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I'm sick and tired of being dumped by people. It makes me not want to try making friends with anyone, ever. Why do some people act like friends and then bail on you out of the blue for no apparent reason? Sure, you can say, "There's all kinds of reasons", but it happens to me EVERY TIME. I'm sick of being dumped by people I thought I had some connection with, efery freaking time. Does this happen to anybody else... all the time? Screw people, they aren't worth it, and that's tha plain truth.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> I'll be your friend, and I WON'T bail on you.
 

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I know what you mean... I haven't had a single friendship that wasn't just them trying to use me for something. Once they tire of the fact that i'm not a lifeless item, They start to dislike me and eventually leave. I've pretty much given up on people. I'm friendless now, I know a couple people but as far as "friends", I haven't got any and I don't plan on changing that. I connect better with people on a 'random strangers' basis. After they know me for more than a few hours, Things go down hill.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Amy SF</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> I'll be your friend, and I WON'T bail on you.</div>
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It's nice of you to say, but honestly I've been told that before.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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I connect better with people on a 'random strangers' basis. After they know me for more than a few hours, Things go down hill.</div>
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It can be very hard. I know I went through stuff like this in my younger days. I have much fewer friends now and less need for friends. The few people I do call friends are just that, true friends. They can be hard to find.<br><br><br><br>
I find I am often disappointed by people. Once I get to know them, they are not what they seemed to be.
 

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I think us vegetarians have it much harder in this regard, even though such is life and it happens to everyone. I would guess that typically the friends doing this to you have been omnis? I think vegheads are often isolated within peer groups and among friends..
 

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I really don't think that being a vegetarian means it's harder to make friends or that being a jerk is exclusive to meat-eaters. Possibly if people keeping getting peeved at you and stop wanting to be friends with you on a regular basis it would be worth looking at your own actions and see what prompts this. It's true that good friends can be hard to find but if people from all works of life get ticked off at you and sever friendships I'm guessing there is something more going ton.
 

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Would it be possible to ask some of them why, or ask if there might have been something you did to offend them? I think that we are always growing and searching for matches in friends for whatever stage we happen to be in at the time. When we make real bonds, often we remain close to people even when we have grown apart in ideals and whatnot. Once in a while, you find a gem of a friend who finds you to be a gem, too, and those are the friends you rip the clothes off your back for, knowing they will do the same. So please keep searching. Even if you haven't found your gems yet, they are out there. and they are looking for you, too.<br><br><br><br>
Greenrunner, are you serious about omnis being less friendly than veggies? Not to mention OP said it happens every time, and did not say s/he only tries to make friends with omnis. Veggies really don't have it over omnis in friend making. I've never seen anything to indicate that, in my own life or in the media.
 

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Most of my friends are meat-eaters and they're still really good friends..?<br><br><br><br>
I guess vegetarians are seen as especially compassionate, but meat-eaters still crave close relationships.<br><br><br><br>
Hindsight could be your friend here so see if there were other patterns in your friendships that were similar. Perhaps in some way you attract certain types of people. For example, those who aren't all that assertive may attract controlling types. Be honest with yourself and if you find it difficult, getting a professional objective view can help - I know it did with another person I know.<br><br><br><br>
I think it's safe to say we've all had toxic friends but that doesn't mean genuinely good friends aren't just around the corner <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I only have acouple friends becasue im very anisocial,but the ones I do have are <b>very</b> good friends who am closer with than my family and I would do anything for them as they would me.They are meat eaters but they dont hold my being Vengan agenst me just like I dont their meat eating.
 

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tell me about it. my so called friend of 8 years got a new bf just before xmas and has subcequently barely spoken to me since. we used to talk or see eachother every day without fail and now she has dumped me for some guy which is something she always had a go at other people for. when things change you find out who your real mates are. i;ve tried to keep in contact with her but she really doesn't try and i don't deserve to be treated like that so she can now dream on if she suddenly neeeds a friend. ( sorry about the rant)<br><br><br><br>
you don't deserve to be dumped either, forget about this person they're not worth it and they don't deserve you as a friend if they do that to you. look for better, real friends. trust me they are out there somewhere
 

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I have very few friends but the ones I do have are true friends. I am very picky when it comes to friends. I'd rather only have 3-4 friends that I know that I can trust than a lot of friends that would stab me in the back the first opportunity they got.
 

