It depends on the friend, their relationship etc.<br><br>
Like my best friend is with a guy that is kind of an ex. We never had a serious relationship but we slept together and hung out for a while. And after it was over I gave her the permission to go for him.<br><br>
And I will be honest, I didn't think that it will be serious between them. So when they suddenly became that couple in love I was pissed. Now I just don't care. All 3 of us are living together and it is great.<br><br>
So what I am trying to say, it all depends on the situation and people involved but it can be difficult at first
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>yellowduckie21</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2984692"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I don't know if it is just me or not, but does anyone else think it's wrong to date a friend's ex? Or am I just crazy for thinking that?<br><br>
It depends on you, and them.
If a friend of mine started dating my ex that I was with for 5 1/2 years, I would be upset. If a friend started dating anyone else (someone I casually dated), I wouldn't mind at all. That's me though, as River said, it depends on you and them. Personally, I wouldn't date someone that slept with a friend of mine.
If someone wanted to date an ex of mine I wouldn't care. There's a reason they're an ex. I wouldn't date someone a friend had dated though, they have much lower standards then I do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="">
I've done it twice, I'm a bit of a dickhead.<br><br>
The first time shouldn't have happened, I didn't even want it to happen that much, I still hope my friend never finds out.<br><br>
The second time it wasn't such a close friend nor an important relationship to her. I am more worried that he has talked to her about what a **** I am than anything else <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""><br><br>
So yeah, depends entirely on the situation.
I agree with everyone else, it's very circumstance and people dependant. Sometimes it'd be totally okay, other times totally unfair on your friend.<br><br>
Personally, if it was a close friend I think you should ask them if they're okay with it first. If the friendship is less close, I think it'd be polite and kind to at least tell them before they hear it from others, and say you don't want to hurt them, and you hope they're okay with it... or something along those lines anyway.<br><br>
I dated a friends ex once, I wish I hadn't now, but she was very okay with it - which is a testament to her really because I didn't ask her oppinion on it, and he was her first boyfriend and she was hurt by their break up. I was lucky, she's a lovley girl, if it was me I probally wouldn't have been so nice!
I don't know if it is "wrong" or what sense of "wrong" the OP meant.<br><br>
Parents teach their children that it is "wrong" to commit adultery, but I was not provided with any rule or instruction to deal with this "ex" situation.<br><br>
I was at university with a fellow I'll call Don. He and I were not good friends, but more like casual acquaintances. Still, he was not an enemy, nor a stranger. Don had been dating a woman I'll call Judy. I met Judy through Don. Don then left the university and took a job in another city--one that was about a 90-minute commute by train from the city where our university was.<br><br>
When Don left the university, I still had a year to go, and Judy was still there completing her studies. So during that next year I went out with Judy a couple of times. Nothing really happened on our dates; they just involved conversation and companionship. So then one of Judy's friends was having a party, and Judy invited me to her friend's house.<br><br>
We were at the party and who shows up but Don. I got the feeling that Judy may have conveyed the impression to him that our relationship was more personal and intimate than it really was. At any rate I got the impression that she had manipulated events to make Don jealous or the like. I left the party and never saw Judy again.<br><br>
So, with the benefit of this and other unpleasant experiences, I would probably not date an "ex." Not because I would feel a duty to my friend not to date his "ex," but because I would suspect that the "ex" would have no real interest in me except to use me to get back at her ex, make him jealous, or the like.
Yeah, they broke up because he was sleeping with me.<br><br>
Actually though, it depends on the circumstances. If they weren't a serious thing, or if they're cool now, maybe yeah. And if they broke up because of abuse or cheating or something, then obviously not.
Sorry I got chucked off the computer by my hubbie.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""> I meant to add that it would depend on the circumstances too although I generally wouldn't fancy a friend's partner anyway because I wouldn't look at them in that light.
I have a friend/acquaintance who is dating my ex. But seeing as I ended it with the ex I have no right to be annoyed about it. I kind of like the fact that I know her and approve of her, so that is cool. And I want him to be happy. But this is kind of an unusual situation.
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Pixie</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2985069"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Personally I wouldn't date a friend's ex. I would feel like it crossed a line.</div>
Same here. Personally I would be pissed if a friend dated an ex of mine.
I wouldn't normally advise it but I did it, and it worked out great for me. Not so much for my friend but that's not my problem it's hers - she should've appreciated a great guy when she had him! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""> We "unfriended" her from our lives for a number of reasons so we haven't had to deal with much awkwardness.
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