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As of Saturday next week (August 6th) I'm supposed to be flying to England to see my boyfriend. I had a friend who was supposed to look after my 2 cats, however I've been trying to reach her for the last few days with no luck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> They won't be able to come to England with me at least untill January.<br><br>
So what can I do? And can anyone help me? I'm not keeping my house, so they have to be cared for in someone else's house. I'm in Georgia, however I'm happy to drive my cats to anywhere including eastern Canada. They're indoor cats, so they just need their own room and they're good to go.<br><br>
Thanks so much for any help you guys can give.<br><br>
Edit: And on the other hand also, I was very close to having to rehome them the last time I moved house, because I wasn't sure that I'd be able to find somewhere where I could have them. If it doesn't work out with the guy in England, my plan was to move to New York, and I know there it can be even harder to find a place to rent with cats. So part of me is wondering if I should just find a no-kill shelter and wish them well, trying to balance out my attachment to them with what would make them happiest. I just don't know. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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If i didn't live so far (California) and didn't have a territorial cat that will try to kill any other feline he sees i would probably be willing to take them in lol, sorry and good luck.
 

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Have you thought about professional pet sitters?<br><br><a href="http://www.georgiapetsitters.com/" target="_blank">http://www.georgiapetsitters.com/</a>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>sleepydvdr</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2953600"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Have you thought about professional pet sitters?<br><br><a href="http://www.georgiapetsitters.com/" target="_blank">http://www.georgiapetsitters.com/</a></div>
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I had called several of those places weeks ago, but the cheapest I could board them for was $500/month, way out of my budget <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Mia82</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2953640"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I had called several of those places weeks ago, but the cheapest I could board them for was $500/month, way out of my budget <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("></div>
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So you are going to be gone for a month (or more)? Also, wouldn't a trip to as far as Canada and back be pretty costly from Atlanta? From some rough calculations, 1500 miles to Canada (minimum) * the price of gas ($3.50/gallon) * 2 (because you have to drive there and back) / 25 mpg (average mpg for most cars) = $420.00. And then there's the fact that you can afford a round trip plane ticket to England, but you can't afford $500 to keep your pets while you are gone? All this and you have a backup plan because you aren't even sure things will work out with this guy from England? And you are also thinking about handing off your cats to an animal shelter. Even if they tell you they won't kill them, do you really think the cats will get the love and companionship they have come to expect?<br><br>
I don't want to offend you, but it doesn't seem like you have thought this whole thing thoroughly.
 

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That's a rude thing to say "you have enough money to do this but not to do this?" Yes some expenses people can take care of while they cannot take care of others, and plans fall through as well, people can do what they want with their own life and they should be able to put their life before their cats. If i move i most likely won't be able to take my rabbit, unless my mom is willing to keep him, then i have to give him away or put him in a shelter, and i'm not going to stay at this house for the next 15 years because i have a rabbit. Now of course i should have thought about that before, but i can't change the past so there you go. I guess it's just a difference that a lot of you put animals at the same level as people, and i'm not one of them.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Mia82</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2953538"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
As of Saturday next week (August 6th) I'm supposed to be flying to England to see my boyfriend...<br><br>
part of me is wondering if I should just find a no-kill shelter and wish them well, trying to balance out my attachment to them with what would make them happiest. I just don't know. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("></div>
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Mia, sorry for your bind <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br>
2 things about no kill shelters:<br><br>
-cats are generally kept in cages (but not at all of them), which is not really a decent life, and I wouldn't want to do to a loved cat in my possession if there is an option - it's not the best transition. They can stay in a cage for weeks, months, even years. It's very jarring with all the other animals. Shelters are really not the best place for cats.<br>
- I've never heard of a no kill shelter where one can make an appointment and take an adult cat there within a week. In my experience it takes months to get a cat to a no kill shelter, if they even have a waiting list. I don't see how this is a possible option for you, unless no kill shelters are very different in your area.<br><br>
Do you have any other friends whom you can pay for their caretaking?<br><br>
It really sucks that things are falling through and this must be really stressful. But if you want my honest opinion, if I had pets and their care wasn't very well secured with someone reliable - in a place that I knew would be great for them - I wouldn't go until it was, no matter the cost. The guy will still be there, but this is these animals' whole lives.<br><br>
I'm hoping someone here can help out - if you're able to pay for all their food and care and a small boarding fee it might make it easier for someone who has the space and time but not the money <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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a lot of you put animals at the same level as people, and i'm not one of them</div>
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it's not a matter of pets at the same level as people, it's about taking on the responsibility for another life, and then following through on that responsibility. It doesn't mean you have to keep them for the rest of your life, if your situation becomes too difficult to do so, but it does mean that you plan your life taking them into consideration, and if it becomes necessary, to find the best re-homing situation possible.
 

