[CharlotteJaid]

I am starting to feel like nobody supports me in my decision to be a vegetarian again. My family laughed at me and called me stupid and cooks meat breakfast lunch n dinner. My boyfriend went out n bought a pepperoni pizza and hotdogs. He said he supports me and will help me but he does the exact opposite. We have no vegitarian foods at home so I am starving. I have been living off of almond joy and veggi-straws at work. I AM STARVING! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":huh:">

 

[rags.]

We'll support you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""> come on here & talk to us!<br><br>
No one really supported me when I first decided to become veggie either. I think they just thought it was a phase & that I'd 'snap out of it.' but if you stick to it they'll soon realise your taking it seriously....they'll get used to it & it probably won't even be much of an issue anymore.

 

[rags.]

As for food at home, an you stock up on foods for yourself?

 

[LittleOne89]

People are a lot more likely to support and accept your decisions and your choices when they don't have to do anything or change in any way themselves. So if you decide to go vegetarian, and you're not already shopping for yourself, I'd suggest buying your own groceries. That way you can pick out what you want and your boyfriend or your family won't need to feel like they're forced to change just because you have decided to eat differently. If you're not the one who does the cooking, try to change that. Cook your own meals that way no one else will have to change the way they cook to accommodate your new healthy eating. Basically just take on the responsibility of handling your dietary changes yourself, and if you do that, then I really don't see what anyone else would have a problem with. Unless you're expecting them to go veg too, or only eating veg when they're around you, then they really don't need to make any changes, so it's not as if there's anything for them to be bothered by, you know?<br><br>
If they don't support you, don't be afraid to ask them why. See if maybe there's something that's bothering them about the changes you've been making and if it's something you weren't aware of, but something you'd be willing to adjust, then awesome! If it's something completely ridiculous and not an acceptable reason in your opinion, then just say ok, thank them for sharing their feelings with you on the matter, and let that be that. You can't please everyone and some people may choose not to support you just because you eating cruelty-free around them, may force them to feel somewhat guilty about what they are eating. But really, that's not your problem. That's their problem. So just do what you do, try to be as independent as you can, and enjoy the yummy veggie food in the process! lol

 

[CharlotteJaid]

thank you guys this is actually very helpful. I do buy my own groceries but they tend to eat them as well. my family isnt really big on privacy or respect to other peoples things. ( im saving up money to move out asap) I tend to cook for myself and my boyfriend but i cook our meals seperately I wish he would cook his own food so i dont have to cook the meat. is there any recipies for snacks anyone can suggest, also i am alergic to mushrooms so nothing with mushrooms please.

 

[fadeaway1289]

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thank you guys this is actually very helpful. I do buy my own groceries but they tend to eat them as well. my family isnt really big on privacy or respect to other peoples things. ( im saving up money to move out asap) I tend to cook for myself and my boyfriend but i cook our meals seperately I wish he would cook his own food so i dont have to cook the meat. is there any recipies for snacks anyone can suggest, also i am alergic to mushrooms so nothing with mushrooms please.</div>
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Why can't your boyfriend cook his own food? Why does he depend on you to cook for him? If he respects your decision so much he wouldn't expect you to cook meat for him. Does your boyfriend live with you and your family?

 

[CharlotteJaid]

yea he lives with me and my family. my family lets him live here but they arnt exactly accepting of him they dont get along so he kind of stays in the room when he isnt at work. they give him evil looks and attitudes when he goes into the kitchen. otherwise he loves cooking. his mom taught him to cook n she is a wonderful cook i must say. she is much more supportive of my vegetarian choices.

 

[offthahook]

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thank you guys this is actually very helpful. I do buy my own groceries but they tend to eat them as well. my family isnt really big on privacy or respect to other peoples things. ( im saving up money to move out asap) I tend to cook for myself and my boyfriend but i cook our meals seperately I wish he would cook his own food so i dont have to cook the meat. is there any recipies for snacks anyone can suggest, also i am alergic to mushrooms so nothing with mushrooms please.</div>
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Hey, stand up for yourself girl! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""> You weren't put on this earth to cook for your bf. Tell him to cook his own stuff.<br>
If he can't do that, he should look at moving out somewhere else.

 

[CharlotteJaid]

HAHA i love him very much. but also since he lives with me and my family my family doesnt really treat him nicely. they give him evil looks and attitude. so untill we can afford to move out ourselves he normally eats out. or waits for them to go to bed.

