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A relative of mine recently got a good paying job working overseas every-other month, but to save more money, he is going to stay with friends/family during his downtime, rather than get his own place.<br><br>
When he stays with me, he will live as a family member, with total access to all food + I almost always make a pretty good dinner. I spend about $250 per month (per person) on food + extra power, water, etc. He won't be responsible for any clean up, other than his own room, which is just a bed in a corner of my storage room. So, it's mostly board, not room. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"> I just want to break even.<br><br>
Does $100 a week sound reasonable? I think that's about what a guest costs me.
 

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Maybe consider asking him to do his own shopping, and charge him nothing? I've never bothered to calculate, but I don't think than an extra person uses a real significant amount of extra electricity/water.<br><br>
But if he's going to eat all of your catered meals, $50-100/week sounds fair. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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First of all, where do you live in the world, and secondly, is this to be a permanent arrangement or only for a set number of months?
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>delicioso</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3025332"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Does $100 a week sound reasonable? I think that's about what a guest costs me.</div>
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If that's what it costs you, absolutely. More than reasonable.
 

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I'd say whatever it costs to break even, you are helping your friend out, after all. As long as you don't milk them, sounds good to me.
 

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I'd say whatever it costs to break even, you are helping your friend out, after all. As long as you don't milk them, sounds good to me.</div>
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This strays from the original question, but if it is a regular rotation and the "friend" is making mega tax-free bank overseas, it seems that it's the friends and family who are getting "milked". I'd expect the friend to be generous without asking. Anything less, and he is taking you for granted.
 

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This strays from the original question, but if it is a regular rotation and the "friend" is making mega tax-free bank overseas, it seems that it's the friends and family who are getting "milked". I'd expect the friend to be generous without asking. Anything less, and he is taking you for granted.</div>
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It's a relative, not a friend and he's halfway through his first stay and hasn't offered anything, yet.<br>
He makes well over 100 K. *sigh*
 

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Is porn included in the room rate? Just asking for a friend.</div>
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He just bought himself a fancy new tablet, so I'm assuming yes.
 

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Maybe he's used to "first month free" deals. If I pick up after anyone who's making good money, there better be some trickling down of the wealth.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>delicioso</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3026472"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
It's a relative, not a friend and <b>he's halfway through his first stay</b> and hasn't offered anything, yet.<br>
He makes well over 100 K. *sigh*</div>
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I think any compensation needs to be agreed to in advance, or else you are just asking for trouble.<br><br>
If you want to let him stay the first time as a "freebie," that's one thing. But I would not allow a second stay without agreeing on compensation.
 

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I was thinking that unless he offers something, there won't be a second stay...<br><br>
I don't want to live with Scrooge MC Duck.
 

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It's a relative, not a friend and he's halfway through his first stay and hasn't offered anything, yet... He makes well over 100 K. *sigh*</div>
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Holy jumping jesus, milk it!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>delicioso</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3025332"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
A relative of mine recently got a good paying job working overseas every-other month, but to save more money, he is going to stay with friends/family during his downtime, rather than get his own place.<br>
When he stays with me, he will live as a family member, with total access to all food + I almost always make a pretty good dinner. I spend about $250 per month (per person) on food + extra power, water, etc. He won't be responsible for any clean up, other than his own room, which is just a bed in a corner of my storage room. So, it's mostly board, not room. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"> I just want to break even.<br>
Does $100 a week sound reasonable? I think that's about what a guest costs me.</div>
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I'm not sure what $100 a week is in real money (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">) but if he is earning over $100K a year that seems very reasonable to me.
 

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Charge him more, and i'm not sure about all states but a lot, if someone ends up living with a person even without a lease, if you try to evict them, they can take you to court because you have to go about it the legal sublet way. If this person ends up staying with you at all for a length of time, write up a contract, i'm not even joking, people think everything will be fine, and then they get screwed over, and don't really know how much you should charge to me that depends on what you are paying for rent or mortgage and everything else.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>delicioso</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3026472"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
It's a relative, not a friend and he's halfway through his first stay and hasn't offered anything, yet.<br>
He makes well over 100 K. *sigh*</div>
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Oh, good grief! I wouldn't charge a close relative, or one who was also a friend. But for distant kin, especially if I didn't know him well, I would ask this relative what he considers a fair price. For all you know, <i>at that point</i> he'd offer far more than you were wanting to charge him. It's one thing to help out someone in a pinch, but another if he has the means but is just helping himself to a free deal. Some relatives, instead of paying rent, make themselves useful cleaning up after meals, buying groceries and treating their hosts to some nice restaurant meals. And some are great company and you wish they'd come out more often. But if he's more of a mooch, his stay with you might be a drag and you won't miss him if he doesn't come back.<br><br>
If you think you might someday be staying for weeks at this person's home while you are traveling, another matter altogether. He'll owe you one!<br><br>
I'm not clear on what you mean by his first stay. Is that with some other relative, or is he already with you?
 
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