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That's a rude thing to say "you have enough money to do this but not to do this?" Yes some expenses people can take care of while they cannot take care of others, and plans fall through as well, people can do what they want with their own life and they should be able to put their life before their cats. If i move i most likely won't be able to take my rabbit, unless my mom is willing to keep him, then i have to give him away or put him in a shelter, and i'm not going to stay at this house for the next 15 years because i have a rabbit. Now of course i should have thought about that before, but i can't change the past so there you go. I guess it's just a difference that a lot of you put animals at the same level as people, and i'm not one of them.</div>
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I know my comment sounded a bit rude. That's why I said I didn't want to offend her, meaning I meant it in the nicest way possible. My point was I think she should take a look at the whole situation again. Not just for the pets' sake. I don't particularly put animals above humans.<br><br>
I made a few assumptions from what she said. This is what I gathered:<br><br>
1. If $500 is way out of her budget for pet care, then she is living paycheck to paycheck and not very well off. Not saying she's poor, but she doesn't have a lot of luxury money laying around.<br>
2. If she is going to be gone for about a month (another assumption from her comments), then that means she is losing a month's worth of salary from employment.<br>
3. From what she said, it sounds like she has only talked to this guy and have never met him in person. That is a big potential for disaster. People can turn out very different from what you expect. If she is betting on a future with a guy she has never met, she shouldn't get her hopes up too much.<br><br>
And you are 100% right. People can do what they want. I'm just offering a little wisdom from the experiences I have witnessed. I just would hate for her to give up so much only to come back to VB next month and say this guy was totally not right for her, she lost her job to go see him, her pets are gone, the plane tickets took away her savings and now she has to find a place to live. All for a gamble on meeting a guy in England.
 

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I know my comment sounded a bit rude. That's why I said I didn't want to offend her, meaning I meant it in the nicest way possible. My point was I think she should take a look at the whole situation again. Not just for the pets' sake. I don't particularly put animals above humans.<br><br>
I made a few assumptions from what she said. This is what I gathered:<br><br>
1. If $500 is way out of her budget for pet care, then she is living paycheck to paycheck and not very well off. Not saying she's poor, but she doesn't have a lot of luxury money laying around.<br>
2. If she is going to be gone for about a month (another assumption from her comments), then that means she is losing a month's worth of salary from employment.<br>
3. From what she said, it sounds like she has only talked to this guy and have never met him in person. That is a big potential for disaster. People can turn out very different from what you expect. If she is betting on a future with a guy she has never met, she shouldn't get her hopes up too much.<br><br>
And you are 100% right. People can do what they want. I'm just offering a little wisdom from the experiences I have witnessed. I just would hate for her to give up so much only to come back to VB next month and say this guy was totally not right for her, she lost her job to go see him, her pets are gone, the plane tickets took away her savings and now she has to find a place to live. All for a gamble on meeting a guy in England.</div>
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You're right i totally agree.
 

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If you are willing to drive anywhere for these cats is there anyone that you know that can help out? Family, friends, coworkers? Even if those people are unable to care for the cats do they know of anyone responsible, reliable, and trustworthy that can? Personally I would NEVER give my cats (pets) over to a shelter. If anything I would call the shelter and see if they know of someone that can watch them while you are away. Maybe someone that fosters frequently would be willing to help out. Honestly, I'd be on the phone and on the computer, calling and emailing everyone and anyone I knew, gathering as much information and help as possible to find someone to give them a home for a bit.
 

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I wouldn't choose a man over my cats. My husband says sometimes he worries that I've left him when he comes home and I'm not there, but as long as the cats are there he knows I'm coming back :p He knows exactly where he stands at home.
 

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Thanks for your replies guys, and no offense taken to anything. This afternoon and evening has been quite the whirlwind of phone calls and emails, but it looks like I've talked my landlord into looking after them for $300/month! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br>
I was very secure with everything untill earlier today, otherwise of course I would have spent a lot more time thinking things through! What has been over my head for a while though, which breaks my heart, is how stable my living arrangement is and whether the kitties can stick around. When I had to move last time, I was very close to having to rehome them as the odds of finding a place where I could have them wasn't looking good. Also, travelling overseas was part of my 3-5 year plan, and a huge part of me was wondering if it would be fair to them to keep them. Its a lot of unknowns, including how things wil work with this guy. While we have been talking for a while and we are deeply in love with each other, this will be the first time we've met in person. But if things don't work out with him, my original plan was to go to New York untill I had saved enough money to travel, and the renting with pets situation there doesn't look great. However, yes, if I had known this hitch was going to come up then I would have delayed my trip. And now, I'm just really hoping that no matter what happens in my life from this point forward, whether the man is in my life or not, that the kitties definitely will be around.
 

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I'm glad you found a place for them! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Poor babies will probably miss you while you're away, but at least they'll be taken care of and hopefully you'll get to move them with you soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Thanks, I most certainly hope so too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I'm glad you found a solution and I wish you luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I wouldn't choose a man over my cats. My husband says sometimes he worries that I've left him when he comes home and I'm not there, but as long as the cats are there he knows I'm coming back :p He knows exactly where he stands at home.</div>
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Glad it all worked out for you and the cats, Mia.
 

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Thanks guys! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
It's been a lot of last-minute nerves making sure my loose ends are tied up before I fly out, and good to know that this isn't something to worry about anymore.
 

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Im glad you worked it out!
 
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