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living with my omni family is getting to be pretty horrible.. just got into a fifteen minute argument because i wouldn't eat eggs. i haven't eaten meat in nearly a year now and have been completely vegan for about 7 months. you'd think they'd be used to it by now. the harassment is pretty much every day from them sticking meat in my face to starting pointless arguments and i don't know how much more of this i can stand. i keep thinking it will get better.. but it's not. i will be stuck here until i finish nursing school so going to have to find some way of coping. i respect their choices and never try to force anything upon them, you'd think they could give me the same respect... this is really hard <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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living with my omni family is getting to be pretty horrible.. just got into a fifteen minute argument because i wouldn't eat eggs. i haven't eaten meat in nearly a year now and have been completely vegan for about 7 months. you'd think they'd be used to it by now. the harassment is pretty much every day from them sticking meat in my face to starting pointless arguments and i don't know how much more of this i can stand. i keep thinking it will get better.. but it's not. <b>i will be stuck here until i finish nursing school so going to have to find some way of coping.</b> i respect their choices and never try to force anything upon them, you'd think they could give me the same respect... this is really hard <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("></div>
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Do you have a job? You might want to start looking right now for a new place to live. How long until nursing school is done? You might try applying for jobs in different states, or even different countries. Hang in there, and stick to your guns. Perhaps you could fix dinner one night a week and show them how good it is. Good luck.
 

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yeah, i have a job, can't work enough to make enough money to support myself completely tho. i will be finished in may and yeah i have started looking for jobs in different cities and states.... i make my own dinner every night. generally they won't touch it. my dad may try it occasionally and then proceeds to tell me how much better it would be with cheese and chicken.
 

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That sounds terrible, boarding on unbelievable. Dairy products can't be the only issue happening, especially is your field of study would allow you to make educated guesses about such matters.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>weirdo vegan chick</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3026228"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
living with my omni family is getting to be pretty horrible.. just got into a fifteen minute argument because i wouldn't eat eggs. i haven't eaten meat in nearly a year now and have been completely vegan for about 7 months. you'd think they'd be used to it by now. the harassment is pretty much every day from them sticking meat in my face to starting pointless arguments and i don't know how much more of this i can stand. i keep thinking it will get better.. but it's not. i will be stuck here until i finish nursing school so going to have to find some way of coping. i respect their choices and never try to force anything upon them, you'd think they could give me the same respect... this is really hard <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("></div>
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Bullying is what that is.<br><br>
I recognise your signature line btw, first lines from the chapter 'Violence' in the Dammapadha.<br><br>
You might find the buddhas teaching on the 'debt owed to parents' interesting too.
 

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Have you let them know how much it bothers you? Families pick on and tease each other. They may think that's all it is and don't realize it's hitting a nerve.<br><br>
Pick a time they are doing it, but only if you are very calm and above their insults at the time. Let them know it's bothering you. Remind them that you haven't attacked their food choices. And let them know you've studied nutrition yourself and in school and are certain you are eating well.
 

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I would tell each person, one on one, how you feel! Do it one-on-one so not one can gang up on you and without distractions. Try to be as calm as possible when you explain how hurt you are feeling. Then, make sure you include the solution. IE, please don't make hurtful jokes/stick meat in my face/etc etc.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I have a story similar to you, When i first told my parents I was going Vegan they laughed in my face about it, and would make fun and harass me all the time about it. The first Thanksgiving was the worst i was pretty much the butt of every joke. Then finally after a year they decided to take me seriously. It was like after the year mark everything got so much easier. My family took me seriously and the next Thanksgiving and other holidays about 85% of the food my family makes Vegan so I can take part and even my other family makes sure to have stuff for me as well. I have been vegan for 2 1/2 years and couldn't be happier.<br><br>
So keep your head up and be strong things will get better!
 

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thanks everyone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">. i posted this when i was really mad, i've calmed down now. talked to my family after i was done being emotional and things have calmed down for now. y'all are great, thanks for the advice.
 

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I had the same problem. Mostly with my son in law. I realized after some very nasty verbal arguments in which he accused me of being an extremist similar to those who believe in the 911 conspiracy, that it was useless to try and defend myself. I may be extreme but then I think getting your chest cut open for heart surgery is extreme, or getting Diabetes, or having to take all kinds of meds before you're even 40. I'm currently living with them until I can find a place again and I have to endure many nights at dinner where they are drooling over steaks, my 13 yr old grandson goes on and on about the cut of the meat and how tender it is. I have learned to keep my mouth shut or be yelled and screamed at.<br><br>
I realized that some people would just rather be right than happy and to them I am a freak. You see meat eaters think of meat as life whereas non meat eaters think of it as death.<br><br>
A good book that will really help you is " Living Among Meat Eaters: The Vegetarian's Survival Handbook". You can find it on Amazon
 
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