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I'm sure that this has been posted before and I'm so sorry if you all are over talking about this but...<br><br><br><br>
I've been vegetarian for some years now and I still have this problem. We go out to eat, I ask what's in whatever I'm ordering, and state that I'm vegetarian and do not eat meat or fish. I'm ultra polite, make eye contact, and thank my waiter/ress for everything they do. Yet still, it seems to happen all the time... I end up getting something with bacon in it, or chicken pieces, or a distinct chicken broth base.<br><br><br><br>
Recently I went to a favorite restraraunt and the manager was our waiter. I ordered the same thing I always do which isn't on the menu. But they always make it with no issue. The chef came to our table asked what veggies I liked or didn't like. I told him whatever he made I'd be a happy lil vegetarian. Three bites into it...<br><br><br><br>
Bacon.<br><br><br><br>
What do you do? How do you react? What am I doing wrong? I'm super polite, so much so that I frequently get asked if I wait tables (I never have). I don't live somewhere that has any vegetarian restraunts... none. Any advice is appreciated <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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It IS difficult to eat out in some communities, but first of all, I want to say, it's so refreshing to hear that you ARE polite, because I've eaten out with too many veg*ns who definitely WEREN'T polite at all...<br><br><br><br>
You may need to be more assertive (still in a polite way) and add the items you also DON'T want... specifically say "<i>No bacon, no chicken broth, no ____ "</i> (whatever troublesome item you can think of that they might put in). They are probably doing things to the best of their knowledge - most people don't KNOW that vegetarians don't eat chicken broth - or fish - or whatever... you get to educate them!<br><br><br><br>
It also helps to order items that need as little modification as possible. Asking for an item with three or four substitutions is pushing your luck.<br><br><br><br>
What sort of restaurants ARE there in your area? What sort of items do you order at those places? Once you get familiar with a menu, it gets easier, but I don't think it's ever "goof-proof" since you're ordering in a way that is totally alien to most of the restaurant staff out there in the "meat-and-potatoes" world.<br><br><br><br>
Just keep smiling and keep sending it back until they get it right, if you need to - they'll learn eventually and it'll make the next time easier for you or the next veg*n who comes into their restaurant.
 

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Just send it back and explain why. If you get a wrong order in a restaurant it's not at all impolite to request the correct order. As long as you do it politely and aren't rude there should be no issue.
 

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I can't send it back... I just can't. The biggest thing is that after I tasted the bacon I was nauseous. I never eat after something like that. Usually, I don't make a fuss at all. Sometimes my Honey says something but I only mention it. If it happens repeatedly- I used to order chinese from this place that has vegetarian specified on the menu stating, no meat, no fish, no inclusions. After too many times of biting into shrimp and calmly telling managers, I drove up there and put the half eaten, shrimp eggroll on top of the menu in front of 15 other customers and said, "this is not vegetarian. This has happened way too much. I want my money back. You've lost my business."<br><br><br><br>
I miss their food still.
 

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Try scanning the restaurant's menu before your visit. Many restaurants now have websites, so this makes previewing the menu a lot easier. Some chain restaurant companies, including Panera, Burger King, and Taco Bell, now distribute ingredient listings for all of their meals--so you can check the ingredients for any unwanted hidden nasties.<br><br><br><br>
I agree with the part about trying to keep your order as simple as possible.<br><br><br><br>
I don't have first hand experience with this, but some veg*n advocates suggest not proclaiming your veggie status to the restaurant staff. They worry that it could be the impetus for pranks and intentional "mistakes" by smart-alec kitchen staff.
 

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Honestly, I dont think this has ever happened to me.<br><br>
I usually just get things I know I will want to eat. Im not very strict though, I mean I dont usually ask, I just order stuff that wouldnt have any meat in it. What kinda things are you ordering that this happens? I get things like veggie burger, or sushi rolls minus the fish part, or salads minus the chicken. etc etc. Simple stuff. What places are you going that they are putting meat in your food? Let me know please so I never go there! lol
 

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I always try to go to a familiar place, where I know I can get something vegetarian. I also try to check out the resturants website to see what's good. I never have any major issues with ordering at resturants when I'm at home (in my own town/country) but as soon as I go abroad they mess up my orders. Especially when I visit my family in Cyprus. Vegetarians are VERY rare there. Some people laugh at me when I tell them I don't eat meat. Some still think I eat fish (I don't) I try my best to explain myself and I usually end up ordering just a salad and saying I'm on a diet. I also find it easier to just say I'm allergic to something.
 

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I can't send it back... I just can't.</div>
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Why on earth not?<br><br><br><br>
If you are genuinely too ill to continue your meal you are well within your rights to request a refund, though I do believe a requesting a replacement meal would be better "protocol".
 

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I've had that happen to me every now and then at restaurants. It's so tiresome especially when you have specifically stated 'no meat or fish'.<br><br><br><br>
You can't just let it go though, it's best to make a polite fuss about it because they never learn otherwise.
 

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Personally I woudn't even go far as to call it a "polite fuss". It's just politely requesting the dish you ordered. It's not even about them "learning", either. If you order (for example) pan-fried mushrooms & tomatoes on rye toast and get pan-fried mushrooms with asparagus on wholemeal toast you are equally able to send it back and request the correct meal. Mistakes happen, there's no reason to make a fuss about it. Neither is there any reason to sit there and say nothing.
 

