Hi Softball31. I'm an RN who works at a GYN office. You do not have to get a pelvic exam, they cannot force or sedate you against your will, and no decent doctor would want to. It is assault and illegal. Finding a GYN (preferably female) who sees adolescents frequently is your best bet.
One possibility, though, is the doctor (and maybe your mom if she's there) trying to "convince" you to have the exam. They shouldn't, but might. Tell them you are not sexually active and will not have the exam even if they won't prescribe for you if you don't agree.
Print the following out and bring it if you want to have proof. From the ACOG (American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) website, the Bible for GYNs:
"Do I need to have a pelvic exam to get birth control from my health care provider?
A pelvic exam is not needed to get most forms of birth control from a health care provider except for the intrauterine device (IUD), diaphragm, and cervical cap. If you have already had sex, you may need to have a pregnancy test and STD test before birth control can be prescribed."
http://m.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Birth-Control-Especially-for-Teens?IsMobileSet=true#pelvic
One possibility, though, is the doctor (and maybe your mom if she's there) trying to "convince" you to have the exam. They shouldn't, but might. Tell them you are not sexually active and will not have the exam even if they won't prescribe for you if you don't agree.
Print the following out and bring it if you want to have proof. From the ACOG (American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) website, the Bible for GYNs:
"Do I need to have a pelvic exam to get birth control from my health care provider?
A pelvic exam is not needed to get most forms of birth control from a health care provider except for the intrauterine device (IUD), diaphragm, and cervical cap. If you have already had sex, you may need to have a pregnancy test and STD test before birth control can be prescribed."
http://m.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Birth-Control-Especially-for-Teens?IsMobileSet=true#pelvic
