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ive decided to go vegetarian because i love animals sooo much and cant stand the thought of them getting hurt and killed just so i can throw half my dinner into the bin. I told mum and she said fine so long as i would eat meat for dinner. Considering that this kinda defeats the purpose, im not too happy about it, but i cant do anything short of giving up the things i love to get a job on the minimum wage and paying for my own food and cook it as well, on top of cleaning the house and studying for my final exams in high school.<br><br><br><br>
I ended up saying fine, that would be ok. Im hoping to gently coax her into it when she sees that i am actually serious. Thats what i did when i told her i wanted to be a pilot and she now accepts that i am going to be a pilot. Do you think im handling it well?
 

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I think it's up to you if you think your handling it well, not us/me/whatever. How about giving her some information on vegetarianism, and giving her a hand with the cooking, make your whole family some nice vegetarian meals, or when they are having a meat-and-two-veg type of meal, just put in a substitute which isn't any more cooking ect. Hope your mum comes around! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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When I first told my mum about my decision to give up meat, of course I got the "but it's your major source of protein" speech. But after a while, she got used to the idea, and is now comfortable with my desire to be meat-free. Im sure if you explain your views in a calm and mature way,then your mom will start to understand. Stick with this, and she will see how serious you are. If you cave in, then she will think you weren't that serious to begin with.
 

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Agreeing to eat meat once a day, may seem like you are not very serious about it and just want a title ("almost vegetarian") try to sit down and explain to her, telling her why you choice not to eat it (but, also make sure she knows you are not putting her down, or doing something more ethical then your own mother, it could make her feel bad) at dinner time, can you eat the meals with out meat? pasta with tomatoe sause? extra servings of the side dishes? ect..offer to make a smaller portion for yourself with out the meat.
 

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yeah, you r right you know. this is a big deal to me, and it is very important to me. i may take this suggestion slowly, though. Mum is a bit like: well, you can get a job after you finish school and not a minute before and you are going to feel tired constantly because of lack of meat and this is the worst thing you have ever suggested and what friend are you getting this from (she seems to forget my friends are self acclaimed vampires. nice people, though.)
 

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I know, it's the same with my parents.. they don't comment much though but sometimes my mom goes like 'you know you need to eat a varied diet, a little of everything including meat and fish' I mean it seems that they never get the reason why i don't want to eat poor animals who're [unfortunately] born to end up on a plate
 

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Please someone help. I just talked to mum and she was yelling at me. I told her why i wanted to do this and she didn't listen. She said show me some research and i said fine and got it up on the computer and she wouldnt look at it and she screamed at me: You're just being difficult! you'll eat what the family eats! and then she screamed What are you gonna do in you're final high school exams! you'll be tired and you wont do well! and even when i tried to tell her that that wasn't a prerequisite of being a vegetarian she screamed at me look what you've done! you've got me all stressed! and i offered to help cook and she rejected it. Im so upset. I dont want it to end in a family fight. she said i was attacking her. what do i do?
 

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Ask her specifically what nutrients she thinks you'll be missing out on from eliminating meat.She'll probably come up with iron and protein and not much else.I think the average meat eater is pretty clueless about nutrition.You should then tell her where you plan on getting such nutrients-beans,nuts,seeds,whatever.I'm assuming that you did some research on vegetarianism beforehand and can come up with a well rounded argument.<br><br><br><br>
No matter how much she yells at you,stay calm.It won't do you any good if you end up screaming and spazzing out on your mom.Tell her it's your own personal choice and that you're not attacking her.Tell her that you don't feel comfortable eating animals anymore and that you want her to respect your decision.Personally,I would not give in and eat meat;that seems too wishy washy.Stand by your convictions and I think she'll come around...and if not,she can't force meat down your throat.Make yourself a small substitute meal and don't make a huge deal out of it.I hope everything works out<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Just do the best you can for now. Luckily, being a kid doesn't last forever and once you're out of the house, you can eat whatever you want. Once she's calm, try talking to her rationally. When you show her information on vegetarian diets being healthy, make sure it's completely unbiased (so she can't say it's just vegetarian propaganda.) The <a href="http://www.eatright.org/cps/rde/xchg/ada/hs.xsl/advocacy_933_ENU_HTML.htm" target="_blank">American Dietetic Association position paper on vegetarian diets</a> is a good one. Even the USDA nutrition guidelines say that you can meet all of your nutritional needs on a vegetarian diet (check out <a href="http://www.health.gov/dietaryguidelines/dga2005/document/html/chapter2.htm" target="_blank">http://www.health.gov/dietaryguideli...l/chapter2.htm</a> and scroll down to where it says "Vegetarian Choices".) The hard part will be to get her to discuss this with you rationally.
 

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my parents , my dad mainly, thought that even though I had always been a great animal lover that me going vegetarian as a child would just be a phase and that I would grow out of it lol, that was 20years ago and they are still waiting lol.<br><br><br><br>
Maybe talk to her about the health benefits aswell , she maybe thinking that you wont be getting all the correct nutrients etc as is the biggest belief with most meat eaters.<br><br><br><br>
these websites should help you out a bit :<br><br><br><br><a href="http://www.vegansociety.com/html/" target="_blank">http://www.vegansociety.com/html/</a><br><br><a href="http://www.vegetarian.org.uk/" target="_blank">http://www.vegetarian.org.uk/</a><br><br><br><br>
Also keep an eye on <a href="http://www.viva.org.uk/" target="_blank">http://www.viva.org.uk/</a> as they are doing roadshows around the UK ( are you in the UK?lol) maybe you can take your mum to one.<br><br><br><br>
If you show her that you will be serious about eating healthy food and for now at least eat less junk food and swap it for healthy foods that might help show her you are serious.<br><br>
Maybe make a chart (or buy one from the vegansociety) of all the veggie friendly foods you can eat and still get all the required nutrients,vitamins etc.
 

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Thankyou everyone, thankyou thankyou. I got mum to the stage where she is actually going to stop making meat with every dinner(YESSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!). Its really nice. She's actually listening (well miracles apparently do happen). And no, I actually don't live in the UK. I live in Australia. But I think maybe I can coax her along to our GP. She always listens to him, and he can help her to see it can be healthy.
 

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Good luck with persuading your mum, it sounds like you're making progress. You're doing lots of good stuff by finding out information about health, offering to cook and so on. Sometimes I think it's just a shock to parents when we start to educate them rather than the other way round and they automatically get on the defensive, often they are too used to always being right as far as their kids are concerned! I know my mum wasn't exactly pleased when I said I wanted to be vegetarian (I was 15) and tried to make me eat things with meat in them and got angry when I wouldn't eat the meat, tried to convince me I should still eat fish, etc. Now eight years later she's impressed with the meals I cook, I've got her to learn to cook veg*n food, she has cut down on her meat eating and even admits I look healthy as a vegan <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">, all stuff that at the time I didn't imagine would ever happen. The first bit is the most difficult, and it's nothing you're doing wrong in your approach that is making your mum angry. Stick up for what you believe and you'll get there eventually.
 

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It's great to hear that you mum calmed down a bit. She'll get used to it, just give her time. In the meantime just pile your plate with other things, eat as little meat as you can get away with and be calm, mature, and make it as small of a deal as possible. It sounds like she just wants the best for you and is worried that you'll be tired and won't do well at school, which she probably thinks will ruin your life. Neither assumption is true. Maybe you could tell her that you know that she means well. Leave the convincing her about it for a little while so she can get used to the idea.
 
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