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As most of you know I am attempting to lose weight and I am having some issues.<br><br><br><br>
I just have been feeling like crap and just feel like giving up.<br><br><br><br>
I am not sure what to do. I just feel like... I don't know... Nothing is going right and I just feel like no one understands what I am going through.<br><br><br><br>
The girl I workout with is slim as it is and then all she does is talk about how fat she is.<br><br><br><br>
As I said I just don't know what to do....<br><br><br><br>
I am going to go back in my hole now....
 

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Hi there,<br><br>
Sorry to hear you are feeling down. If you don't mind me asking, how much weight have you lost and how long have you been trying?<br><br><br><br>
A lot of people sometimes feel that nothing is going right. It's so easy to get into a downward spiral and become very depressed - believe me, I know. Best thing to do is to try and focus on the positives and things you have acheived. Listen to your inner voices - are they negative? Try and talk to yourself like you would a best friend e.g when you catch yourself thinking "I'm so fat," reply with "well, I might not be an anorexic supermodel, but at least I'm healthy and loveable."<br><br><br><br>
Talk to the girl you work out with and tell her that it makes you feel bad when she makes out that she's fat, when she's not. She may just be fishing for compliments or she may have a really bad self image.<br><br><br><br>
Chin up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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Body image problems crop up in people of all sizes, Anni. This might be one of those times where you nod and pretend to by sympathetic, and let it go.<br><br><br><br>
Hang in there. Weight loss is HARD. I know people who keep trying different ways for years - some end up tracking their calories and fat/protein/carb ratios daily, some do Weight Watchers, some do fad diets - until they happen to stumble on the one that works. Only to find that our metabolisms change as we get older and they have to start all over again. It's not easy. That doesn't mean it's impossible - it's a good step for your health. Are there any support groups (real-life or online) that can give you a boost over this rough patch?<br><br><br><br>
WTG on the workouts!<br><br><br><br>
I couldn't tell from your post of there were other issues on top of the weight loss. That can make it tougher.<br><br><br><br>
Plus, here at least it's winter, and I'm hoping that the Groundhog doesn't see his shadow on Friday. I don't know if I could put up with 6 more weeks of this. Winter itself can be depressing.
 

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If I mention to a co-worker of mine who's heavier than me that I'd like to tone up, stop eating junk etc, she gets very insulted for the same reasons you are, but I really don't meant to upset her, I judge myself in an entirely different, and to be honest much harsher, way than everyone else. If you think she really is just fishing for compliments though then maybe have a word with her and say it's affecting your self image.<br><br><br><br>
Don't you have a thread about your planned weight loss? Keep posting in there about what you're doing towards it, it'll help keep you focused and more motivated.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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I see your icon is a ballerina.<br><br>
there is a lot of pressure to be thin for ballet. Are you sure that you need to lose weight?<br><br>
I mean, I don't doubt you or anything, nor do I judge ( I hate being judged myself). If you do need to lose weight, then it's okay, it's actually pretty easy and once you begin to lose you'll feel inspiration and motivation to lose more. It excites you. I lost 60 lbs. 2 years ago. Then I developed an eating disorder.<br><br>
(*clears throat*) anyway...<br><br><br><br>
why should you be depressed. Loads of people are trying to lose weight. Tell that girl you work out with that she's NOT FAT and tell her how you feel about her saying this when you're the one trying to lose.
 

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annikat, I've been reading your blog, and you aren't nourishing yourelf with healthy food. I imagine that has something to do with why you feel like crap. Please consider switching your focus to leading a healthy lifestyle. I can almost guarantee you results will follow.
 

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I see your icon is a ballerina.<br><br>
there is a lot of pressure to be thin for ballet. Are you sure that you need to lose weight?<br><br>
I mean, I don't doubt you or anything, nor do I judge ( I hate being judged myself). If you do need to lose weight, then it's okay, it's actually pretty easy and once you begin to lose you'll feel inspiration and motivation to lose more. It excites you. I lost 60 lbs. 2 years ago. Then I developed an eating disorder.<br><br>
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Oh, I am not a ballerina. I can barely walk 10 feet without tripping on air. I am very very very overweight.<br><br><br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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annikat, I've been reading your blog, and you aren't nourishing yourelf with healthy food. I imagine that has something to do with why you feel like crap. Please consider switching your focus to leading a healthy lifestyle. I can almost guarantee you results will follow.</div>
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I get this comment a lot and I understand, but the main problem is I have is funds. I only have about $25-30 a month for groceries and that goes really fast. I try to make it work, but it is hard. And as I wrote in my blog, it seems like no one in my real life cares or they want to sabotage me... I don't know, it is just getting really frustrating...
 

