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I want to know if anyone else out there finds dating a royal pain in the <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/moonpie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":moonpie:"><br><br><br><br>
I don't think in the past three years I have met someone that doesn't either fall in love by the third date or end up being so superficial and egocentric that they can't carry on a conversation that isn't about them.<br><br><br><br>
Tell your dating stories...
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by dawngirl</i><br><br><b>Tell your dating stories...</b></div>
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Recently (since February), I've had good dating stories. Prior to that, though...hmmm...let's see...<br><br><br><br>
Back in October I dated a guy who was employed part-time at an art supply store, was a high school drop-out, had no car, had no bed (we slept on an inflatable air mattress that was about 2 feet wide), had a 7-year-old son he never saw, and was a compulsive liar. After that, I briefly dated a 32 year old guy who had a single bed with WWF sheets (I kid you not) and who's life ambition was to be a professional wrestler and who decided on the 2nd date that we had to have a long, serious conversation about where our relationship was headed. I don't let my friend Kim set me up with guys anymore. LOL.
 

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I once dated this singer in a band and he told me he would never stay in a relationship longer than four months because after that, there were no sparks left. (We only dated a week.) He would also go on and on and on about how he hadn't had sex in two weeks! This other guy I went out with - on our first date we met up with some friends of his and their topic of the conversation for the night? "Let's reminisce about all the drugs we used in high school." So much for first impressions.<br><br><br><br>
(There's a lot more I could say here, but I prefer to forget!)
 

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What can I say except I really do not find "dating" to be very enjoyable. Most of the time the women involved seem to be very tight lipped and poker faced about what is on their minds. I don't know what they are looking for, but it ain't me. Most of these do not proceed beyond the first date.<br><br><br><br>
Then there is the reality that many women seem to be involved with other men. So why are they going out with me? Damned if I know. I guess they have a free night and want a free meal or something. Or they enjoy making a fool out of me.
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Joe</i><br><br><b>Then there is the reality that many women seem to be involved with other men. So why are they going out with me?</b></div>
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It's because you look eversomuch like Bill Murray.<br><br><br><br>
It is strange to me, too, how on the majority of "dates" I go on the woman is somehow envolved with someone else. What is UP with that?<br><br><br><br>
The good relationships I've had seem to have all started out with un-date-like scenarios. Set ups through friends, work-acquaintances, or just casual date-like scenarios that really didn't have the pressure of a D-A-T-E (stomp foot, bang fist on table).<br><br><br><br>
Most of the bad dates I have been on were usually just things like blind setups that were grossly misrepresented, or a girl turns out to be watching way too much Sex And The City and stuff like that. A few mental cases, but nothing to blog about.<br><br><br><br>
WWF sheets! Priceless!
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Max Power</i><br><br><b><br><br>
It is strange to me, too, how on the majority of "dates" I go on the woman is somehow envolved with someone else. What is UP with that?<br><br></b></div>
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Uh, dishonesty? The answer an honest person would give would be: "Thank you for asking me out, but the answer is no, because I am involved with someone else."<br><br><br><br>
Second possibility: Jack and Jill are involved. Jill has mixed feelings toward Jack, however, and would like to hurt him badly.<br><br>
She could take a baseball bat and hit him with it. But that's not her style. So she just uses Max [or Joe or John Doe] to hurt Jack instead.<br><br><br><br>
Third aspect: I keep hearing more and more about "exclusivity agreements." Now, there is nothing necessarily wrong with these, but there is a sort of "backhanded" use of them that I find objectionable. By this I mean, that if Jack and Jill are involved but do not have an "exclusivity agreement," then Jill thinks that means she is free to date Max and accept invitations from Max, without telling Max about her involvement with Jack (unless she chooses to). So too if Jill has no "exclusivity agreement" with Max, she feels herself free to be involved with Jack.<br><br><br><br>
So, instead of the norm being to be honest, candid, and up-front about one's involvements, the absence of an "exclusivity agreement" is used to justify a norm of concealment and/or dishonesty.<br><br><br><br>
These are just my opinions. Dating is often a very negative experience for me, for a number of reasons.
 

