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I think the father is scum, and that the court's temporary order should be made permanent. However, the father can still play games by saying he doesn't want the maternal grandparents there, and that would not be right at all. (Absent some proof that they would be detrimental to the kids.)<br><br><br><div style="text-align:left;"><span style="color:#000000;"><i>Abbie Dorn, who was left brain-damaged after the birth of her triplets in 2006, has been prohibited from seeing her children because her husband fears the kids will be traumatized.</i></span></div>
<br><div style="text-align:left;"><span style="color:#000000;">Read more: <a href="http://healthland.time.com/2011/03/29/should-a-disabled-mom-be-banned-from-seeing-her-kids/#ixzz1I1p9u4kb" target="_blank">http://healthland.time.com/2011/03/2...#ixzz1I1p9u4kb</a></span></div>
 

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I wonder if there's more to this story.<br><br><br><br>
All I know is I hope no one tries to use machines to keep me alive if I'm ever in that sort of situation.
 

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When I was a child, we frequently visited my mom's cousins who were in wheelchairs and has some type of muscular control problem (they were never exactly diagnosed with why, they were born in the late 20's or early 30's and their mom never pursued it). We grew up knowing these were people and later understood they had differences. I think it's beneficial for kids to learn this before they learn to fear or shun people with differences. Those kids also need to understand why their mother isn't a part of their lives-that she can't be a "normal" mom, not that she doesn't want to.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>cheekywhiskers</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2850860"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
When I was a child, we frequently visited my mom's cousins who were in wheelchairs and has some type of muscular control problem (they were never exactly diagnosed with why, they were born in the late 20's or early 30's and their mom never pursued it). We grew up knowing these were people and later understood they had differences. I think it's beneficial for kids to learn this before they learn to fear or shun people with differences. Those kids also need to understand why their mother isn't a part of their lives-that she can't be a "normal" mom, not that she doesn't want to.</div>
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This says it perfectly. I was isolated from people like this as a kid, my parents always saying 'don't look at them/talk to them' so I never got used to being around disabled people, and even nowadays I (to my own shame) sometimes find it hard to interact with the mentally disabled... The father is an idiot here, the kids will be MORE afraid and traumatised if they're not introduced now. The mother will become not a human, but an object of terror that the father is hiding away.
 

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thats really sad and awful all round....those poor kids and the poor mom....he is heartless<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br>
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Sometmes it seems we're living in the middle-ages.
 

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Sad.
 

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The father is an idiot here, the kids will be MORE afraid and traumatised if they're not introduced now. The mother will become not a human, but an object of terror that the father is hiding away.</div>
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Yes I agree. It's quite a shocking story.
 

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The father divorced her after she became brain damaged. And then decided she couldnt see her kids. He sounds like a real prize.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Freesia</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2851540"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
The father divorced her after she became brain damaged. And then decided she couldnt see her kids. He sounds like a real prize.</div>
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To be fair, the divorce I can understand. The emotional impact of having to care for someone like that, especially with the confused hope that she'll just snap out of it or some miracle cure will come along is too much for some people, and while it is horrible, for him to force himself to stay around and become embittered and eaten up is just as horrible. It seems harsh, but that I can understand... the kids still... wrong.
 

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True. Im just imagining being the mother, first being served with the divorce papers, then eventually being told she cant see her kids. Doesnt sound pleasant to me.
 

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I found that news article to be too one-sided. This article shows a more balanced view of the situation. <a href="http://articles.latimes.com/2010/apr/11/local/la-me-abbie11-2010apr11" target="_blank">http://articles.latimes.com/2010/apr...ie11-2010apr11</a><br><br>
I don't blame him for divorcing her. But I do agree that he should let his kids visit their mother more often than they already do.
 

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I do understand the divorce, I just can't believe he's trying to take the children away from their mother. I think they'll resent him in the future, especially if she passes away before they're old enough to understand everything that's going on.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Exactly a year after "the event," Paul was stuck in rush-hour traffic when his cellphone rang. It was Dan.<br><br>
"I want to move on," Paul recalls his son-in-law telling him. "I want to get married again."</div>
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Only a year? He seemed to be in a bit of a hurry to move on.<br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">A trial is scheduled for May 13. Dan has asked that Abbie pay child support. His attorneys in the increasingly rancorous case have requested that Abbie be questioned and a videotape of the deposition shown in court.</div>
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I dont know what this means. How can she pay child support?
 

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This is bit more of a balanced report: <a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/northamerica/usa/8408345/Disabled-mother-Abbie-Dorn-fighting-for-the-right-to-see-her-triplets.html" target="_blank">http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worl...-triplets.html</a>
 

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I found that news article to be too one-sided. This article shows a more balanced view of the situation. <a href="http://articles.latimes.com/2010/apr/11/local/la-me-abbie11-2010apr11" target="_blank">http://articles.latimes.com/2010/apr...ie11-2010apr11</a><br><br>
I don't blame him for divorcing her. But I do agree that he should let his kids visit their mother more often than they already do.</div>
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Yeah, in this article, it becomes apparent that the father is even more of a **** than the first article made him out to be. He wants her to pay child support?!<br><br>
Where in the article does it give you the impression that the children "already" visit their mother? They haven't seen her, or she them, since October of 2007, when they were less than a year and a half old.<br><br>
ETA: I see from the article that Annia cited that he has now allowed a visit since the other article was written.
 
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