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My husband and I are planning to have children in the near future and when it was brought up to my parents my father said "I'm hoping for a grandson so I can take him fishing." My response to that was that I don't want that and our kids aren't going fishing. That's when everything blew up and became a big heated arguement. He said things like animals don't have a nervous system like we do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/doh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":doh:"> , the bible says it's ok (and my Mom pulled out the bible), I'll be the grandfather and have say in raising them too......and also went on to say that I shouldn't force my beliefs on my kids and that if they were at his house and saw him eating meat and wanted some that he would give it to them.....and that he will never back down from that decision. Not to mention said some very distastefull things about if it's a boy and he's vegetarian. He knows that I am planning on raising my kids vegetarian. I don't want to have to worry all the time when we have kids. Then he started on my husband, which is not a vegetarian asking how he puts up with me. My husband is very suportive which is great. I wish my father could respect how we want to raise our kids, my husband and I talked about it a long time ago and he has no problems with our kids being vegetarian. This discussion with my father was about 2 weeks ago and I was so upset about it. My husband said maybe he's just threatening to be that way and really won't do that. So it eased my mind for a while. But last night I was talking to my father on the phone and he brought it up again and said he will take his grandkids fishing and right away I said "I don't want to talk about it" he said it again and I repeated it and said I don't feel comfortable, he didn't say anything. But my father is very stubborn and set in his ways. My parents live very close to us, so there is a big chance that there will be problems but I don't want that to stand in the way of us having kids. If he feels so strong about that ....what else will come up (maybe even in front of the kids)? Has anyone else been in this situation and overcome it? It really bothers me and I could use some peace of mind.<br><br><br><br>
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