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Hi guys. I did look for a similar thread, but couldn't find any. Sorry if there is one I missed, but I need some advice.<br><br>
Basically, my family (and partners family) are all omnis. I haven't told anyone that I'm vegan yet, but I'm visiting my sister tomorrow. I'll will be taking soya milk with me for tea and she'll want to know why I'm drinking it. I anticipate a lot of questions, such as why. When I turned vegetarian she was really pushing for why and gave me a bit of a hard time. I think maybe she thought I was judging her?<br><br>
I don't know how to approach this and I would really appreciate any input. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I have no idea, since you don't tell us why you're vegan!<br><br>
A simple "i don't eat animal products" is all I have. I doubt you go around questioning why people eat what they eat.<br>
How about "I found it's better"?
 

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Animal rights, environment, personal health, world hunger, spirituality. Pick one (or all). If you need to elaborate on any of these and need tips as to how to do that, let us know. Maybe reassure her that it's your personal choice and you're not out to get her because she's having cow's milk with her tea.
 

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You were already vegetarian?<br>
I'm willing to bet that going from omni to vegetarian was WAY worse in terms of your family than just moving from vegetarian to vegan.<br><br>
Are they pretty accepting of your vegetarianism?<br><br>
If asked why you're not consuming (insert milk product here), just say "Oh, I've also dropped dairy and egg from my diet." Then move right back to whatever else you were just chatting about. There's really no need to even bring up veganism for a while. Just... A vegetarian like you have been, that also avoids dairy and egg.
 

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Thanks guys, sorry I was so vague.<br><br>
The main reason is animal rights, but I think health does have a part to play. She thinks I don't eat properly, that I am starving myself (I'm not even thin!) I know she's only concerned about me, but this is something I feel really strongly about and want everyone else to accept. So I need to go about this the right way. Any suggestions?
 

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You were already vegetarian?<br>
I'm willing to bet that going from omni to vegetarian was WAY worse in terms of your family than just moving from vegetarian to vegan.<br><br>
Are they pretty accepting of your vegetarianism?<br><br>
If asked why you're not consuming (insert milk product here), just say "Oh, I've also dropped dairy and egg from my diet." Then move right back to whatever else you were just chatting about. There's really no need to even bring up veganism for a while. Just... A vegetarian like you have been, that also avoids dairy and egg.</div>
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That wasn't my experience! When I went vegetarian, still eating some cheese, and ingrediants, people were impressed, even encouraging for the most part. When I said I wasn't eating any more dairy nor egg-they thought I was crazy! Complete turnaround, they seemed to think dairy and eggs were what was keeping people alive!<br><br>
Get the facts on what the experts already know. It amazes me that we're constintly told (not directly, of course) that a (healthy) vegan diet is the ideal, but they financially can't say "vegan", just "lean and lo-fat".<br>
Be informed, my reading list is:<br>
John Robbins (heir to Baskin and Robbins)<br>
Dr. Neal Barnard (pcrm.org)<br>
Dr. Caldwell Esselstyn<br>
Dr. Ornish<br>
Kris Carr (cancer survivor)<br>
But really, what Hazelnut said, don't let it be an issue, unless it has to, then use your arsenal!
 

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I find that a simple statement like, "I don't want to contribute to the suffering of animals." works just fine.
 

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I wish you the best of luck.<br><br>
My best advice is to try, as much as possible, to act like its not a big deal.
 

