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I've lived in the same house for 11 years and I've taken care of myself. Not for anybody elses edification but my own. Sure I don't mind the fact that people guess my age at 30 instead of 48 but that's just the icing on the cake so to speak. I guess a sub reason could be that my dad is and was a glutton and would eat anything edible he saw my whole life.<br><br>
I work out almost 3 hours a day and have a body fat percentage of less than 11. I eat only vegan foods and make sure that any protein I take in is pure.<br><br>
The problem I have started three weeks ago. The neighbors, who I've known for a long time, went on a trip to Europe and left their 19 year old daughter behind. Now keep in mind I've known this girl since she was 9 or 10.<br><br>
The first Monday after they left I walked out to get into my car to go to work and noticed that her hood was up and she was sitting in the drivers seat wearing what young girls wear these days (short shorts and revealing tops) but, at the time, I didn't even notice it. Looking back I can kind of see where this was heading.<br><br>
Turned out that she was trying to start the car while it was in 'drive' so a simple change of gears and she was on her way.<br><br>
When I got home that afternoon she was sitting by the pool chatting with my son and immediately got up and came to hug me letting her robe slip open and showing me an extremely revealing swimsuit. I gave her a hug and went back to my office to look at my finances and pay bills but my little light came on and I started to wonder.<br><br>
Later that night I asked my son if there was something going on between him and her and he said 'nope... she came over in her robe and, while I was hoping, she never made move one'.<br><br>
Ummmmm.......<br><br>
Since then it's been pretty much hard core flirting on her side and me being as nice and friendly as I can without sending out mixed signals but I dread her parents coming back as much as I like them or rejecting her outright and potentially dealing with her making something up that didn't happen.<br><br>
I'm in a box here. Anybody got any advice that can help me?
 

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I don't quite understand what you're getting at. Are you saying that she's flirting with you?
 

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I'd say just to avoid her and be a bit less friendly- rejecting her outright could perhaps cause her to lash back against you, and of course, though I don't think you're considering it, don't accept her advances.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>dormouse</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2945443"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
No more hugs. Pretend to be dense and not notice. If you must, don't be that nice to her. Be cold.</div>
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Body language is important. No hugs, avoid too much eye contact, do not engage.
 

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what bothers me of this post is that you open the message with how great you look for your age, how you work out and how yoru body fat is 11 percent, which is all awesome and things to be proud of.<br><br>
but then you start out by saying how your neighbours daughter is putting the moves on you.<br><br>
at first you might have had a bit of ego boost as this young girl is hitting on you and its all innocent but its already gone to far and red lights must be flashing everywhere.<br><br>
you are right to be worried, cause imagine what she would tell her parents, if they had to ask, girls can really blow things out of context esp when they are younger.<br><br>
I would avoid contact and def no personal contact of any kind.<br><br>
This is just a very red zone situation and it would be best for you to rather keep this girl at arms lenght. Think a Hello is probably more then enough.
 

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You're 48 and you don't know how to handle this situation?
 

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Also I just want to add that as a new member with 4 posts on a <span style="text-decoration:underline;">VEG*N</span> forum...this is how you choose to post..I hardly see how this is VEG*N related...at least you could have waited till your post count was higher...just sayin'
 

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Give your son the chance to make a move! It seems he's the one who's actually into her?<br><br>
Maybe she isn't interested in either of you, maybe she is just friendly. Wandering around in a swimming costume or shorts in summer is normal. Doesn't mean she's trying to seduce anyone. Some people are naturally flirtatious.<br><br>
Are you interested in her?
 

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This is the stuff that happens in sex novels.
 

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I think you noticed her in a sexual way. I'm unclear as to whether she has interest in you, but I don't think it's likely. Just saying. It MIGHT be all in your head.
 

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I think you noticed her in a sexual way. I'm unclear as to whether she has interest in you, but I don't think it's likely. Just saying. It MIGHT be all in your head.</div>
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By the way, 'letting her robe fall open' sounds really creepy.</div>
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The whole thing is creepy...a young girl dressing to show off her body doesnt mean that shes coming on to every man in a 3 mile area,especially those having mid life crisis..which Im sorry but that is what this sounds like.
 

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You missed the part where she came over to their place for no reason at all and hugged him.
 

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You missed the part where she came over to their place for no reason at all and hugged him.</div>
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She probably came over to see the son (because she is his friend? Or likes him? Just because she didn't make a move doesn't mean she doesn't like him). Also probably hugging him to say thanks for the help.<br><br>
Of course it's possible she does like him and she is an adult. But unless she actually makes a move or does anything other than be friendly, I'm not sure what the issue is.<br><br>
The whole sentence about the robe falling out to 'show' him her revealing swimsuit suggests he is really assuming a lot. It just sounds like she is comfortable in a swim suit.<br><br>
I know I read a lot into handholding and an extended hug recently, but ya know, different circumstances <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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That would be a situation where I would say don't spend any one alone with the girl so if she does say anything then you have proof.<br><br>
It all sounds odd and creepy from the op.
 

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Ok, another thought on what it could be, if she IS flirting. Sometimes teenage girls flirt with older men because they perceive them as 'harmless'. As in they can practice their flirting skills but expect the older guy to be mature enough to know better and not act on it. It's a little bit mean, but they're teenagers, give em a break. Sometime they are playing because they have a harmless crush and don't expect it to come to anything.<br><br>
From what you've described, it could be anything, but as has been said, unless she makes a move, you may as well assume it's all in your head. Safer that way.
 
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