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I know a lot of other threads have sort of discussed this topic, but I haven't been able to find the advice I was looking for so I thought I'd post....<br><br>
I am a 32 year old mother of 3 boys and partner to a very loveable omni. I do all the shopping and cooking. About 6 weeks ago I decided to go vegetarian. I said at the time that I would not force them to eat what I eat but at the same time if they chose to eat vegetarian with me that was cool. There have been some meals where one or two of them prefer my choice. My question is, Do I have the right to decide not to buy or cook meat? I have no problem if they choose to buy or eat meat. It really bothers me when I have to cook meat. I did a roast chicken dinner on sunday and had a miserable day because of it. They love my toad in the hole, roast chicken and spag bol. I feel as though I would be depriving them if I choose not to cook them anymore, after all, this is my choice, not theirs.<br><br>
What do I do?
 

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My SO was a total meat eater until very recently and i'm the cook in the family. I have always cooked him his meat 7 nights a week and prepared Vegan meals for myself and only one of my babies is eating so far and i always feed her vegan food and if my partner wanted to share some of his meaty stuff with her i just turn the other cheek as they say as it's his child also, but as i do most of her feeding this doesn't happen very often. I never questioned his meat eating or tried to change his mind and by his own accord he turned vegan a couple of weeks ago. Miricles do happen
 

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I think that as a parent you deffinately have the right to choose what to cook in the way of healthy meals for your family.<br><br><br><br>
If you don't want to cook meat, I don't think you should feel obligated to do so.<br><br><br><br>
Maybe you can talk to your family about it and you guys can all come to some kind of compromise. If your family doesn't want to go vegetarian with you, maybe they can (depending on how busy you all are and how old your kids are) help with preperation and cooking of meat products.<br><br><br><br>
Maybe you can just say you don't want to cook meat anymore full stop. It isn't like it is very healthy anyway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"><br><br><br><br>
I hope it all works out! Being that I don't cook for a family myself, I probably haven't given the best advice.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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You have the right not to buy them meat, the same way you have the right to make the decision between bringing home carrot sticks or Ding Dongs. If you're the one doing the shopping, bring home what you please.
 

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Thanks guys that really helped. Its kind of like when I decided to no longer buy fizzy drinks. Nobody noticed and they don't miss it. If we are out or at a friends house I don't stop them from having a fizzy drink. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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My husband is an omni but we don't have meat in the house. He eats meat at other people's houses or restaurants. But, this was a mutual decision and he agrees that vegan meals are healthier and really loves my cooking. Talk to your husband. My husband knows that there is no way I would touch or cook meat. We do have dairy and eggs in the house but I won't cook eggs just because I have a strong aversion to even the smell.<br><br><br><br>
If you do the shopping and the cooking I think it is completely reasonable for you to refuse to handle meat. If your husband wants meat, he can buy it and cook it himself. As for the children, they can eat what you cook. They will develop new favorites when they try your yummy veggie cooking! Good luck!!<br><br>
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Does your husband ever go grocery shopping? He can buy what he wants when he can.<br><br><br><br>
However, I would think that maybe it would be best to ease the family into it. I would start by not cooking meat. Explain that you find it upsetting and it makes you depressed.<br><br><br><br>
But shopping I think may be something you might want to hold off on changing until your family better understands your veg*nism. Otherwise it may come off as hostile towards them or something.
 

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Buy hubby a cookbook.<br><br><br><br>
This is the 21st Century now--your husband should be perfectly able to prepare his own meals, if he finds that he doesn't prefer yours.<br><br><br><br>
Can you alternate cooking days? Hubby cooks a meat-based meal one day, you a veg meal the next?<br><br><br><br>
That way the kids get a variety as well.
 

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Since you are the one who labors to do the grocery-shopping and the cooking, you are at liberty to decide whether or not meat is purchased and cooked.
 

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Thanks guys, I think saying how I felt 'out loud' kinda made my mind up. I mentioned it this afternoon and after a 'discussion' my SO has agreed to try it for a week. And by then he will be putty in my hands....Mwuhahaha!<br><br>
At first he said it was selfish and unfair that I was forcing veggism on them, but I pointed out that it was no more unfair than forcing meat on them without offering a veggie alternative for all these years. That clinched it! I'll let you all know how it goes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by desty</i><br><br><b>At first he said it was selfish and unfair that I was forcing veggism on them, but I pointed out that it was no more unfair than forcing meat on them without offering a veggie alternative for all these years. That clinched it! I'll let you all know how it goes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"></b></div>
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ooooo, that's a good line - i have to keep that one in mind! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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that IS a good line.<br><br>
Good luck and warm wishes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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LOL I would have replied "You have two hands, you can cook for yourself, I'm not forcing you to do anything!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> Generational differences can be funny...
 

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desty, you JUST became a vegetarian and although, I think you have the "right" not to cook meat...I think it would be easier on your family if you went a bit slower. How about have two nights without meat, next month 3, then 4, etc. That way in less than a year, they will have switched over and you will probably be a very good vegetarian cook. They might not even miss meat. Just an idea.
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by mushroom</i><br><br><b>desty, you JUST became a vegetarian and although, I think you have the "right" not to cook meat...I think it would be easier on your family if you went a bit slower. How about have two nights without meat, next month 3, then 4, etc. That way in less than a year, they will have switched over and you will probably be a very good vegetarian cook. They might not even miss meat. Just an idea.</b></div>
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Too Funny Tame!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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<span style="color:#800080;">I agree w/Mushroom & Tame. Gradually cutting out meals w/meat will probably work best. Good luck!</span>
 

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WoW, your situation is very similar to mine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I actually never said i am never cooking meat, eggs, and dairy again; i just started to cut back litle by little until almost all of our meals were vegan. My hubby specifically asked me to buy some chicken for him yesterday, so i did ..respect is a two way street ..IMO.<br><br>
Also, i don't announce 'this is a vegan meal' ..Most of the time no one even notices ..LoL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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I do try not to say anything but someone always pipes up "wheres the meat in this then?"<br><br>
We did a totaly fish and meat free shop and have had no meat in the house this week. The kids weren't part of the original 'discussion' so I don't think they have noticed. Its nice to know there are others in a similar situation, thanks for sharing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 
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