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I have very few friends but the ones I do have are true friends. I am very picky when it comes to friends. I'd rather only have 3-4 friends that I know that I can trust than a lot of friends that would stab me in the back the first opportunity they got.</div>
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I know what you mean, I have friendships that tend to be so one-sided. I tell my friends that they can call me up whenever they have problems, that I'll be there to listen, and they do call pretty much all the time.<br><br>
The only thing is none of my friends seem to have any consideration about what's going on in my life.<br><br>
One of my best friends actually said to me the other day, "You know, I don't know anything about you really." Of course then he didn't bother asking anything, he just kept talking about whatever.<br><br>
Oh well. :\\
 

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Thanks for the replies... well, except the person who said people were "peeved" at me. Who says they were peeved at me? I said they dropped me out of the blue.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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tell me about it. my so called friend of 8 years got a new bf just before xmas and has subcequently barely spoken to me since. we used to talk or see eachother every day without fail and now she has dumped me for some guy which is something she always had a go at other people for. when things change you find out who your real mates are. i;ve tried to keep in contact with her but she really doesn't try and i don't deserve to be treated like that so she can now dream on if she suddenly neeeds a friend. ( sorry about the rant)<br></div>
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That's so incredibly lame to do. That sucks. Sorry to hear about it, but I don't mind the rant!<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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\tI know what you mean, I have friendships that tend to be so one-sided. I tell my friends that they can call me up whenever they have problems, that I'll be there to listen, and they do call pretty much all the time.<br><br>
The only thing is none of my friends seem to have any consideration about what's going on in my life. One of my best friends actually said to me the other day, "You know, I don't know anything about you really." Of course then he didn't bother asking anything, he just kept talking about whatever.<br><br>
Oh well. :\\</div>
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Are you still in Highschool? Highschool sucks. If you're not in highschool... well, it's not that great not being in highschool either.
 

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To Stevie who mentioned the "one sided" relationships. Some people are just wired to be totally self absorbed. I have two daughters. One is like the people you mentioned. Tell her that you have been feeling so sad lately (cause you're looking for a little sympathy), and the second you stop speaking, she is saying, "I know, I have been feeling really awful. My husband forgot to ......" and she is off and running with her tale of woe, which by the way is the same as the one she told you last week.<br><br><br><br>
On the other hand, my other daughter is the exact opposite, and she is concerned for your feelings and listens and asks questions. She was like this as a little child. I used to call her my baby with the tender heart. By the way, she is the daughter who is also a vegan.<br><br><br><br>
Both girls were brought up the same, but the results are totally different.<br><br><br><br>
I think you sometimes get lucky and meet that one person in a million who is "the one" and the friendship has a chance. But it seems you gotta go through a lot of losing tickets to hit the jackpot.
 

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I really do know what you mean. I'm actually facing some dissapointment from my "friends" at the moments as well.<br><br><br><br>
Sadly, I can only talk to my real friends online.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
sending you a comforting hug.
 

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I have very few real friends as well. I know tons of people...but i connect with only a few and they are the ones who really know me. I dont like trivial things and prefer to not partake in a lot of what is "cool" to my friends. I havent been in highschool for a loooong time but i noticed some people never get over the "highschool stage". I stay away from those.<br><br><br><br>
Really good friends are hard to find, but once you find them it doesnt matter that that may be the only one. B/c at least that person gets you.<br><br><br><br>
On another note....it is very lonely being a veggie somedays. Lots of people just dont get me. Especially where i live.....its very rare to find someone here that doesnt live and meat and potatoes.<br><br><br><br>
sorry about the long post.
 

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I have very few real friends as well. I know tons of people...but i connect with only a few and they are the ones who really know me. I dont like trivial things and prefer to not partake in a lot of what is "cool" to my friends. I havent been in highschool for a loooong time but i noticed some people never get over the "highschool stage". I stay away from those.<br><br><br><br>
Really good friends are hard to find, but once you find them it doesnt matter that that may be the only one. B/c at least that person gets you.<br><br><br><br>
On another note....it is very lonely being a veggie somedays. Lots of people just dont get me. Especially where i live.....its very rare to find someone here that doesnt live and meat and potatoes.<br><br><br><br>
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I think its so true how some people never get over the "highschool stage" and I find it incredibly sad and pathetic. A good majority of the people I went to school with (over 10 years ago) still act the exact same way they did back then.
 
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