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i hear your frustration, funkified. that sucks. your mom must feel really scared and worried after your experience with anorexia. it's very hard feeling powerless to help someone you can see is suffering and who you love very much.

did your mom read much about the disease while you were in it's throes? was she a part of your recovery? have you told her how this behaviour affects you, really?

i know it's hard sometimes to open up the lines of communication with parents - it's such a weird intimate relationship with someone who you never really CHOSE to have one with - but i think that if you are living together, and lived through your experiences with ED, frank communication would be key to your working through this.
 

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okay. well, you're family knew and understood what was going on with you while you were anorexic. as you say, they were in denial. that indicates knowledge, since denial is essentially a form of ignoring something real that you don't want to be real. it's only been talked about since you brought it up.

i know it's tough and you don't want to hurt her feelings. i am sure she is feeling the same way about how to approach you about her fears for your well-being. the way you are wording things here shows me that you have the words you need to be honest and non-hurtful with people. i am almost 100% certain that if you sat down with her and laid it on the table, she'd get it.

also, do you have any resources that you could give her that talk about the kinds of things you are experiencing now that you are in recovery? maybe if she read some true-life experiences from other people who have come out of ED to tell the tale, she might be able to better see your side of things?

i know that i don't like to talk much about my experiences with bulemia as a teen and young adult because i find myself looking fondly back at them when it becomes a topic of discussion. i don't know if that's the same for you, but triggers are so ****ing weird and personal.
 
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