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Umm, I'm not sure how to phrase this, but I have to confess something because I think I may have been a little stupid. Anyway, I'm mad at myself and need to get it off my chest.<br><br><br><br>
The other day my dad made chicken kebabs and told me the leftovers needed to be eaten in the next day or it would be chucked out. So, I ate them. Now, before you get all mad at me, let me explain my reasoning and situation.<br><br><br><br>
I still eat meat, as it is an agreement with my parents that I have. What they put in front of me I will eat, partly because they freaked the first time I told them and they will still freak when I finally give up meat in a year. I love them and want their support in this, so I'm not running pig headedly into it. Also, they had a point when they said a diet change wouldn't be good for my final big school exams which are on this year, as my body wont fully adjust in 10 seconds. However, I have never picked up meat voluntarily on my own and eaten it since I made the decision. Until the kebabs. That's what has me so freaked, I guess. I feel really guilty. Seeing as I still eat meat, for me it is a large difference between just being given it and asking for it or picking it up myself.<br><br><br><br>
My reasoning went something like: The only thing worse than eating meat is wasting food. Imagine if that poor animal/plant (yes, plant) died so you can chuck it out when it becomes rancid. It becomes a complete waste, and even if it was wrong in killing them I don't want them to die for absoloutley nobody's benifit. I would prefer it died for a reason. Actually, I would prefer it did not die at all. But, if it had to die, at least it wasn't purposeless, senseless murder (in the eyes of omni, that is). So, I would prefer not to let it go to waste. Also, I suppose the whole starving people in other countries played a part. I basically feel I shouldn't waste.<br><br><br><br>
Sorry if that came out jumbled, but it was jumbled in my head too. I'm not sure what I want from confessing this. Maybe confirmation that I was justifie, or that I should be loathing my guts and feeling guilty, or both. Feel free to be harsh, I probabally deserve it. It probabally was a bit of weakness as well (they were good kebabs after all, and I didn't decide to become veggie due to a hate for the taste, far from it), and I'm soo ashamed and disgusted at myself for being weak. It was a mistake, in retrospect.
 

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Well, if you're not sure what you are looking for by posting that you ate chicken, I'm not sure either! But you will get no chastisement or condonement from me either way. I didn't become vegetarian until well into adulthood so I didn't have to deal with parents or anyone else giving me flack for giving up meat. I do know that I did certain things to please my parents, out of love/respect/whatever, perhaps even worse than eating meat. So I can relate to the position that you are in, being a child in your parents home.<br><br>
You say you will be giving up meat in a year...if that is the case, I don't know what the circumstances are exactly, then continue to do the best you can now, until next year. That's about all I can offer! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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You live with other meat eaters, why did it have to be you that ate the kebabs? If faced with that situation in the future perhaps you could offer the meat to a non-veggie friend so that it doesn't go to waste. If you're still eating meat on a regular basis I'm not sure I understand the distinction.
 

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I don't think punishing yourself will do anything to help you in your transition to vegetarianism. All you did was eat something that was going to be discarded anyway... lighten up on yourself and move forward is my advice. Once you are actually calling yourself a vegetarian, then you'll need to hold yourself more accountable for this sort of situation... until then, you are learning and adjusting. Rome wasn't built in a day.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck with your journey... and with your exams.
 

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Since you are still eating some meat (as part of your understanding with your family), I would not see this as a significant departure that you need to justify. Just carry on, continue to reduce your consumption of meat, and remember that one of your tasks right now is to help your family feel comfortable with your making this change.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck!
 

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good luck luv, wish i had had your insight at that age.<br><br><br><br>
having said that, you probably have more power than you think. with well thought out arguments for compassion and pro health on a veg diet, i think you could make the complete transition.
 

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For a little while, I had that reasoning. But if you think about it... would you eat a dog once it died so it wouldn't be wasted? How about a human? Even if you don't use that logic, it's unhealthy for YOU to eat the meat. I don't want you to feel like I'm scolding you or anything. It's ultimately your decision on whether or not you want to eat meat. Just make sure you're educated so you know which is the right way to go for you.
 

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Thanks guys. You are helping me move on, just with these comments. Guess that's what I wanted!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rockon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rockon:"> Thanks for helping me sort myself out.
 

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Nobody here would have the right to be mad at you. Either you're not okay with it, and you stop eating meat; or you are ok with it and you keep eating meat. You're the one who has to live with it either way.
 

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Maybe your parents wouldnt buy a kebab if they knew thered be money wasted cause they know thered be leftovers. rather than thinking "oh thats ok ___ will eat it".<br><br>
to me the waste thing is just a way of omnivores to try to avoid guilt. theres cat food left in the bowl im not going to eat it otherwise its a waste.
 

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Wasting meat is a bigger crime than eating it..all I'm saying.</div>
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I'll go grill up Fido out back, he keeps barking anyway.<br><br><br><br>
But I don't think many people will want to eat him, therefore I will just have to throw him away.<br><br><br><br>
But wasting it is a bigger crime, so I'll get you a fork and some ketchup.<br><br><br><br>
Woof woof!
 

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If you like meat, I don't see anything wrong with that. I've saved meat before that I got for free in circumstances and given it to my father.
 

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Since you are still eating some meat (as part of your understanding with your family), I would not see this as a significant departure that you need to justify. Just carry on, continue to reduce your consumption of meat, and remember that one of your tasks right now is to help your family feel comfortable with your making this change.<br><br><br><br>
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agree..do whats best for you and good luck with whatever you choose.
 
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