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annikat, I can't imagine bulk brown rice and sale veggies or beans would cost more than slim fast bars? I know you eat a lot of bagels too... would it be too much more expensive to buy whole grain bagels and peanut butter instead of cream cheese?<br><br><br><br>
I know it can't be easy on such a limited budget. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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Oh. Sorry.<br><br>
Well, everything else I said was true though<br><br>
You know how I lost those 60 lbs? I cut out all sugar and sodas <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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annikat, I can't imagine bulk brown rice and sale veggies or beans would cost more than slim fast bars? I know you eat a lot of bagels too... would it be too much more expensive to buy whole grain bagels and peanut butter instead of cream cheese?<br><br><br><br>
I know it can't be easy on such a limited budget. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("></div>
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I wish I could buy bulk, but the nearest store to me with bulk is.... probably at least 45 minutes away. It kinda sucks.<br><br><br><br>
Breakfast and Dinner are usually easy for me to get things for, but the biggest problem I have is lunch. I am rarely home for lunch and when I do eat it, I usually have a small time frame in which to do so. So I have a really rough time finding quick, healthy and cheap things. That is why I eat things like Boca burgers and the like.
 

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I make soups and things like lentil daal in bulk which I can then heat up at work. I made 5 servings of lentil and carrot soup for under £1, and it would have been cheaper if I'd bought a 1 or 2kg bag of lentils. I also buy loaves of bread instead of bagels because it works out cheaper, and you can keep sliced bread in the freezer and take it out slice by slice. I also make pasta salad, which can be very cheap. There's no way I can afford ready meals at the moment. I find that bags of pulses and things like barley are inexpensive (and also high in protein and iron) and so I base my meals round these.<br><br><br><br>
Just thought you might like to know how I try to keep down costs, I know how difficult it is.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"><br><br><br><br>
Weight loss IS hard work. I'm afraid I have to agree with meatless though that you aren't nourishing your body with healthy foods! Something in "bulk" doesn't have to be bought out of a bulk bin. You can just buy a really large bag of brown rice at the supermarket! Part of a healthy diet is also planning ahead so you DON'T get stuck without a meal. It takes a little bit of time on the weekend to make a pot of food, but then you put it all in tupperware for the week and grab one on your way out the door in the morning.<br><br>
If you are so limited in the amount of money you have to spend on food, maybe you should apply for food stamps or public assistance or student loans or something. Maybe your parents could help you out for a while. You mentioned once that your mother is a nurse, I imagine she'd want you to eat right. Also, since you're in school, could you go talk to someone in health services to see if they could give you some help?<br><br><br><br>
You may want to focus just on healthy living rather than weight loss. Switching to a healthy diet would be good for your body no matter what, whether you lose weight or not.
 

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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"><br><br><br><br>
If you are so limited in the amount of money you have to spend on food, maybe you should apply for food stamps or public assistance or student loans or something. Maybe your parents could help you out for a while. You mentioned once that your mother is a nurse, I imagine she'd want you to eat right. Also, since you're in school, could you go talk to someone in health services to see if they could give you some help?</div>
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I just wanted to respond to this:<br><br>
My mom makes less than me (We are talking recently out of bankruptcy)<br><br>
I can't file for food stamps/public assistance because I live at home and they go off household income.<br><br><br><br>
I am trying and I think I am just going to focus on working out 3 times a week and getting my eating in order.<br><br><br><br>
I won't weigh myself anymore. (I think that will take a lot of stress off)<br><br><br><br>
ETA: I really do thank you for everything and for attempting to help <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Finanical problems do really compomrise your nutrition<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">...Especially if you are not up or don't have the time ( homework?) to be preparing all the whole food meals from scratch which is the only way eating healthy will cost less.<br><br><br><br>
I think you should tell your friend that her constant commenting on being overweight is not being helpful towards your attempts to lose weight and in fact adding to the stress of it. Maybe don't word it like that.<br><br><br><br>
If you like boca burgers, you have access to a Sam's club?..know anyone who does?. I recently found out that you can get boca burgers at this bulk place and my mom got some via a friend who has a Sam's club discount.<br><br>
I know it's Walmart....but when you have less/no/unreliable income you have to become less idealistic due to neccesity.<br><br><br><br>
If you access to Aldis, they sometimes carry boca burgers and have other staples for cheaper.<br><br><br><br>
PS : I hardly ever weight myself either anymore and will be going on a weight gain diet as soon as I can afford buying all that extra food.
 

