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I am wondering if I am being little ungrateful when I am saying these things. My family especially my sister's seen me post and my husband post about my hospital visit a few weekends ago. We both were expecting loads of Get Well Cards from family and friends and not even just get well cards just encouragement. We only received one card and that is from our church.<br>
Is it too much to ask my family to send one simple get well card and sacrifice things such as going out to eat, movies, trips and expensive things?<br>
Am'i being too hard on people because the ecnomny is bad or is it still cheap enough to send a simple card to wish Get well or encouragement?
 

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It's cheap enough, yes, but I doubt people are holding off because of the cost. I wouldn't think of sending someone a get well card. I do cards for birthdays and Christmas and that's it, not because I don't care but because I just... don't see the point. I don't much enjoy receiving cards so I assume other people don't.
 

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Also to add that I've never got a get well card, despite being in a coma in hospital twice <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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I only send people Get Well cards when they are trying to buy old property in the countryside and I want to remind them to buy the kind of property which only has a source of water outside the house.
 

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I had some serious health issues quite a few years back and I received mostly phone calls. I would defnitely send get well cards to people that I still have attachment to and care about but who I don't get to see/talk to because they don't live in the area. I would even resort to email if I know the person is computer literate and they use email. My relationship with my family is such that we always acknowledge when someone has been ill, even though we go weeks without talking on the phone or seeing each other.<br>
Sending a card in itself is not so much the issue, but rather the fact to acknowledge is some way, any way, that you are aware the person has not been well and you want to wish them a speedy recovery/good wishes.<br>
I'm not sure I understand what you mean when you say they saw you post about it...if you never actually spoke to them and it was an online communication, they may have thought it wasn't serious enough to warrant a get well card. I think that depending on the relationship you have with your family dictates how these types of situations play out. Sorry you are feeling slighted. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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I wouldn't send a get well card unless someone I was pretty close to was in the hospital for an extended period of time. I'm not sure how long you were in the hospital, but if it was just a few days, I hate to say it, but I probably wouldn't have sent anything. I would basically send flowers or a card TO the hospital itself, to brighten up your stay there.<br><br>
I can't remember what you were in the hospital for. Was it a psychological issue? If it was, there is still a huge stigma attached to that, and I wouldn't be surprised if you didn't get any cards or acknowledgement from anyone about it.
 

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I wouldn't send a get well card unless someone I was pretty close to was in the hospital for an extended period of time. I'm not sure how long you were in the hospital, but if it was just a few days, I hate to say it, but I probably wouldn't have sent anything. I would basically send flowers or a card TO the hospital itself, to brighten up your stay there.<br><br>
I can't remember what you were in the hospital for. Was it a psychological issue? If it was, there is still a huge stigma attached to that, and I wouldn't be surprised if you didn't get any cards or acknowledgement from anyone about it.</div>
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I was in the mental hospital back in FEB and No I don't want a Get Well card from that but, encouragement and (prayer ) card. The trip a few weeks ago was a medical hospital where I was vomiting and few other things I don't remember at the moment. They said it was a viral and something to do with my teeth and gums that I have been having trouble with and its getting me sick. I am waiting now for some funding and when I recieve that I will be going to a dentist to see how bad this is, after that is oral surgury which I will not be able to eat much stuff several week.s I'll be glad this will be over with.
 

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I've only ever sent one get well card in my life and that was to someone who nearly died.<br><br>
Maybe etiquette isn't what it once was. Perhaps they don't realise how serious all this is for you.<br><br>
Sorry you don't feel good about it, are you feeling neglected by friends and family in other ways too?
 

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I hope you are better now peacefulveganlady <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/kiss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":kiss:"><br><br>
It seems that nowadays a text or a facebook post is more common than a get well card.<br><br>
Both are better for the enviroment and our wallets.
 

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I'm sorry you're hurt by this, but I really wouldn't take it to heart<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I doubt they meant to hurt you, and I'm sure if they knew how much it means to you they'd send cards in a heartbeat.
 

