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ok im going to sound either psychotic or selfish or both in this thread but neway. ok i recently turned vegetarian like only 3 weeks ago, 2 days ago my friend is like im gonna go vego too. i know this benefits the environment and all that but i dont want her to be a vegeatarian. i like being the health person in my friends and i know its not the ethical reasoning behind it thats motivating her its because she wants to be 'healthier' meaning she wants to lose weight. Having said that thats basically y i wanted to be a vego but i agree with the ethical reasoning too. neway now its like we're in compettion who can lose the most weight? so far ive been the xtreme and the stupid but shes following and i dont want her too. shes already pretty thin and if she loses too much weight shell be underweight pretty quickly which is different to me. neway how i can istop this competitiveness? or how can i win the competition? and dont just say its not a compettion cos it is, and if i start losing i dont wanna go back to some o my more extrme methods to lose weight but i will i cnat explain it but i will. ne advice neone?
 

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So basically you're going vegetarian because you want to look good? And you don't want your friend to go vegetarian because she might steal some of your thunder? My advice would be to stop being so selfish. You do know vegetarians can be fat, too, right?
 

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even though Kiz is in the teen forum :)P) I kinda just want to quote what she said because she's absoloutely right. Especially if you are worried about your friend's health, it's selfish for you to lead her into this. My only advice is to go and talk to her and apologise for making it seem like a competition, stress that it's not at all, and STOP COMPARING WEIGHTS. If you don't know how much she weighs and she doesn't know how much you weigh, there's no competition.
 

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ok i get where ur comign form i know im selfish but ok i didnt really wanna go into this but neway im like obsessed with my weight i have been for a while and its gotten out of hand. vegetarianism is what i latched onto to get a hold of myself without hurting myself nemore. but i havent "led" her into nething and we dont compare weights or nething i neva eva tell ppl my weight i am wayyy too self concious its just likt if i lose weight so does she and if she does i have to lose more and the more this goes on the easier itll be to get back into my old habits kinda thing. and i knwo my other friends have started getting into it too not vegetarianism but like i hardly eva eat in public and neva at school and yeh i know its not helathy but whateva i cant help it and i dont really care about hurting myself but with the competition other ppl r gonna get hurt too and when i say competition i dont mean it literally we dont like compare or nething its just liek a silent thing if that makes sense, i fone person loses weight so doe sth next person cos no one wants to look like the fat one in their friends. hasnt neone been in a situation of competitive dieting? i thought it was common lol maybe not.
 

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how do you know who is losing wieght if you don't compare? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thinking.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":think:"><br><br>
anyhow, I think you should forget about how to end or win the competition, stop analysing what your friends are doing so much, and get some help with this problem you have of caring so much about your weight. You might want to check out <a href="http://www.veggieboards.com/boards/showthread.php?t=35015" target="_blank">the ED support thread</a><br><br><br><br>
I'm worried that you 'don't really care about hurting yourself'. Everyone should worry about that. Do your friends know how extreme your 'diet' is getting?
 

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its gotten pretty extreme i purge pretty regularly i guess and i get so sick of it but i dont know what else to do which is y i went veg and yeh thats some of the things my friends have been copying but i knwo how cr*p it can make your life an di dont really want it to rule them like it does me and we dont compare but its more i dont eat so she doenst eat kind thign if u get my drift. yeh lol but maybe i am reading too much ingto it it wouldnnt b the first time im just worried about ppl.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> I have an idea, but you might not like it!!<br><br><br><br>
I think the best thing for you to do would be to try and set a good example for your friend/s. Instead of trying to lose more weight, why not try to eat more healthier instead? TELL your friend abiut your decision to stop starving and eat healthier and TELL her how much of a living hell having an ED is. Tell her that when you diet [i.e. starve yourself] the way that she wants to, it is all too easy to slide into an ED even if you are not concious of it. Both of you need to stop thinking that life will be perfect if only you were thinner.<br><br>
If you care about your friend then you will get help yourself so you can set a good example and stop her from following you down the ED path.<br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> again.<br><br>
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lol yeh ur right raddish i dont realy like that idea but it does make sense. i dunno if i have an ed cos its not like ive lost much weight really so i dunno how u get classed as having one or nethgin and i dont talk to ppl about it but yeg, umm. well i watched the meet your meat vid and showed it to my friendss and yeh now im like happy for ppl to be vego cos i see how it benefits the earth and stuff but ummm yeh i dunno im not gonna get 'help'<br><br>
i dont think i really need it like i can stop if i really want i think and i just have to do that. yeh i dont really kn0w what to say thnx for the help everyone! lol everything will work out in the end i guess it always does.
 

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i'm happy you watched the video and now appreciate vegetarianism!<br><br>
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<3 ..i can relate to you, i've had disordered eating for years now and it's finally at a more manageable point, but i still don't feel sick because i was never that thin! lower range of BMI, sure, but never underweight or skinny.. just normal i guess. i don't know. but if you purge regularly, that's bad bad bad! i'm trying really hard not to be a hypocrite or scold you but if you do that you need help. my mom has me going to 3 doctors right now (therapist, family therapist, nutritionist) regardless if i am "sick" or not. i really think going veg can teach you to love your body and what you put into it. veganism definitely helped my "recovery" more than anything, so best wishes.
 

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thanks ur so sweet lol. i know its bad but i dunno i think ud appreciate that its not the easiest thing to tell ppl about and yeh i just really hate doctors and hospitals omg they jsut freak me out lol. but yeh veg'nism is liek me trying to be healthier so hopefully ill benefit form it and yeh improve my total health liek mentally or whateva too.
 
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