I hate it when the aromas from the other apartment in my house waft in thru the invisible air-holes from the walls. I don't mind cooking meat -- it's burning things i mind -- like tobacco. I overheard "weed" but I guess I don't remember what it smells like anymore cause i smelled burned things in addition to tobacco that I didn't recognize.
I have an agreement with the landlord that anyone else in the building must have on their lease no-smoking tobacco and no smoke of any kind. My neigbor is violating her lease. Landlord is gullible and she convinced him she didn't smoke and that she would be very considerate of the fact I could die of airway constriction or sinus infection spreading to brain, if I am exposed to small amounts of smoke. I realized she conned him before I even smelled the smoke, but he didn't give me an opportunity to reject her; he just signed her on, saying he went over the smoke thing with her thoroughly. I also went over it with her and she also told me she doesn't smoke and wouldn't let anyone smoke and I told her about the risk to my health. I knew she was lying tho. And of course, then she started in smoking the minute she moved in.
It takes about 6 months to evict someone where I live. I don't know if the landlord has started the eviction procedures yet. But she isn't paying the rent either, so i'm sure he is going to evict her. I just would like her out as soon as possible because I find the smoke agonizing.
I don't think threatening to call the cops would have any affect my neigbor that would be to my benefit. Most people around here know that if they simply take drugs at home, without people dropping around frequently, to make buys, the police, even if informed of the drug use, won't make an arrest. If they see drugs lying around while they are there for another reason, sometimes they will make an arrest. It depends upon how badly they are itching to arrest the person for something. Other times they will pretend they didn't see the drugs. If she found out who called and complained, or figured out it must have been me, she'll retaliate by claiming harrassment by the other tenant, me, in which case the cops have to come by and check me out to make sure I'm not harrassing her (I already went thru 3 of these visits from the cops, getting a stern warning "If you are harassing her, stop, or we will have to arrest you). If I claimed harrassment, due to cigarette smoke being a harassing agent, they would do the same thing, except take it less seriously because she is a female, and males aren't supposed to feel harassed by females, in the cop's minds, unless they are whiny nuts.
The only thing I can think of is to get 2 persons to gang up on her. That usually works. If it is a one on one thing of each person claiming harrassment, the cops don't know who is harrassing who. But if 2 different people make separate complaints about someone say playing loud music at night, then they will drop by quickly (within an hour or 2) and emphaticly tell that person to not do that again. If the same 2 complain over and over, eventually they will issue an appearance ticket, probably.
So I'd have to find a neigbor who dislikes her enough to complain about her.
She screams all kinds of obscenities at her 10-year old son, threatens verbally to cut his head off and stuff it down his neck or something (I forget the exact details), and tells him how stupid he is, and how he will never amount to anything, but I never heard her actually hit him.
She leaves him alone all night, after leaving with different boyfriends. But I don't think that will work as neglect, and would be hard to prove. Oh yea, and i think people have tried it before, on her, without success.
i'd call social services one night when she's out and the kid's home alone. or call the cops and they'll get SS involved themselves. say something like "the mother seems to be out and it's awfully quiet over there, i'm afraid that there may be something wrong, maybe the kid hurt himself or whatever" they'll go over to check on him and make sure he's safe, and talk to him. chances are they'll ask if he's left alone often, etc, and wait around for the mom to return. of course if they ask to talk to you, you can also casually mention that you think she's doing drugs around the kid.
*shudders* How awful for you, Soilman! I'm sorry that that's happening to you.
A week or so ago I was in a place where I was near a smoking person, and my throat started to noticably constrict, I started breathing hard, and I tried to get out of there as fast as I could. Smelling smoke on someone doesn't do the same thing to me, thank the Lord, or else I would scarecly be able to spend time around the children of smokers, give the kids hugs, etc.
The cops would be suspicious that I was being vindicitive for her calling them on me, if I called them on her. However if while she was out, the 10-year old got into some kind of problem, and needed me for help, and the police got called (preferably by her), then it would turn out, when they questioned me cause it was their idea to question me, that she left him all alone for hours and wasn't there when a problem arose.
Ideally the child would call me or knock on my door and say "my mother left me all alone and I broke my ankle, burnt my hand," etcetera. I can't, of course, in good conscience, arrange to have someone go over there and do anything to harm him in any way.
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