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Well, it's all in the title, my family (well my boyfriends family) doesn't understand why i want to raise our daughter vegetarian.<br>
I have been vegetarian for most of my life and i'm expecting my first baby, due in 4 weeks. I am soooo excited but i'm dreading when she grows up as i know they do not like the fact that she will be vegetarian like me. I have a bit of a feeling that they think she's going to be a weirdo, different from her cousins and everyone else and that saddens me as i just want her grow up respecting animals and know that it is wrong to eat them. We were talking about it yesterday and i was told that they'd sneak her meat when i wasn't around and i am sooo angry and haven't been able to get it out of my head all day. What do i do? I don't want to fight and argue with everyone, but i need them to know that if they don't respect my wishes then i'll have no choice but to never let them babysit. I just hate this, cos i don't understand how i'm considered to be weird just because i say no to murdering animals. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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I'd say, don't let them babysit for a while, so you can establish a veggie diet for her.<br>
When they try sneaking her meat, they'll make her sick - and feel like sh**heads. Give them a good tongue-lashing to really sink it in.<br><br>
Or you could just yell at them straight out. Don't do it emotionally, though. Get yourself into as cold a mood as you can, so your words are pointed and your tongue is sharp, and really cut into them.<br><br>
Whatever you do, don't be a push over. No one respects a push over. Let them know - if they want to see their granddaughter, they have to play by your rules.
 

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these kinds of conflicts are inevitable. I've decided the best way to deal with it is to<br>
- ask people to respect your choices and<br>
- provide them with the skills and tools to do so,<br>
- then trust them to make good choices.<br><br>
Some family member will probably sneak meat into your kid's diet eventually. That's mean and wrong, but it will probably happen. So, just accept that fact and try to work with it. Remember that a few nonvegan items probably won't kill your kiddo and certainly won't prevent them from being vegan in the future. Most of us vegans ate tons of animal products during childhood, so a few bits here and there isn't a big deal in the long run.<br><br>
I would not refuse to let people babysit just because you're worried they will feed animal products to the baby. If you deny the relationship, you're making things worse in the long run for everyone. Just try to figure out a way to get them to understand and respect your family's veg*nism. It will take time and there will be conflict, but that's OK.
 

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My daughter was given a meat sausage roll at the age of 4, when at nursery school (from someone from the 'a bit won't hurt her, it will do her good' brigade).<br><br>
She was violently sick for 3 days.<br><br>
I made sure that the nursery knew exactly how ill they had made my daughter. They never did it again.<br><br>
Do tell your family that giving your daughter meat when her body isn't used to it could make her very ill. And tell them if they care that little about her, then you will not be leaving her with them, as you cannot trust them not to harm your daughter. And add that it's a shame that you can't even trust your own family. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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Have they every question why a Catholic raising their children catholic? Or why Jewish children raise their children Jewish? You pass down the morals you have. There's nothing more to it.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Carley</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2900436"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Have they every question why a Catholic raising their children catholic? Or why Jewish children raise their children Jewish? You pass down the morals you have. There's nothing more to it.</div>
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Amen!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Carley</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2900436"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Have they every question why a Catholic raising their children catholic? Or why Jewish children raise their children Jewish? You pass down the morals you have. There's nothing more to it.</div>
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I never thought of it that way. Thanks, this will help in explaining it to my own family.<br><br>
OP-I understand what you are going through. Is your boyfriend a vegetarian too? Even if he isn't, maybe have him talk some sense into his family?<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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If they can't respect your beliefs and your ways of raising YOUR child, then they have no right to intervene and you can prove them that by distancing yourself and your baby from them.
 

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Tell the meat eaters that you want to raise your children with peace in their heart (and peas in their body). But not one piece of meat in their mouth.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Hekaterine</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2902403"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Is your boyfriend veggie or omni? Sounds like he should be fighting your corner here. I hope he is x</div>
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I agree. While you should be able to speak for yourself and your child, it is his parents and he needs to defend you here. It wouldnt be wise to get into a battle with them if he is caught in between doing nothing to support your side. Not that he needs to choose sides, but it would be nice if he would help you all come to a better understanding about the decision you want for your family. It sounds like the parents dont understand why your vegetarian, maybe they need to get to know you more.
 

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Im sorry but I had to laugh at this whole thread.<br>
My daughter went veggie first.<br>
Then I followed.<br>
My mother just the other day told me I was a bad influence on my daughter for not letting her eat meat...<br><br>
I just laughed and let it go.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>@rno</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2902909"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Tell the meat eaters that you want to raise your children with peace in their heart (and peas in their body). But not one piece of meat in their mouth.</div>
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I love this!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 
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