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I used to think I'd never send something back - but then got a non-vegetarian eggroll and got angry. I sent it back, demanded new silverware, insisted that I would NOT pay for the messed up order and left a lousy tip. I thought that having to pick pork out of my teeth needed something in return.<br><br><br><br>
Things I order:<br><br>
At Eat 'n Park - salad bar or veggie burger. NO SOUP<br><br>
At an Amish Restaurant - salad bar or veggie burger NO SOUP<br><br>
At a Chinese restaurant - usually broccoli in garlic sauce or something with tofu, and (if I have a waiter whose English is OK) a vegetarian egg roll. NO SOUP. I consciously don't ask what kind of oil they use for frying.<br><br>
At a Mexican restaurant - once I've established that they don't use lard in their refried beans, there are lots of options. My favorite is either a bean burrito or vegggie fajitas.<br><br>
Italian restaurant - I find out what things use a marinara (meatless) sauce and order pasta and bread/salad with that. NO SOUP I avoid Olive Garden.<br><br>
Fast Food - Subway or Taco Bell. Wendy's veggie salad and fries in a pinch.<br><br><br><br>
I avoid soups since you never know what'sin them, and I try to find dishes that were already vegetarian.
 

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I do tend to eat at the same restaurants and order the same things. If I'm in unfamiliar territory I order something blatantly vegetarian. This last time it happened was at a favorite rest. with a dish I order every time. Pasta and grilled veggies with sauted garlic and EVOO... that's all I ordered. Sometimes it just... happens. I don't send stuff back because I'm paranoid- I know it's stupid but I'm weird about food and too many of my friends worked in restaurants... I've heard too many stories. And I really don't feel like eating once I've gotten a meat taste in my mouth... I think that's understandable. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
It can just totally blow the mood. J (My fiance) and I always get over it quickly but I was just wondering what others do when this happens. It happens to me a lot.<br><br><br><br>
I live in a resort area with nice restaraunts but none of them know what vegetarian is it seems-lol. I'm good at a sushi place or a health food place (we have two) but that's usually about it. There's tons of seafood places which are the worst.<br><br><br><br>
This is actually my only gripe about being vegetarian. I don't mind the questions/ harrassement/ inconvenience it's just this one thing...<br><br><br><br>
Thanx for all the wonderful replies! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I agree that you should politely send the dish back, and tell them why. If you don't, they will never know that they did something wrong, cannot correct their mistake, and will only repeat it in the future with you and other veg*ns.<br><br><br><br>
The last time this happened to me, I too did not even want a replacement after being so disgusted, but I sure as heck sent the dish back, told them why, and expected it credited to my tab.
 

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And I really don't feel like eating once I've gotten a meat taste in my mouth... I think that's understandable. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br></div>
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When I accidently ate ham last week, I kept shoveling food in my mouth for two hours straight. I figured if I kept eating, eventually the taste would be buried.<br><br><br><br>
It didn't work. I just felt nauseated. But as long as I was busy eating, I wasn't thinking "OMG, I ate dead pig. Remember that taste? That was pig flesh. OMG."<br><br><br><br>
I can see why you wouldn't want to eat anything else at that restaurant, though. I waited till I was home with my own food before I started bingeing.
 

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I live in Virginia Beach, Virginia. Oceanfront, "resort" (not really-lol) I do tell them when they ask if everything is all right that I'm thought the dish would be meat-free and that I'm vegetarian... politely.<br><br><br><br>
That's too funny Iria! I tend to drink afterwards... terrible I know. But I always order a stiff vodka tonic with lots of lime just to "flush" the taste... it seems to help with the thoughts too...lol
 

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Personally I woudn't even go far as to call it a "polite fuss". It's just politely requesting the dish you ordered.</div>
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That's exactly what I meant by that statement, bring it to their attention but be polite.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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With regard to my experiences it is. Sure mistakes happen, but if you order a meal and specifically request it with no meat or fish and it arrives with prawns then they obviously didn't listen to your order correctly. And when you explain you can't it eat because fish is meat and they look at you like they are confused, that indicates to me that they don't really understand that fish is meat. That's the bit they need to learn.
 

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here's the dilemma i personally have with that: do you a) return it to make a point and hopefully avoid this from happening to yourself or others in the future, or, b) eat it, knowing that if you send it back, it will get thrown out? what a waste.<br><br><br><br>
i've done both.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Three bites into it...<br><br><br><br>
Bacon.<br><br><br><br>
What do you do? How do you react?</div>
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here's the dilemma i personally have with that: do you a) return it to make a point and hopefully avoid this from happening to yourself or others in the future, or, b) eat it, knowing that if you send it back, it will get thrown out? what a waste.<br><br><br><br>
i've done both.</div>
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I, and many others here, I'm sure, cannot stomach eating meat. It's too repulsive. I'm not vegan, so I don't know, a little bit of cheese might be edible, but if I found bacon bits in my food, there's no way I could eat it. It would have to go to waste.
 
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