" in whatever you say. "I am not comfortable with having people over while I am tending to my garden." "this is my quiet time." etc.
 

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Just knowing that you had 5 dogs, possibly all pitbull's, would be enough for me to never wanna hit on you ever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br>
I know that pitbulls are big softie's really, but I'm a big wus who wouldn't be taking any chances.
 

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^^^^ Yes and he did for a while. But he comes back from time to time. He's not been back though since I told him this weekend Joe (my dog) likes being the only male in my life. Hopefully that did it. He's scared of the dog.</div>
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that would do it for me (if i was a guy)
 

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I think you just walk up, put your finger in his face and say: "Look here you dickless idiot. If I ever see you on my property again, or within arms reach, I will weld your bung hole shut with a f'n gasoline soaked cactus, stuff your stupid ass in a gunny sack and sell your carcass to the Somali navy." That should do it..<br><br>
Be direct. In my previous career I was usually the guy they called to talk to idiots that just weren't listening. I had this thing I would do. In this case I might say something like: "You are not wanted here. I don't want to see or talk to you again. Now, repeat what I just said." I would make them repeat what I had just said to make sure they understood it. I would Then advise them of the consequences of failure to follow my instructions, and I would make them repeat that also. I never had anyone fail to follow my instructions. Of course, the penalty for failure to follow those instructions was more than they wanted to accept.<br><br>
Plus, there is a psychological effect when you say something that you didn't want to hear. It makes it real.
 
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