 

[YellowRose]

I say put your foot down and don't let them eat all of your groceries. I have a lot of dietary restrictions due to food allergies, and though I'm generally a pretty laid-back person, one thing that sets me off is when people get into my food without asking. It's rude, especially if you have specific dietary needs.<br><br>
Any chance of designating a shelf for your personal groceries in the refrigerator? Can you call a brief, non-hostile family meeting and say, "Look, guys. I do my own grocery shopping so I'll have food because I eat differently than you do and don't want to put you to trouble. When you take my groceries, it often leaves me with nothing to eat. Can I have the top right corner of the fridge for my own things, please?"<br><br>
Hang in there. We'll support you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="">

 

[CharlotteJaid]

i guess that would be a worth a try. I hope they understand. Thanky ou for your support so much. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="">

 

[peacefulveglady]

Get a small fridge in your bedroom with this way , you have some food for yourself, I would find a way to get into at least a studio apartment where your at. At least you will have space to eat.

 

[Tenebrae]

Try to buy mainly vegetarian food then.<br><br>
I doubt they would eat it since most people think the food is gross.

 

[Tiger Lilly]

Hmmmm, as you don't want to leave your boyfriend in the lurch, this is what I'd suggest.<br><br>
Tell him that 3-4 days out of the week, you're going to be cooking vegetarian meals.<br><br>
Use fake meats, if you're okay with that, so that he's not missing out too much. Honestly, I love the taste of meat. But I haven't missed it due to the great range of fake stuff out there. So, I doubt your boyfriend will miss out too much either.<br><br>
If he doesn't like that deal, tough. You're the one cooking, you get to make the call.

 

[AKTF]

I don't recommend eating fake meats...you should avoid imitation stuff as much as possible lest they started mocking you for "secretly craving" meat and "denying yourself of the REAL stuff". Tell your family to not eat your groceries anymore...you bought them with your own money, so they are yours. For things like pizza, instead of scouring Whole Foods for a lackluster imitation cheese, go cheeseless! As long as the sauce is flavorful and toppings are well chosen to suit each other, you won't miss it. Try things like lentil stew, vegan chili, or other vegan tweaks of crowd favorites.

 

[Tiger Lilly]

I think I read it here, where someone had fake meats in the fridge (hotdogs by memory) the family started eating them without realising the difference. I think that's VERY cool.<br><br>
I've had people make that argument to me though. I love my fake meats, I love actual meat (though the last time I ate it, it felt greasy and bad) When I respond to them, I totally steal a line from a lady who wrote about giving up dairy "I couldn't give up cheese, so I chose to give up cruelty instead"<br><br><a href="http://www.thisveganlife.org/i-couldnt-give-up-cheese-so-i-gave-up-animal-cruelty-instead/" target="_blank">http://www.thisveganlife.org/i-could...uelty-instead/</a>

 

[AKTF]

Hi, me again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="">. I just wanted to mention that pesto is a fun idea for the pizza thing, or maybe guacamole (in place of the usual tomato sauce). Also, this:<br><br><a href="http://honestfare.com/mastering-the-collard-wrap/" target="_blank">http://honestfare.com/mastering-the-collard-wrap/</a><br><br>
looks pretty good, in my opinion (as well as being diabetic-friendly and takes care of scouring through ingredients for egg/dairy). Just steam the collards a bit for better nutrient absorption! Other lazy ideas are using baked spaghetti squash strands in place of wheat spaghetti, or baking your own kale chips (with lots of seasoning <3)over buying potato chips at the store. Healthy has never looked so good <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""><br><br>
You can make chickpea cutlets, or black bean burger patties, if allergies are no issue, you can dabble in a bit of seitan or vital wheat gluten, etc.

 

[jentlytread]

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When I respond to them, I totally steal a line from a lady who wrote about giving up dairy "I couldn't give up cheese, so I chose to give up cruelty instead"<br><br><a href="http://www.thisveganlife.org/i-couldnt-give-up-cheese-so-i-gave-up-animal-cruelty-instead/" target="_blank">http://www.thisveganlife.org/i-could...uelty-instead/</a></div>
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I loved the blog/article. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""> So true.

 

[Gita]

Then buy your own small fridge, a few cooking items like a rice cooker, a crock pot, a toaster oven and so on, and store and cook your own food. Don't cook for your BF, tell him that it is 2012 and you are not his slave. If you fear losing him, there is something wrong with the relationship. Get a new boyfriend.

 

[madisonelise]

Just keep at it! Show them all how dedicated you are... exercise and eat healthily and they will see your body transform into something wonderful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""><br><br>
Good luck!