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ok, you've been given all of the safe answers, now how about just waiting for the questions, and jumping into a full fledged conversation. I've honestly never not wanted to talk about it, so I can't really relate with the "how do I talk about it" subject. Of course I would encourage you to not be accusatory, or the holier than thou attitude, but be open and willing to discuss all of the benefits from health, to the animals, to AR....that may be a little heavy for the first conversation, but talking about the super health benefits is really pretty safe!<br><br>
You can wait till it comes up, but be prepared,and if you need answers, ask the questions you think you're going to be hit up with. You can also talk about how unhealthy the Western diet is, in relation to the high rates of heart disease, diabetes, and cancer.<br><br>
Good luck~
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>silva</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2874718"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
That wasn't my experience! When I went vegetarian, still eating some cheese, and ingrediants, people were impressed, even encouraging for the most part. When I said I wasn't eating any more dairy nor egg-they thought I was crazy! Complete turnaround, they seemed to think dairy and eggs were what was keeping people alive!</div>
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Me too. People in my life have definitely been less accepting of veganism than they were of my vegetarianism. I think it's because most people don't understand the ethics behind veganism.<br><br>
Just wait for her questions and take them as they come. Be polite, but don't waver in your commitment.
 

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I didn't tell any of my family outright. I just started to avoid non-vegan products in front of them without making a big deal; started taking my coffee black, stopped eating chocolate when it was offered, and so on. It's been two months and people have only just started to notice. My dad realised when I was really specific in a food order when he took me out to dinner, my mum noticed when I refused some chocolate from her ("but it's vegetarian!" "I don't eat dairy any more"). If you think people will be unsupportive, then don't make a big deal. You'd be surprised how little people pay attention to what you're eating when you don't talk about it.<br><br>
Case in point, my mum was unsupportive. She said I could never keep it up and it wasn't healthy, etc etc. I was then able to turn around and tell her I'd been eating this way for two months and I was fine. That stopped her in her tracks.
 

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I think that the whole deal with people feeling threatened and attacked by vegetarians simply because they are vegetarians is ridiculous.<br>
If someone chooses to not eat certain things they should be nothing but respectful. That's pretty basic; respect. If they can't show you that, then you go somewhere else, where you get shown respect.<br><br>
I usually give short answers in these situations. Most people really don't give a crap about what others eat anyway.
 

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i would be just telling her that i don't want it, and then ask her why she doesn't eat the foods that she doesn't like
 

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Bring up the environment. I don't know, people often lay off me when I tell them that by being vegan, I can technically afford to go everywhere by car and still have a lower carbon footprint than the average omni. Saving energy and CO2 is in right now, make use of that.<br><br>
And don't bring it up. Discuss it politely, nicely, but don't let people give you ****. Be calm and firm, whatever you say. And if they try to argue, don't get into a fight. You're above having to justify yourself.<br><br>
You can do it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:">
 

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Well here I was worrying about it, and the minute we got through the door my other half announced that I'm not eating dairy or eggs. The word vegan wasn't mentioned, but she's not stupid. She asked me a few questions, but I expect I'll get more of a grilling when we're alone.<br><br>
Thank you for all your comments, maybe I am making it a bigger deal than it is- I tend to do that. I'm not so concerned about telling my parents (though I haven't yet), it's more my partners parents and my brother and sister. But you're right, if I don't make it into a big thing, I'm sure they won't either.<br><br>
It's out there now, so I feel a bit relieved. I just have to show them that I am eating well and not to be in anyone's face about it. I can do that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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Make sure to always have something yummy along. I used to bring vegan cake to class all the time so people would shut up about me not being able to eat anything. Plus, they got cake too, so that's sympathy points right there.
 

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You know your reasons better than anyone else. Just be honest?
 

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Hi guys. I did look for a similar thread, but couldn't find any. Sorry if there is one I missed, but I need some advice.<br><br>
Basically, my family (and partners family) are all omnis. I haven't told anyone that I'm vegan yet, but I'm visiting my sister tomorrow. I'll will be taking soya milk with me for tea and she'll want to know why I'm drinking it. I anticipate a lot of questions, such as why. When I turned vegetarian she was really pushing for why and gave me a bit of a hard time. I think maybe she thought I was judging her?<br><br>
I don't know how to approach this and I would really appreciate any input. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"></div>
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Tell all your family and other acquaintences that you're vegan because you're a total elitist. I've never tried this, but it seems that no matter what vegans say people argue against it. So this might be worth a try ;-)
 
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