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Let's start off with the rules!<br><br><br><br>
Eat to Live VII: Support Thread for Eating Disorder Recovery<br><br><br><br>
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Anyone is welcome to join in, but you have to following the rules:<br><br><br><br>
1. You get hugged, regardless if you want it or not.<br><br>
2. You have to be willing to learn to love yourself, even if you do not right now.<br><br>
3. Numbers concerning weight, calories, etc are not allowed.<br><br>
4. Naming-calling yourself will only be tolerated to a point. 1 positive comment is required in every post.<br><br>
5. You have to be actively working on getting better.<br><br><br><br>
May the day come quickly when we do not need this thread. Until then, this will always been a safe place to land.<br><br><br><br>
Why actively getting better? This is meant as a recovery thread, a place to support people who recognize they have a problem and are working to fix it OUTSIDE of the internet. This is a peer group; we are not doctors or therapists. We cannot help you conquer your eating disorder all by ourselves.
 

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<b><i>Eat to Live VII: Eating Disorder Support</i></b><br><br><br><br>
Did "recovery" not fit in the title? 'Cause it seems that "recovery" is an important part of what the thread should be about, right?
 

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Nice one Lib. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
New Thread, New Start, New Hopes and New Goals. New Us.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck everyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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thanks for pointing out my mistake, Ahimsa, but most people posting in the thread know what it's about.
 

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I'll fix the title <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Hey everyone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
I'm currently trying to recover from Bulimia and figured I would make myself known! I am starting treatment on the 18th and really having a hard time. It seems like I can ruin a good day at any time.... it sucks!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Libellula</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
thanks for pointing out my mistake, Ahimsa, but most people posting in the thread know what it's about.</div>
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I could be misinterpreting your tone, but it seems you are bothered by my being helpful. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br><br><br>
As far as "most people posting in the thread" knowing what it's about, that's not sufficient. New people or lurkers need to know what it's about too. It's not an exclusive club with a secret or implied language or something, right?<br><br><br><br>
You do realize that not only the people who have been here for a while will have access to this thread, right? Scores of new people will see it too, and since the intent of this thread is to support people in recovery from an ED, I said what I did.<br><br><br><br>
How could my intent and the reasonableness of what I said not be clear? I wasn't "pointing out" a mistake, I asked if the correct title did not fit.
 

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Please make friends guys - no one means anything bad. Good to start well, huh? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Rock n Roll</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Hey everyone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
I'm currently trying to recover from Bulimia and figured I would make myself known! I am starting treatment on the 18th and really having a hard time. It seems like I can ruin a good day at any time.... it sucks!</div>
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Isn't that a horrid feeling? Living in fear that you could ruin a day rather than just enjoying it? I really hope that you can come out of this, as I am sure you can. I know that it is hard, but you are getting help. And that is a major step. What kind of help are you getting?<br><br><br><br>
R, well done for trying. And I bet the skiing was awesome. I love skiing, but being in the UK you don't get much chance to do it...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br><br><br>
I've had a scarey, but ok few days. I think if I just keep eating out, the easier it will get. I'm feeling good right now.<br><br><br><br>
*Imparts waves of happiness to the thread in general*<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/pibo.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":pibo:"><br><br><br><br>
Other positive - I just phoned up a restaurant to take my grandparents to for their 64TH!! wedding anniversary, and the guy was so accomodating about vegan food! See, being vegan doesn't necessarily mean missing out socially. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> And there is sparkly frost on the lawn, and the sun is out. Sadly, this is spoilt by the fact that the house smells of roast chicken...
 

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Welcome Rock n' Roll. Good luck with battling bulimia; you couldn't have put it better when you say it can ruin a good day at any time. I don't have bulimia as such, but do go through days of serious overeating as a snap back from anorexia and I hate it so, so much. Like I'll wake up and be on edge permanently until I go to bed again, worried I'll eat something I shouldn't. Really, I don't want to wake up at all at the moment.<br><br><br><br>
It's horrible - I can either stick to exactly what I've planned and be hungry (and this is not on a small amount of food; most people in the I Ate Today survive on way less) or eat out of my plan. Then I feel out of control. Then I go nuts and binge because I hate myself for eating so much more than everyone else even on a restricting day. Why am I such a pig, such a bottomless pit? I don't gain weight on what I eat now but I have to exercise a lot to maintain it and I'm so scared I'll just snap as I've done so many times in the past, not exercise enough and eat too much and I just can't take gaining any more weight than I already have...my class this morning was cancelled so I'm home early but I can't eat for another two hours at least because that's what I would have done at class please let my willpower (hah, that's a joke) hold out...<br><br><br><br>
Sorry, I'll shut up with my rant now. Pirate, I actually have to leave the house and go for a walk or something if there's any meat roasting in the house - the smell just never goes away, it gets in your hair, clothes, everything *urgh* Been the same way since I was eleven or so and went veggie...veganism came a few years later originally (excluding my slip back to veggie three weeks ago, but that only lasted two days and I realised I loathed it) Umm, struggling to find a positive today...I suppose the weather is positive; sunny, clear, not too hot or cold *nods*
 

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Welcome Rock n Roll! I wish you the best of luck in your recovery with bulimia, keep us updated on your progress. =)<br><br><br><br>
Pirate, it's good to hear that you are eating out. That's a huge step to overcome. Keep it up!<br><br><br><br>
Jasmiana, you're not a pig, your body is just telling you that it needs nourishment to survive. Listen to your body, it's smart! I haven't, and I keep waking up hungry.
 