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Yikes, Joe--I think yours take the cake. I can't imagine going on a date with someone while I was involved with someone else, even if I wanted to hurt my SO badly. That's just not cool to everyone involved.<br><br><br><br>
Don't know what to tell you--you seem like an awfully nice guy. I don't know why this keeps happening to you. Maybe you're going after the wrong people.
 

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Actually about three weeks ago I was "dating" someone and another guy expressed an interest, to the point of calling information to get my number. When he called, we did the dance about interests and when he got around to the "are you seeing someone" question, and I politely said, "yes, I am, and I don't want to destroy that." THE SNAKE then said, "ok, well that's ok based on my current situation." Turns out he's involved with someone else.<br><br><br><br>
So, it's not just the girls out there screwing things up.
 

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OMG! Eek! He called information for your number even though he was involved with someone else? Sounds like that's a healthy relationship.<br><br><br><br>
I think it's ok to go on a date with someone if you are very casually dating someone else (like, you've only gone out with them a couple of times and neither of you has expressed an interest in getting serious etc. etc.), but once it gets past a few dates, I think you need to break it off before picking someone else up.
 

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I once had a female who lied about everything, including being <b>married</b>, and she asked ME out. Fortunetely I found out before hand. Of course it's not as bad as one male I knew who was engaged to one female, exclusively dating three others, and had a non-exclusive relationship with yet another (total of 5 women at once, none knowing of the others).<br><br><br><br>
I hate that exclusive junk women/men try to say. Like "we're not dating exclusively". When I date someone, I even stop harmless flirting with other women, even if the female's a close friend.<br><br><br><br>
Maybe I'm just weird, but I've always looked at it as you can only really date one person, more than that and you're just friends. (of course perhaps friends with additional activities...). [IE: "not exclusive relationship"=friendship not dating].
 

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One time I was dating a girl who wasn't opposed to a more open relationship but she didn't want me spending too much time with some married friend of hers because she allegedly was digging the Power-meister. A year later, I'm not seeing that girl anymore and I find out her friend is divorced and the two of them are off on some nudie colony vacation spending *quality time* together! Crazy...
 

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The worst guy that I ever dated turned out to be psychotic. We dated for about a month, then I decided he wasn't for me and called it quits after he started trying to talk me into marrying him. After that, he decided to call me continuously, and I mean *non f-ing stop* for days at a time. When I wouldn't answer my phone anymore (I left it off the hook), he called my friend and told her that he was going to kill my animal companions and me once he could get a hold of us. Shortly after that, after I had put my phone back on the hook, I finally called the cops on him because he called me up, said "look what you did to me" and next thing I know, I heard what I thought at the time was a gunshot. Turns out he was just f*ing with my head. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br><br><br>
The police talked to him, I had my phone number changed, and haven't heard from him since. Unfortunately, he has *very* revealing pictures of me that he wouldn't give back. I'm expecting to find them on the internet some day. Live & learn, I guess.
 

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I don't really..date per se. But I reckon the time i spent with my ex...*looks mortified*...counts for a pants time.<br><br>
He was a liar, a thief, a drug user and ex runner, he had a kid who was nearer my age than he was. He was also so completely ..immature! It was sad as he was an extremely talented guy with a lot of potential, but he couldn't get off his backside and do anything. He also was emotionally immature and a total psycho. I was really scared of him a few times.<br><br>
Oh well...Flower if it's any consolation I'm waiting for my series of sex crazed letters and emails to suddenly appear everywhere.<br><br>
What was I thinking?????
 

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I dated a psycho for a month, but I didn't know he was so crazy until we broke up. I was just having a bad feeling about the relationship and I abuptly broke it off. In our break-up call he said I must have talked to his ex and found out bad things about him! And he revealed that he had a son I didn't know about!<br><br><br><br>
Then there were the constant calls... first lots of voicemails and then call after call where he wouldn't say anything. It was very creepy. It has died down, but I still get nervous when I get a hang-up call. The most ironic thing is that he had the same name as my current bf-- but luckily they are very different!<br><br><br><br>
As far as dating in general goes, yeah it sucks. Now that I've seen how good it can be w/ my current bf, I would never go back to putting up with some of the crap I went through in the past. Maybe this is mercenary, but my advice is to cut off bad relationships asap. I would rather be single than be with another crazy.
 
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