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I only send them to people who are older than me as I know they will appreciate it because that's what their generation did. The rest of my friends and family get an SMS or a phone call when they're sick.
 

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I wouldn't think to send a get-well card either, and if I was in that situation, I look more at the motive behind the action rather than the action itself, whether it's a wall post on Facebook, a phone call, or an actual card. Besides, I'm terrible about losing cards I've been sent for anything, so I'm kind of grateful for the electronic age! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br>
Hope you feel better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I never received get well cards either-now I'm left with city water...<br><br>
Has anyone aknowledged you, buy calling? I'm not fond of cards, but a letter, phone card, or e-mail I would expect.<br><br>
I hope you're much better!
 

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I don't think I've ever received a get well card.
 

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I'm sorry you're hurt by this, but I really wouldn't take it to heart<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I doubt they meant to hurt you, and I'm sure if they knew how much it means to you they'd send cards in a heartbeat.</div>
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I agree with this. I think different people, and different families, have different ideas about what to do in some social situations - don't take it to heart.<br><br>
For example, my nan would send cards for EVERYTHING, my boyfriends birthday, when we moved house, easter, etc - but other family members wouldn't. I send thankyou cards a lot, but my boyfriend doesn't tend to to his family. My boyfriends family buy eachother holiday gifts a lot, but I wouldn't even think of it with mine. So yes my point is different people have different customs, it doesn't mean they care anyless.<br><br>
If you're feeling hurt, how about phoning them up for a chat, and telling them you miss them and are feeling down and would like a chat/cheer up/support? Sometimes if you want things you need to ask for them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I agree with this. I think different people, and different families, have different ideas about what to do in some social situations - don't take it to heart.<br><br>
For example, my nan would send cards for EVERYTHING, my boyfriends birthday, when we moved house, easter, etc - but other family members wouldn't. I send thankyou cards a lot, but my boyfriend doesn't tend to to his family. My boyfriends family buy eachother holiday gifts a lot, but I wouldn't even think of it with mine. So yes my point is different people have different customs, it doesn't mean they care anyless.<br><br>
If you're feeling hurt, how about phoning them up for a chat, and telling them you miss them and are feeling down and would like a chat/cheer up/support? Sometimes if you want things you need to ask for them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"></div>
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Yes I agree and since then I had oral surgery on my bad teeth I had and my one sister said Hope I feel better when I said it. So it worked. I guess I am little old fashioned when it comes to certain things LOL however, I am better now.
 

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I am wondering if I am being little ungrateful when I am saying these things. My family especially my sister's seen me post and my husband post about my hospital visit a few weekends ago. We both were expecting loads of Get Well Cards from family and friends and not even just get well cards just encouragement. We only received one card and that is from our church.<br>
Is it too much to ask my family to send one simple get well card and sacrifice things such as going out to eat, movies, trips and expensive things?<br>
Am'i being too hard on people because the ecnomny is bad or is it still cheap enough to send a simple card to wish Get well or encouragement?</div>
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My dad and I NEVER send cards. What's the point? It's not like they're 100% genuine, you're paying $5 for someone else's words, and then signing your name. Phone calls or visits are much more genuine, honest, and free.<br><br>
And, as far as that goes, we always throw away cards instantly. If they were actually thinking of us, they would have called or visited.<br><br>
Edit: I take it back, i saved one, my mother made it by hand and put Humane society stickers all over the envelope. But, that was honest effort and the first birthday present i'd seen from her in years.
 

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I'm sorry you're hurt by this, but I really wouldn't take it to heart<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I doubt they meant to hurt you, and I'm sure if they knew how much it means to you they'd send cards in a heartbeat.</div>
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I only send people Get Well cards when they are trying to buy old property in the countryside and I want to remind them to buy the kind of property which only has a source of water outside the house.</div>
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I am a card person always sending B-day, Ann, Just Because,.....and I am always sending get well cards to family and friends and I have recieved get well cards when I have a bad flu or cold and when I was in the hospital ect.....I have gotten calls and texts but really enjoyed getting the cards......I never expected them but really appreciated them....<br><br>
hippie to hear you are feeling better<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
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