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Jasmina - I know. Bacon is the worst for that. Or fish. Salmon. Blech. I can remember my flatmates cooking bacon without warning me once and oh GOD I felt ill.<br><br>
You aren't a bottomless pit. You are a very strong person to come through all this, and to even admit you have a problem. You are a strong person to commit for such a long time to veg*ism. Remember that. You are special.
 

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Thanks everyone!<br><br><br><br>
I'm going to a therapist for an evaulation at my State's top eating disorder facility. I really didn't want to go but my mom sort of opened my eyes as to how out of control things have gotten. She's going to learn about me and then tell me what kind of treatment she thinks I need. I'm really nervous about whats going to happen but I know it's for the best.<br><br><br><br>
I'm looking forward to getting to know all of you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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The new thread is a nice idea, a fresh new begining for all of us!<br><br><br><br>
Hi, Rock n roll! Hope the appointment with that new therapist will go fine.<br><br><br><br>
I want to tell you guys about a positive thing I did tonight: I went to the ed open support group for the first time! It was hard, especially when people started talking about calories. I had never met anyone with similar problems and it felt more like a face to face with my own demons. Half of the meeting I was not even able to listen to what the others were saying because I was too busy with myself, I'll try to work on that next time but I guess it's normal for the first time. Also, there was this girl, she was the only one thinner than me. A part of me felt like a total failure to be so much fatter, but as I kept staring at her, I realized I really didn't think she looked beautiful at all. She looked sick, in fact, sicker than me. Why am I totally unable to connect those two opposite voices inside of me??? Anyway... One awesome thing: I was told my inputs were thoughtful and helpful. It touched me so much. Sometimes I feel my ed is making me selfish because it takes so much place in my head and this place could be dedicated to much more important issues, you know? It meant a lot to see it is possible to use my personal experience for helping others.
 

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It IS possible to use personal experiences to help others. it must have been triggering to have a "sicker"/ "thinner" person in the room with you. I still don't like that when I go to my appointments. I don't like looking at anyone else, in case they are thinner than me. But you have to remember that thinner doesn't mean better. Well done for going to the meeting Vert.<br><br><br><br>
Rock and Roll, looking forward to getting to know you too. Good luck with the facility, let us know how it goes.<br><br><br><br>
How are we all today?
 

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support groups can be really helpful; both getting advice and different points of view from others, and giving insight to people in similar situations as your own.. it can be a boost, for sure. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
i attend a weekly support group, and i'm always so glad when i go.<br><br><br><br>
i've become increasingly anxious about sharing the kitchen with my (extremely!) omnivorous parents; they're always cooking meat and eggs and cheese and milk, and i'm so freaked out by using the same dishes (even after they've been washed) and sharing countertops and so on.<br><br>
i'm not sure how to deal with it, i guess; i do my best to keep the space clean, but i'm just so paranoid, you know?<br><br><br><br>
i'm definately overthinking my food choices.<br><br>
i feel very off-balance about what i've eaten in the past day or so; too much fruit yesterday, too much fat today..<br><br><br><br>
but, i am feeling pretty good otherwise; school is going well, and i'm enjoying reading all these books i got out from the library.
 

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Hi everyone. I hope I'm allowed in here. I'm really {pleasantly} suprised to find such a support group on these boards. I've been struggling with anorexia since I was just a little kid. Too many wasted years and hospitalizations to count. I'm currently in therapy for it {among other things, OCD etc} and struggling badly. Every day is an uphill battle. Even worse, so many of my friends and family see my vegetarianism as a symptom of my ED. It has NOTHING to do with it, but they won't let it go. My husband is the worst in this regard.<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, I don't mean to ramble on, I just thought I'd come in and see if I can join you guys. <3
 

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Vert, congrats on getting to join a group! It must feel so fulfilling to help people, because I believe you help yourself along the way. =) Keep it up! You're doing so well. It's great to see that your post was based around your positive experience.<br><br><br><br>
Bio, I feel the same way. I hate it when my parents use certain pots or pans, or cutting boards with meat, dairy or eggs. It just disgusts me to think that there might be residue that I'm eating. I'm even afraid to touch things after my dad eats cheese because I might get some on my hands. You're definitely not alone in your fears. I'm insanely paranoid about getting sick because of raw meat or eggs... my dad once put a bloody fork on the counter and I almost had a panic attack!<br><br><br><br>
Welcome Bracket! Of course you are welcome here, everyone is welcome, and I hope to see you improve as time goes by. You sound like you've been struggling for far too long. A lot of people think that veg*nism is a symptom of an ED, and sometimes it can be out of fear of fat or whatnot, but it's a ridiculous thing for people to think! Keep posting. =)
 

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I had a breakdown tonight. First in a while. As in, I haven't cried in, probably....gawd I don't even know how long.<br><br><br><br>
I had a long day, probably drinking too much lately and not eating/sleeping well enough as I have been for the past month factored into it...<br><br><br><br>
...but I called my Therapist ((in lieu of....taking a handful of pills or something)) and my crisis situation was averted. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
I just get really nervous this time of year. My last 3 or 4 Valentine's Days were spent either in a hospital or rehab. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/undecided.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":-/">
 
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