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I just wanted to respond to this:<br><br>
My mom makes less than me (We are talking recently out of bankruptcy)<br><br>
I can't file for food stamps/public assistance because I live at home and they go off household income.<br><br><br><br>
I am trying and I think I am just going to focus on working out 3 times a week and getting my eating in order.<br><br><br><br>
I won't weigh myself anymore. (I think that will take a lot of stress off)<br><br><br><br>
ETA: I really do thank you for everything and for attempting to help <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"></div>
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Hey there, favorite-secret-santa-recipient. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I'm sorry you're having such a rough time.<br><br><br><br>
A couple of ideas:<br><br>
Since you and your mom are both struggling financially, and food stamps are based off household income, could the two of you apply for food stamps together? Or does your combined income put you over the benchmark?<br><br><br><br>
If you and your mom grocery-shop together and eat the same meals, this will cut your costs. Shopping separately and making food separately costs more.<br><br><br><br>
I know you do a lot with needy kids in your area. Kids can be some of the most affectionate, encouraging people. Kids don't care how big your hips are or if you have a rounded belly. They just want you to love them and receive their love back. When you need to know you're worth something, ask them to give you a hug or tell you how important you are to them. Or, maybe they do this already, and you just need to remember the sweet things they do and say.<br><br><br><br>
I admire you for your work with those kids. I'm sure it's not easy, and some days your heart probably breaks for them. This sensitivity is part of what makes you a valuable person here. If you can love yourself at any size, you're more likely to relax. I hear stress is one of the factors that keeps people from achieving their healthiest weight.
 

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I get this comment a lot and I understand, but the main problem is I have is funds. I only have about $25-30 a month for groceries and that goes really fast.</div>
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Omg...that's nearly impossible to live on.<br><br><br><br>
Is there a community organization like Salvation Army or something that you can go to get food stamps or actual groceries to help you out. That's what people in my part of the world do. I'm sure it would be the same where you are.
 

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Here's a thought... could you keep a log of ALL the food you buy in a week, and how much it cost you? Every time you buy a soda out and everything, write it down. Maybe we can help you with food budgeting if we have a really good idea of where your money is going to.
 

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$25-$30 per month is pretty tough. My parents went through some real tough times financially when I was growing up - 5 kids on a small-town preacher's salary. My mom was able to get some good ideas from "Food for Thrifty Families" - a internet search found a few links. Maybe you already know this stuff, but it was useful to my mom then. <a href="http://www.umext.maine.edu/onlinepubs/htmpubs/4332.htm" target="_blank">http://www.umext.maine.edu/onlinepubs/htmpubs/4332.htm</a><br><br><br><br>
What else do I remember? Buy in large quanitites (for things that won't go bad). Cook it yourself (dried beans cost less than canned ones - you just need to have the time to sit around and wait for them to cook). If you can shop at places like Aldi's or Sam's Club or Costco, you can get some pretty good deals. I do find that WalMart's prices and Sam's Club prices are about the same per ounce of product, so if you can't get to the stock-up warehouses, don't worry too much about it. Frozen veggies (the generic brands) are often very cheap, and not much worse than fresh. Plus they don't go bad as quickly. Make healthy filling meals - they'll be cheaper in the long run, and you'll feel better. Among the cheapest is spahgetti with marinara. We ate a lot of that (and green beans) when we were growing up.
 

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Maybe I'm missing something here, but how can you be eating Boca burgers, bagels, and cream cheese with only $30 a month? That is $1 a day, and boca burgers cost $2.50/package on sale alone.
 

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Maybe I'm missing something here, but how can you be eating Boca burgers, bagels, and cream cheese with only $30 a month? That is $1 a day, and boca burgers cost $2.50/package on sale alone.</div>
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Well, $30 is a rough guess. It's probably more around $40 but Boca burgers, I can get them for like $2 for a box of 4, bagels $1 for 6 and cream cheese $1.25 for a container of it. so I just covered Breakfast and dinner for $7 a week.
 
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