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I've just signed up on veggieboards but I've lurked here from time to time.<br><br><br><br>
I've been living in the US for almost a year now and I'm still having a hard time adjusting. A huge part of that is because of my diet. In my home country, I was mainly friends with the people I grew up with and they accepted me the way I am. My diet was never an issue for them, apart from the occasional ignorant question.<br><br><br><br>
Now that I'm living in America (the south), it's becoming increasingly difficult to meet accepting people. I never mention my diet, but if I have to eat with someone or people ask me about food, I'll tell them I'm a vegan. I have no shame, nor do I push my beliefs on anyone. After I tell them this, I get looked at like I have the plague. I get the same questions and comments OVER AND OVER again:<br><br><br><br>
"What do you eat then?"<br><br>
"Where do you get your protein/iron/b12?"<br><br>
"You do know that humans are supposed to eat meat, right?"<br><br>
"You do know that God put animals on this planet for us to eat?"<br><br>
"See these canines *opens mouth*? These have evolved for us to eat meat"<br><br>
"You will get Osteoperosis if you don't drink milk"<br><br>
"I didn't climb my way to the top of the foodchain to eat like a rabbit"<br><br><br><br>
I'm sure you all get the same thing. I've come to the point where I won't even bother trying to make friends because food is such an enormous (pun!) part of American life. I've met one other vegetarian here, but he had a problem with the whole foreigner thing. I want to move to another part of the country and I will probably do that within the next few months because I want to transfer to another college. I just wanted to let off some steam because I've been holding it in for a while.<br><br><br><br>
Thanks for reading.
 

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Sorry to hear that. I live in Idaho, and I hear that here as well. I have been vegan for just over 3 years and for the first 2 years 9 months I didn't know any other veg*ns, other than my wife. Recently I we met a number of veg*ns and people I now hang around with are also more accepting.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck to you.
 

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Sorry to read about the difficulties you are experiencing here in the U.S.<br><br><br><br>
Yes, food is a big part of American life and yes some people to tend to ask silly questions when confronted with something that is out of the ordinary. If you are not comfortable discussing your ethical beliefs with people you meet then try to steer the conversation to another topic when being vegan comes up. The other option is not to mention your diet at all.<br><br><br><br>
The title of your thread reads "burnt out vegan". Are you burned out on being vegan or just frustrated at the difficulties?<br><br><br><br>
Please remember why you became a vegan and focus on the good that you are doing for your health, animals, and the environment. Meeting other like minded people can be difficult here in the South (I am in Texas). Where in the South are you?<br><br><br><br>
Maybe you will meet some people here.<br><br><br><br>
Good Luck
 

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Countmeveggie,<br><br><br><br>
I usually try to stear clear of mentioning it, but I'm not going to lie if someone asks me. I'm definitely not burnt out from being a vegan. I've been vege since I was 8 and I will probably be one for life. The idea of eating animals used to make me cry because I thought it was cruel and disgusting. I had pets that contributed to this train of thought. It wasn't until I was older (14) that I understood the surrounding issues and then I became a vegan. I feel great about it. Unfortunately, not everyone else does. I'm coping but I'm very tired of it all.<br><br><br><br>
I'm living in Virginia.
 

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I get those comments from my own husband <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sick.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":sick:"> I think that's worse than strangers most of the time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsdown.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":down:"> It's very frustrating that people won't even listen or think about our point of view, I don't expect my husband to change, nor anyone else for that matter, I'd LIKE them to but I don't expect it, I respect that they're doing what makes them happy, I just wish they'd give me the same in return <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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Different parts of the US are definitely more or less accomodating to veg*ns, both in resources and attitudes. I moved from outside of NYC to upstate NY almost 2 yrs ago, and the difference is huge in terms of resources and options for dining out. I could eat out just about anywhere back home. People are still respectful of my diet though.<br><br><br><br>
You mentioned you're in college -- is there an AR or veg*n group on campus you could join? Or maybe start one? There must be other veg*ns around to help support you!!
 

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Heh. I seem to be following Rabid Child around tonight, answering all the same threads right after she does. I'm not trying to stalk you. I swear!<br><br><br><br>
Passionberry, as RC said, you may want to look into vegetarian or animal rights groups on your campus. Also, try doing a google search for the name of the town you're in and the word vegetarian, just to see if you can find any local clubs, restaurants, etc. Also, try meetup.com to look for veggie groups. I found two local groups there, and they led me to web sites with listings of restaurants, as well as having a discussion of which supermarkets are the best for veg*ns.<br><br><br><br>
If you are transferring to another college, just remember that you're more likely to find vegetarian restaurants, organizations, etc in bigger cities than small towns, just like what Rabid Child mentioned. When you're looking into what schools to transfer to, you may even want to ask here on the forums to see if anyone knows how veg friendly certain towns are.<br><br><br><br>
--Fromper<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/juggle.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":juggle:">
 

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I'm sorry to hear that you're having a rough time in the states. Are you in Northern or Southern Virginia? That can make a HUGE difference (as they are like different states entirely). I lived in Northern VA for about 5 years and my bf went to school at VCU in Richmond (Southern VA) so I know how close-minded some people can be in both places.<br><br><br><br>
If you are in college, then there's a large chance that there are a bunch of other veg*ns on campus as well. And I don't know if you have, but if you find the local health/natural food stores in your area they might have bulletins with meetup groups for veg*ns or even veg*n employees that you can become friendly with.<br><br><br><br>
Just know that you are not alone in feeling so, well, alone in being veg*n. I am sure being new to the country as well only adds to it. But if anything, you can come here and we will support you!!!
 

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It's not like that everywhere, but it's not uncommon. Maybe carry around leaflets and hand those out instead of answering the same questions over and over again. That way your conversations can lead to more in-depth scrutiny of <i>their</i> choices instead of yours.
 
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